Parents pressuring me to have a boyfriend?
Okay I'm 20 I don't get why she pressures me so much I've never a had a boyfriend. And I think she compared to me to her self and my younger sister whom is 16.. Tell her I'm not like her or my sister bc I'm not a flirt or the person who goes to make a move. My mom tells oh when I was your age I had so many guys that like me. And tell her okay mom I'm not you! I'm shy. And my dad sometimes pressuring me to get married and have kids! I've even made a pack with my two bestfriend were aren't having kids till the age 25 well bc ppl we know 18-20 have babies already. We ate to young to being have kids. So how would I handle this ?? I am into this guy and he does too but I don't want to rush things and bring up hopes and finally tell him how I feel but all this pressure from my parents makes me not even do it or even sometimes just say something and rush into a relationship just make my parent shut up and leave me alone.. I'm shy
My boyfriends sister is a little obsessed with him? How do I react? Help?
i understand where your frustration is coming from. And i feel your concerns are warranted. There are a couple of things that could be going on, but before you can get to the bottom of any of it ~ you need to sit down with your boyfriend (alone) and get all of your feelings off of your chest. try to refrain from name calling or aggressive attacking of his sister. no matter how much she's weirding you out or how wrong she may be (in your eyes) ~ at the end of the day, she is still his sister. and he's more likely to feel like he needs to defend or protect her if he feels threatened. it sounds like you really love him. And apparently so does she. Without knowing any of you personally and seeing the interaction, i would assume that the sister may be having abandonment issues with her husband and may be feeling overwhelmed with raising her children. And she has some how projected those feelings of jealousy onto you. You have the 'perfect' man.... and she doesn't. :) So, maybe in her mind she doesn't necessarily want to 'get rid of you' but she thinks if there is less time spent with you there is more time spent with her. Because what she really wants is her own husband to spend time with. if you speak to your boyfriend, and he doesn't seem to notice any issues, or you still feel like their are problems ~ i would talk to the sister. Maybe she doesn't realize how creepy and possessive she sounds. And you bringing it to light is just what she needs to back down. if none of this helps, you may have to think about how important this relationship is? can you live with their odd bond for a lifetime? because in my opinion... if your boyfriend doesn't want to be considerate of your sincere concerns.... maybe he's not as 'perfect' as his sister thinks he is. i wish you the best of luck!
My sister's evil mooching boyfriend!!?
OMG! he's abusing your mom! You said it, your mom is going to do everything possible to keep your sister happy... your sister definately needs therapy... she doesn't need a man to make her happy. That guy will leave her sooner or later and it doesn't matter how much they do for him now to keep him there, he will leave your sister when he's ready. :( pray for your sister and for your mom so they can open their eyes and see the lazy jacka_s_s he really is.
I feel like my boyfriend is pressuring me to have sex. How do I deal with this? I'm 15 and a complete virgin. He'll ask me to come over to his house and ask if he's getting a blowjob. He keeps pushing himself on me; I always tell him to stop.
Original answerYou have communicated your feelings on this matter at least once. And, until you communicate something different, that once is all that is needed.I'm content to be part of the chorus of voices telling you that if you don't maintain your boundaries and respect your own feelings, that this boy – as you've described him – certainly won't. My perspective, though, is also informed by the fact that I now have a five month old daughter, and (as a father) I'm already looking suspiciously at boys. I'd like to think of myself as having been "one of the good ones" during my adolescent years and, whether or not I actually was, I can say with authority that this kid that is supposedly your boyfriend is not "one of the good ones."That doesn't necessarily make him "one of the bad ones" – but I guarantee that any pleasure you get out of sexual activity will be dwarfed by the emotional costs of losing your virginity to this creep.He's not your boyfriend. Boyfriends don't behave like he's behaving. It's appropriate and understandable that he find you attractive...but boyfriends, if they themselves feel ready (which is not a foregone conclusion), wait patiently. The that moment that he didn't take "no" for an answer is the moment that he effectively broke up with you. You should consider yourself free to walk away and find someone who'll treat you better.Quora certainly has plenty of advice on how to deal with Breaking Up.____Update after Anon's follow-up in answer wikiRemember how I said that his interest in sex doesn't necessarily make him "one of the bad ones"? The way he chose to deal with you breaking it off DOES make him one of the bad ones.I strongly suggest that you talk the matter over with your parents, orat the very least a school counselor. Or call a hotline to talk the matter over. What your ex attempted to do absolutely meets the legal threshold for attempted rape.Keeping this quiet will do nothing to serve the next girl that he is likely to pull this bullshit on. Nor him; there is a chance here to keep him from making an even more ginormously awful decision in the future. Whether or not you press charges is it's own matter, but some form of strong intervention needs to occur in this boy's life.Do not ever keep sexual assault a secret. You can call the National Sexual Assault hotline at 1.800.656.HOPE (4673) or find a local center at http://centers.rainn.org/ Get help and guidance and do NOT address this alone.
Should I have a talk with my sister’s boyfriend?
No. You don’t do anything of the sort. This is NOT your relationship you’re talking about.If you have a concern, the most helpful thing to do is to talk to your sister. Try to empower her in the process, give her a way to deal with arseholes instead of disempowering her by making her choices about how to deal, for her.Too many people think they are helping when they just step in and stand up for people -> if you ask her if she’d like you to do or say something, and she says yes, then by all means step in. However, making the assumption that you have permission is a lot more dangerous, it could do untold damage to your relationship with your sister.Why would you risk the integrity of your relationship with your sister just so you can feel like you’re protecting her. She’s an adult, so the respectful thing to do is to approach her, tell her you feel like you need to protect her and stand up for her, but that you want to be respectful, so you’d like to know from her what precisely she would like you to do or say in order to support and protect her. That’s called respect and it’ll strengthen your relationship enormously!!
What do you think of my sister's boyfriend's behavior?
My sister, who is 23, is dating a guy who is 29. They met about 2 yrs ago at work while she lived in California. She moved back to Wisconsin about 1 1/2 yrs ago. They've been in a long distance relationship that mainly consists of many phone calls a day, but they also see each other every few months. He is a really nice guy and is really good to her. Her intentions were to move back to CA, but he just transferred jobs to Philladelphia. So she's moving there in the next few weeks. But recently, he has been different. He picks on her for every little thing to the point of her crying on the phone with him. For example, he didn't realize how much she owed in student loans, so now he is saying he is concerned etc. But it isn't like they are married (or even planning it in her mind). She feels that the relationship is getting so bad that she may not even move. He also has a game plan for if they ever break up! She thinks this is weird. I really like him, but I worry for her. Ideas?
My little sister is pregnant with my ex boyfriend!?
I know exactly what you are going through when i was 22 i was living with my boyfriend and my sister used to come around all the time. I used to be really sus as to what was going on but when i approached either of them, they both said i was imagining it and was going crazy. One night i caught the two of them and as you can imagine the shyte hit the fan. Long story short he and my sister moved away together and he convinced my lil sis who was 16 at the time that we were against her. Now 5 yrs on i have 2 nieces and a nephew that i have never met. Now i have no emotion about the two of them, i couldn't really care less he was a terrible person and an abusive partner. As for my sister i almost pity her because i know the miserable life she will be living with him. Had she have not betrayed her own blood so badly it wouldn't be happening. As for you he might have started off as a revenge tactic but hopefully for your sisters sake he has grown to love her. For you only time will tell if you can take the situation. Don't let your family pressure you into doing any thing you are not emotionally ready for. Maybe when the baby comes it will help with forgivness (they have a good way of helping put things in prospective) Just take it one day at a time. Forgive her when you are ready. Make sure you get the respect you deserve and you are deserving of an apology. Now she is having a baby it is time for her to behave like an adult and approach you (just like she should have done before she started sleeping with your ex), ood luck,, and know things will get better. P.S i now have the most amazing, caring sexy awesome partner and i am so glad in a way all this happened because now i have someone who loves me for me. This will come for you to, stay strong
I am not invited to my long-term boyfriend's brother's wedding...?
And to that one person that says the reason that she doesn't like me because no one will be good enough for her son is wrong. They are a very weird family, which is why I didn't try to explain them in this little story here. They are a very "appearance is everything" kind of family. They are very fake, and judgmental. They are also extremely catholic. I have been nothing but an absolute sweetheart, who respected them, put them before myself and was kind to them. That is just the kind of person that I am. I am not a catholic, and therefore his mother doesn't approve of me, but she would never say that to my face. She's very sneaky and manipulative. It's so weird and screwed up. My boyfriend thinks it's horrible and wrong, but he is just too terrified/embarrassed to speak up. It is creating a huge divide between us, and we haven't been able to talk normally in two weeks.
How to get my sister to stop stressing me out?
I'm 4 months pregnant and im 17 years old , my sister goes out of her way to stress me out and annoy me , for example i go up to stay in my boyfriends house and she will not stop ring my phone his phone and his mothers phone which causes a lot of pressure on me in the end i would have to go home because shes treatnein me, in the first place she has a boyfriend of her own shes not pregnant and her boyfriend is a *ick to her she stays up in his all the time and i do not ring her or wreck her head, shes 19 btw , another thing is when i came home from my boyfriends had to get a taxi because she was still ringing up till 3 in the morning i haven't stayed in my boyfriends house in along time over her , id go into my room and she would have it pulled apart looking for things id go down to her after coming home and ask her why you doing this and she would just laugh in my face , i feel like i can't have my own life with her my mother lets me stay but my sister always gets into her ear , i don't know what her problem is when we see each other she starts on me for no reason , she went ture the bother of getting me phone to take down my boyfriends new number (he had to change it because of her) now she has hes new number and his mas and all my friends , say if i was out with friends she would ring everyone of them , i feel under pressure and stressed about it all cant live my own life without my sister ruining it , its a lot of stress at home and i can't deal with it , what should i do other then block her number i told her plenty time to *uck off and get out of my life i dunno what to do anymore