23 and doing nothing with my life?
awww hun it sounds like you're at a really depressing point in your life..honestly i've been there & i know this is gonna sound lame but HAVE HOPE!!! you are ONLY 23, you have a looong time left. get out there, make something of yourself! i would really recommend going back to college or university but you really don't have to if you don't want to. about your weight, it isn't like EXTREMELY bad- i would hit the gym. trust me at first you'll be tired but then you'll learn to love it. in less than a year you'll be in amazing shape. you really should either go to school (find something you're interested in learning about) or get a job. for example i'm only 19 but i have a job at a clothing store part time- QUITE easy to get & its only minimum wage but i get by (with some help from the parents lol). just start small & work your way up. you just need to find something that gets the juices flowing in your body LOOOL you know makes you excited. also once you have a job you'll have a new place to socialize with new people. you'll also have money to go out clubbing or whatever and meet girls. just get your life together, you gotta put in a lot of effort at first (you might not see results as fast as you like but do not give up!!!), a couple months later you'll realize WOW things are really looking much better. trust me, been there, done that! good luck!
I am 23, and I still don't know what to do in life. I’m a well paid software engineer, but I don’t like coding. I try to avoid as much work as I can because I can’t/don’t want to code. I am aimless and don’t have any passion. What do I do?
Last evening I had a meet with my college friends. We four are close to each other. We are most daunting critics of each others personal life and as well as professional. It has helped us to review, retrospect and reconstruct our lives.After a few pitchers of beer and delightful talks about our crushes, T.V shows and other random stuff, the moment the buzz of beer hit us, talks became philosophical.We all are 23, one is a C.A the other two will soon become C.A’s and me being an aspiring civil servant, we had our own inputs and views on what our ultimate passion is and why and what are we really doing in our lives and trying to reach the gospel question, FOR WHAT?One of them happen to share this real incident.There was this women, she was 28, who had passion for music, but she was a coder in a top IT MNC. She felt that somehow she wanted to pursue her music career and decided to give up her job. She was earning hefty pay cheques, but still gave her career for passion in music.After struggling for six to seven years, she realised that music although was something that gave her happiness but earning bread became difficult for her. She accepted that music was a real struggle for her and she couldn’t make it long. She decided to switch back to her corporate world.When she entered it, she realised that she had lost that touch of being a pro-coder. Those seven years brought a drastic change in attitude of the organisation, people at work, peers, competitors and obviously to her pay scale. She couldn’t fit in.She was nowhere now.So the point which I want you to understand is that, pursue your passion only when you have a permanent financial source. If you are stuck up in a job, give one hour to discover what you like. Explore yourself.It will take time to find out what you really want, may be months or years. But don’t just leave your Job just because you have interest or pseudo passion for something. Stick to it, and when you realise that this is something you want to do long term, pursue it with your full heart when you master that skill or arena.Almost everyone out there don’t know what they really want in life, so you are no exception.Just breathe in. Focus on more creative, full of life things and don’t stress yourself by pondering this question that you are in the wrong place.When you get an opportunity, master it and then take a leap!
I am 23 years old. My life is going no where. What to do?
Thanks for the A2A.Currently you are confused. That’s what I can comprehend on the basis of the description you have posted.Its not that you don’t know where your life is going it is just that you are unable to accept it. You are unable to accept that you are currently going down. That nothing is going right in your life. Just take a deep breath clean up the thoughts and read further…Take a break : Go out on a short trip to a place where you wish to. Relax to the ultimatum before coming back. Make this trip a solo one. You will feel refreshed.Smile : Even though it will not solve your problem but will definitely help you face it in a positive way.Meditate : Sit down in a park on the grass bare feet. Listen to nature. Listen to your heart. Focus on the sounds and live in the moment.Read : Do not read stories of success. Read stories of failure. You will have a better insight of life. You will know that Failure is not as bad as it seems.I would recommend Elon Musk. You will cry after reading what all he had gone through.Keep Grinding: Stop wasting time cause eventually Time will start wasting you. In your break time remove that book and start studying. You don’t have much time.Schedule: Manage your day well. After you wake up and freshen up, prepare a great time table. Even though you will feel that the day may not go as per the schedule, but you WILL be able to squeeze out the most from your hectic day.B + : This is very essential. Keep a positive outlook on life. Know that it will all be FINE soon. “ THE DOTS WILL CONNECT” - Steve Jobs.Be Grateful : When instead of looking at the bad aspects of life like lack of time and lack of money you look upon to life as a mere GIFT that you have , the Knowledge that you posses, Your family and that all your basic needs are being fulfilled, that you have the opportunity, YOU will be HAPPY.The Final ONE!Thank you for reading, Hope this helped.Follow for more.Image source : Google
23 and feel stuck in life?
I was in your same situation when I was 23. Exact same. I mean down to the tee, overprotective parent who wouldn't let me do anything I truly wanted to do, a job that pays crappy and like you I suffered through it, but I tried to stay positive everyday, yet I became depressed about living the way I did. When it came down to it, my mom became a complete ***** towards me because I was out partying a lot and she did not like it. She hated me and told me to get out of her house. So I did. I moved out, and haven't been back since. I've become friends with my roommates and now am focusing on my own life goals. I think it would be in your best interest to get out of your parents house. Get out and be free from that nonsense. You're 23. You're too old to have a curfew at all. Best thing I found was to try to take as many hours as you can at your job and ask around to cover shifts for others so you become a person they rely on so they won't cut your hours. Even explain to them that you're moving out and you need the extra money. Just keep repeating that to people and make it seem as if it is your goal to get moved out. It would also be a good idea to start looking for a new job. Search aggressively. Instead of being depressed about your situation, be a bit angry. Show some emotion that will get people's attention. Go after what you want. Building a life is a step by step process. Step 1: Get out on your own.
I am 23 years old and I feel like I don't know how to live life. Is this normal?
The first thing to say is that you are not alone in that. I had the same feeling when I was your age and I know many other people do. Really, step back and look at it from the perspective of what you enjoy. Standing around in a smoky pub with loud music in the background trying to have an interesting conversation and finding that you have to yell to be heard? Not really so great. While I'm sure some people really do enjoy that stuff, to me, it has a little smell of desperation about it.That said, your post betrays something you might work on. It feels like you may be living to meet the expectations of others and not to find and be your own best self. I'd spend some time looking into your motivations for doing what you do and reflect on who you are and what your values are. Maybe you're focused on pleasing your parents. Maybe something else. My belief is that if you can find and shape your own values, then act on them, you'll discover yourself living a more satisfying and satisfied life.Notice when you feel a glimmer of excitement about something. Think of that as the flicker of a flame that you want to fan. Who knows what you'll end up doing and feeling passion about? Perhaps literature, perhaps toastmasters, perhaps a robotics club, perhaps helping others in a homeless shelter.Now be sure to give yourself permission to pursue these things. If there's a voice telling you that you have to be doing something else, listen to it critically. Is it right? If so, why - to what end? Is the cost of listening to that voice worth the benefit you receive? Don't lose perspective about your life, being happy is more important than being wealthy.
I'm 23 feel like my life is over. Any advice?
Have you ever felt that you're totally useless and everyday life is pointless, i feel like that occasionally. Like when i see girls i went to school with and they have amazing careers and lead really exciting lives i get frustrated with my own shortcomings and feel like giving up, i want to get my degree but i feel like in too old and the time for that was when i was 18 or 19. I just need advice.