Do you think my friend is self-harming for attention?
Well my friend recently started cutting herself, she said she has life problems but I don't know, she told me she wanted people to know what's she's going through so she's going to show them to people...is this attention seeking? I just really need opinions, I've self-harmed lots of times and honestly I really felt self-conscious about it and just wanted to hide it. Do you think she's attention seeking...opinions please?
My friend saw my self harm cuts ,help?
Pleasedont talk to me abt the dangers of self harm or say people who do it only do it for attention cuz thts not true. She only saw my cuts today because i had to take my sweater off in pe since it was so hot, but anyway i got carless and she saw them in the locker room after pe. I tried to avoid her questions becuz i didnt kno what to say to her... but she followed me to the next class and the guy who always flirts w/ me heard her trying to ask me about them. He told me abt his old problems( he used to cut) and said we were 'emo' buddies . Calm downn he was kidding. But anyway i was okay talking to him abt it since he knows the feeling ( he did most of the talkin tho) I know shes goin to bring it up next time i see her & shes just trying to understand but i really dont know what to say to her. She wont understand. the thing is i only just started cutting again . I stopped for like the whole year becuz this year was going so great but im not ready to talk to her abt ANY of this becuz no ones the real reason so what do i say to her when she brings it up?
Have you ever seen self-harm scars on someone?
If so how did it make you feel? Or what did you think? I was at the media center and I waited for my sister(our class was checking out books). She came and sat next to me and knew this guy sitting by himself. We decided to sit with him. My sister told me about him before. He is new to the school.He said he had lunch but had homework to do. Anyways as they are talking; I notice a cut by his upper arm. He had a short sleeve shirt but the length was long enough to cover up the strange marking. I don't have him in any of my classes, but I wonder it it was from self-harm. I've gone through it, and I felt bad if he was doing it as well. Well anyways have you ever seen someone with self-harm scars?
Self Harm- Am I An Attention Whore?
I'm a cutter. I self harm for emotional reasons/ as a release. I usually hide my scars under bracelets and long sleeves but whenever I see my psychiatrist, I take the bracelets off before I go in. It's like I need him to see them. But just him. I don't like it when other people see them and I actually hate my scars. Why do you think I feel like I need to get his attention with them? (he knows I SI and the reasons behind it, but it's weird that I feel safe exposing my cuts to him)
How do men feel about women with self-harm scars on forearms, wrists, or thighs? Is it a turn-off?
Self-harm meaning the gal hurt herself on purpose? We're not talking about cosmetic piercings, etc., right? And we're not talking about some kind of religious ecstasy ride, yes? The person doing this was doing it in a truly negative state of mind, where there was actual intent to damage and perhaps debilitate oneself? I don't care if it's a man or a woman. I see this with great sadness. I can't imagine what could happen that would make this seem like a preferred state of affairs.If we're talking about sexual/romantic attraction, my first question is whether the woman is still in the state of mind that she was in when she did these things to herself. If so, there are far bigger issues going on than sexual attraction. My relationship with such a person would be either hands off because there was nothing I could do to help her, or if I was willing to go the distance with her, I could see myself being a friend. No way would I in a deeper relationship with her till her head got screwed back on straight.This goes beyond sex/romance. This is about people in general who get self-destructive. If the person is still truly self-destructive, there is a threshold question: are you willing/able to go the distance with him or her? If so, then there's the next question. Do you want to do so. If the answer to either of these questions is no, then steer clear. You'll do more harm than good if you don't.
What do you think when you see self harm scars?
I am proud of you asking such a question. I will be completely honest with you regardless of what others think of me to. i also have gone threw he same humiliation you speak of. i started cutting at an early age and have cuts on both hands and one wrist that could be measured at 2-5 inches at half inch wide. i have half a sock on my wrist ( i always wear long sleves) the sock is cut at the point were it looks like a shirt. my cut is very deep and i cant feel my pinkie anymore. but rest assured my crazy friend, look into getting tattoos to hide it. i am currently thinking of getting the word REGRET in latin were no one would understand it unless they ask. and my answer would be "regret, that i dont have enough time to do all he things i want to do in this short life"....they wouldn't even notice the scars because its a mind f)uck i also thought of breaking up the letters in one word per nationality like one letter in russian, one letter in chinese, one letter in .... ps: just dont do it again, or else you will need alot of tattoo ink to cover it all up :)
What do you do if you see self-inflicted scars on someone?
First off, it’s thoughtful of you to ask this question. Thank you for viewing a self harmer as a human being with an issue, and wondering what is best for them. Too many people just go “Ewww no” and walk away.A lot of people who self harm don’t know how to explain why they do it, or are ashamed of their reason for it. They’re also often embarrassed about the scars, so asking direct questions is not the best idea unless the person has already told you about them.If they’re old scars, it’s very possible that the person won’t want to talk about them and no longer needs help with the issue either. In that case I would just treat them like any other person with any sort of scars: pay no mind to them at all.If some of the wounds are fresh, and this is someone you know well, I think it’s wise to say something. It’s almost always indicative of some sort of emotional struggle going on. But even then, asking directly about the marks is probably not the way to go. Most of us are so routinely misjudged for our self harm that we get defensive when it’s brought up.So here’s what I would do: Be a friend. Ask them how they’re doing. Tell them you’re available to talk to. Make it clear that you’re there for them if they need you. That way, you can support them with whatever might be going on. The self harm is rarely the only problem, it’s usually a symptom of something bigger. As long as that bigger issue is still going on, they will likely not want to quit (nor is it always wise for them to quit). So if the subject of their self harm does come up, make sure you’re nice about that too. Do your best not to say words like “gross” or “wrong”. Trust me, they already know it’s not pretty.
How will people react to my self harm scars?
I have an 18 yr. history in psych nursing, and I can emphatically state that anyone that judges you on what and where you were, versus what and where you are now (which sounds healthy-I hope and pray all is well) is no friend at all anyway. "You never lose a friend...you just find out who they are." My best friends were all very glad to see me back when I decided to wander off the path of life, and they know that but by the grace of God, "there go I." So just be yourself and live in the light of what is to be. The cream really does rise to the top.