What to do when an old friend wants to be friends again?
well my old friend used me, was mean to me, but she was also the best friend you could ever have at times, she was a little like alison dilaurentis from pretty little liars (if youve ever watched it). well anyway, we havent talked in months and she just came home from her holiday in croatia and shes all like ive bought you a prezzie (on facebook) and shes talking to me like nothing happened, and today i heard a knock on the door, but i couldnt be bothered to answer it and she told me she called over but nobody was in. im not on of those people that can just go oh i hate you go away because i dont like saying stuff like that. help please because ever since we broke up, ive felt more happy and ive made more friends. i dont want a massive argument i just want her to not want to be friends with me.
An old friend wants to be friends again but I don't. What should I do?
This happened to me. I was the old friend who wanted to be best friends again with an ex-bestfriend with whom I had a fall out. She was never interested to resume our close friendship (we bonded over video games, magazines, drawing). She just ignored my pleas and kept civil. Years later, whenever we the chance to meet because of class reunions, she is VERY different from the person whom I was close to. Then again, I am also very different from the person who she was close to, and who wanted to be friends with her. Both of us changed. You don't want to be friends, or built deep connections? It's simple. You limit communication. It' s simple, yet effective. It also has a 50% probability of working, depending on the nature of the person.
Rekindle an old friendship that ended badly?
My best friend and I ended in bad terms when we tried to talk about things that ended our friendship. We stopped talking when we graduated and a year later she texted me and we ended up just bickering about how I had to move on, that we had new friends and so on. It's been another year, so three years in total since I've seen or really talked to her, and about two months ago she texted me again but this time it was really sincere and nice. She apologized for being a bad friend and I did too but I can't help but feel that it was meant for us to work something out. We never got closure and although my goal here isn't exactly to be friends again, I do want to talk to her and my question is if it's worth it to try and contact her sometime soon. We were inseparable when we were friends, we considered each other sisters. I just don't know if I should just say hello or whatever. When she texted me we talked for a bit but it went nowhere because I think we were both still scared to say anything. I don't want to fight with her and I do miss her but I'm also scared that she won't even reply if I try. It's been on my mind all day and I don't know why. I was over everything but when she contacted me it all seemed to rush back to me. What should I do?
How do I start talking to a friend who stopped talking to me months ago? I really miss him.
A2A.I've been in this situation. I can narrate you my story, I hope it helps:He was my best friend. I'd done something in good faith, but it ricocheted. And he stopped talking to me. Completely.I missed him, terribly. And, moreover I was at fault. I felt miserable. My calls went unnoticed, texts went unanswered. I kept calling, but in vain. And, I hadn't faced such rejection from anyone, ever! Like a true Taurean, I didn't give up. But I'm a tough nut to crack. I was determined atleast, to make my apology heard. Eventually, I got tired. I thought it was better to give him the space he required, and wait for his decision. I stopped calling, eventhough I missed talking to him. After a long span of two and a half months, he called back. I'd never felt such strong emotions. The eternal feeling of being forgiven; it was blissful. We cleared our misunderstandings. Things got fine, we moved past those stuffs, and we're best of friends even now. Now, coming back to your question, I'd like to say; first find out why did he stop talking to you, what created the rift. If the fault lies within you, try to talk to him. Don't be afraid of facing rejection. Shun your ego, express yourself, and go extra miles to save your friendship. Moreover, give him time, let him get past the ill-feelings. Things will get back to normal. :) Good luck!
Same dream about old friend?
I had a similar thing and dream, and I figured out that even though I was angry with the person over something very, very, big; I'm not the kind of person who is comfortable with fights with people. After a series of dreams where I was all buddies with this person I started to have dreams where I was yelling at this person!! I got to say all the things that I had apparently was really feeling (the anger I almost didn't allow myself to have because I am an understanding and empathetic person and had tried to overlook a lot of this other person's outrageous and mean behavior). After I yelled at her in a few dreams, there was another dream where she was a child who was waiting for me to come do something for her, but I had all kinds of obtacles in my way and couldn't get to her before I awoke from one epic dream. If you were left hurt and confused then its likely you'll have a few dreams that will allow you to process those feelings and get past them. I've found that the most obvious, surface feelings get processed first. Then the next layer down gets processed. Eventually, you go through all the layers until you get to the bottom one. I'm guessing (could be wrong) that you are in the "surface level" where your personality isn't comfortable with having fought with a friend. You may have to put up with this dream a while longer or else there may be more. Just remember them, try to think of what feelings you have in the dream, and eventually they'll stop.
My boyfriend seems to ignore me when he is playing video games and talking to old friends? Theres more10 point?
Well. My boyfriend and I text alot. And he sometimes takes an epic long time to respond. It's usually because he's playing video games or talking to old friends. Sometimes I feel kinda like I dont matter as much to him as his video games and friends. He's told me he is completely in love with me. He has his nights where he's amazing and romantic. Then I get kinda the ignored vibe. And. I have texted him again a few times, starting a topic. And he will then respond. And sometimes I just dont even respond. And I just turn my phone off. I'e given him space, I've tried just about everything. I've tried talking to hi about it, I've thought maybe he isnt interested anymore. But when I do start to think that he gets all romantic and sweet and loving and treats me like I'm the only person in the world. I'm confused, please help. How do I get him to respond faster and even at all? Why does he sometimes act like I'm not as important as his video games and friends? o_e thank you.