My girlfriend got pregnant by her ex before they broke up and she found out after we'd been together. What should I do?
Respects to your girlfriend. As she has mentioned, it’s her problem and she has to deal with it. First of all please realise that you are getting prepared to break this relationship or else you wouldn't have asked this question. All you want now is some solid base to break this liaison so that you don't feel guilty. It’s completely alright. because you don't have to be guilty. I really want to give you some facts to analyze. 1. It’s totally fine to date / marry a pregnant woman, but in your case you never knew she was pregnant it came as a total surprise. Sorry, it’s not going to work. 2. If she chooses to have the child and you commit to stay with her it’s a HUGE responsibility. It’s a life, it’s a little pair of fragile arms and legs and you are totally responsible for that innocent life. Are you sure to spend your blood, sweat and tears on some other guy's genetic offspring? Because once you commit you are NOT backing off. 3. Pregnancy leaves stretch marks, saggy breasts & C section scars. If only you love her with all your heart and soul you will be able to deal with it. 4. When building a relationship with someone we always want to be the primary focus of their life. It has to be you and her, with a kid you will never be the one. I am not telling it's a bad thing, it’s totally fine if you are okay with it. 5. There are chances the new born reunites the mom and dad. That guy might be a jerk before but once he comes to know that he is a father he might want to be an ideal boyfriend or "father of the year" nominee. In such case what will be your stand? Hanging stranded? No one want's to compete with some babydaddy. Do you? Please don't get fooled by emotions, if you fall prey for your feelings now and regret it later it will make rest of the life hell for both you & your girlfriend. As she said, leave her. If you can, be a support, be a friend. Who knows she might be strong enough to raise her child by herself, she might consider a patch-up with her ex or in a long run she might even find someone who falls not only for her strength but also for her child’s innocence. Let her sort out her life. If you still decide to stay, ensure you stay with them till your last breath, no matter what. Make sure your live as the child's dad, don't ditch her in between; don't make the child long for a man to call his/her own; don't break the childs heart after making him/her fall in love with you. Good luck.
My ex boyfriend has me confused?
He sounds like he's trying to confuse you on purpose. This is mind games if I ever saw it. I want to count all the red flags listed in the information that you typed. I find that looking at key points can help. Red Flag #1 He cheated on you, sexting or not, he still did this. Red Flag #2 He was such a small excuse for a man that he got out of actually telling you about this himself and pawned the bad news telling on this girl. Red Flag #3 You only started talking again when you messaged him, he was content not messaging you for an entire year. Red Flag #4 He tried to get nude photos of you not 24 hours after you started talking again, asking for nudes in general is the move of a sleaze. Red Flag #5 He did this instantly after a break-up, showing how little he cares about any of his ex's. Red Flag #6 The only time he appears to make time for you in person to talk is to talk about sexual matters. This boy (and I say boy because his youth and immaturity is clearly showing) has no respect for anyone you mentioned, this includes yourself. I can't speak definitively, but from one girl to another, he sounds like he's seeing how far he can push you, wanting to play games to the point where you begin to succumb and either provide him with the nudes asked for or open a sexual dialogue with him. If (best case scenario) he does have genuine feelings for you, he clearly doesn't know how to express them without coming off as a (millennial moment) f*ck boy. Don't entertain him any longer, he sounds flaky and immature, there may come a time where he is mature and ready for something, but from the sounds of what you said, that day is not today. The time you're wasting on this Romeo failure is likely taking time away from other boys who actually do want more from you than an illicit picture or a make-out session. You sound younger than me, as I'm in my early 20's (from when you said about being in a class), so my advice to you is know your worth. People forget this and time is wasted, as well as youth. Good luck! Andrea
Im pregnant and my boyfriend left me. im depressed and Alone. i feel like i will be alone forever.?
helloooo.. well I am 18. and im Pregnant. my boyfriend and I lived together when i got pregnant, and after we found out he started acting Funny...i moved out because he is a drunk and i didnt think the "party environment" was a very good place for a Pregnant girl, and for a newborn baby. I still love him. i moved in with my sister and he came and stayed with me sometimes and we still talked all the time. now all of a sudden he told me that he didnt want to talk to me anymore, and thats just weird because thats never happened with us before. hes not a good person and i know that. i just can't get over him. and now since im pregnant i feel really unattractive. i Feel like i will be alone forever. i am always sad. i can't feel happy. and he is already with other girls which makes it worse, because i know no one will want to be with a pregnant 18 year old. any advice? if your going to say get an abortion or put the baby up for adoption don't reply. anyone else ben through this?
I Kicked my boyfriend out for cheating while im pregnant?
I don't think you are ever going to get over it. And I don't blame you. I sure as hell wouldn't be able to. Any fool can make a baby but it takes so much more to be a Daddy. This man cheated on you, end of. He has no respect for you. If this is affecting you, it is likely to also affect your baby. Only difference is, one of you can't make a decission. Only you can. You're both important. If you think you can cope, then you're better off without him. He can still be part of the bubba's life but its not fair you have to stay in a relationship with someone who has betrayed you. It can never be taken back and aslong as you remember it, it will always make you miserable.
If your boyfriend cheated on you and impregnated another girl, could you forgive him and take him back?
I wouldn't for a few reasons.As others have already stated, his cheating already shows he doesn’t give a rat’s pooter about your feelings. It doesn't take much to put yourself in your loved one’s shoes and know cheating can potentionally hurt them. He did not care if you got hurt.He put your health and life at risk. STDs/STIs and HIV/AIDS are very real. This boy cheated on you unprotected. How many other people has he been with? How many people has this girl been with while sleeping with him? Did they even think to get tested before hopping into bed with each other? Now while I don't seriously want the answers to these questions, this is something you should think about.Cheating proves selfishness. It’s a self-serving act. Are you willing to deal with someone who has such a “"me first” attitude? I could not.You will officially take backseat to his family he created without you while being in a relationship with you. This is not fair to you. Due to his selfish and careless behavior, you’ll be stuck with cancelled dates, possibly side chick holidays, and playing step mommy to the child his carelessness produced. When she goes into labor, he will drop everything to run to her side to be there for his child’s birth, including you. Your relationship has now grown by two and you've been pushed out of your VIP position not by your choice but his. Yeah, this thought process seems selfish BUT if you don't think of your needs, no one will. Your boyfriend has already proven he’s not going to.Finally, you deserve more and his disloyalty does not deserve your loyalty. He will continue to disappoint you whether this girl keeps the child or not. There will be others if you accept this. Your self esteem will suffer if you don't demand more of yourself and who you choose to be with. YOU DESERVE MORE. YOU ARE WORTH MORE. YOU ARE BETTER THAN THIS.I wish someone, anyone, had told me this. Instead I had idiots that convinced me to stay with a person who did this to me. It's not worth it. It'll never be worth it.
Feeling stuck with my boyfriend because im pregnant...?
i know i decided to keep it but thats because of my morals etc, not because i particularly want to be with the dad all my life per se....ofcourse i love him...been together for a few years but i cant stop being confused. I am 3 months pregnant and i feel trapped. we argue so much and i just want him to leave me - break up with me. I sometimes feel im not good enough for him, especially when he talks about how pretty one of his exs were (we broke up 5 months ago and dated other people then got back together then i got pregnant, unexpectedly) and other times i feel im too good for him, like i could get with someone else...but reality...who would date a pregnant girl =( so the reason i feel trapped is because i dont think anyone would want me now that im pregnant, im only 18 so im kinda stuck now. he wants to be there for me and im pushing him away. i dont know why. i just want him to leave me but he wont . some people say its just the hormones from pregnancy but idk
I broke up with my boyfriend and now he wont talk to me?
The other day I broke up with my boyfriend and he thought it was outta the blue (which it sorta was) and i told him i just want to be friends and he was like, what did i do? i said nothing....and then later that day i didn't want to be all depressed so i was being a positive person and putting smileys in my texts to him and he was like "why u so happy?" and i said cause i don't wanna be depressed. and he goes oh. i said you seem mad.... and he hasn't replied since...and every time i try to talk to him on Facebook, he logs off....am i just talking to a total douche bag or does he just want some time?
My ex boyfriend has gotten his new gf pregnant after only five months?
my ex and i were together for a long time. We broke up five months ago and he now has his new rebound girlfriend pregnant. He tells me that they are very happy about the new addition and are going to get married. I told him that she would get pregnant and trap him. he is very successful and is 10 yrs older than her. The other thing is he has never been married and despises children. fam members say that he is very upset and thinks he has to marry her to do the honorable thing. If he is so happy why would he tell anyone this much less his family? Obviously I care way to much... But I am very confused as to why he is telling me one thing and them something else. I would love to hear your thoughts but please don't be mean to me. I am still very hurt as I am not the one who wanted to terminate our relationship.
Bf broke up with me when I wasn't ready for sex/wants to have sex with my best friend? How do I deal with this?
Well obviously if he didnt respect you enough to wait until you were ready then he's not the guy for you. He's not the type of guy you'd want to be around anyway because he sounds like trash right now. Get out there and find the guy who WILL listen to what you want and respect your morals and values! You can't just sit around all day and pity yourself for losing someone, because you're just feeling bad that you got rid of something bad and not realizing it.