Do career oriented woman make bad wives?
I have been married for 13 years and have 2 children and I am very career oriented. My husband loves me more now then he did the day we married. Any open minded husband would be proud to have a very successful wife, mother of his children and worker.
Are Scorpio Women career oriented?
I've never been career focused but ever since my boyfriend broke up with me a year ago I've become so much involved with school and more focused on building a career than anything else....He wants to get back now but I'm graduating soon and moving to another country for a while to work... I still love him but I feel like I'm very sure about this move I want to make and know what I want...I've always been so much into love and stuff and now all of a sudden I feel like my career is all that matters...
::::For Men, Does Being Married Help Your Career:::::::::: ?
Statistically yes, married men do better. It's usually attributed to the fact that married men often have kids, and people with kids have more motivation to stay in a particular career than people who do not. They're also more likely to be very careful with career choices, such as taking a new job. However, one oft overlooked fact is that it's easier to focus on your career when you are liberated (or semi-liberated) from domestic responsibilities. Some studies suggest that men with at-home wives do better than men whose wives work (in their PERSONAL careers, not financially overall), and that women struggle in the workplace because women lack wives. But women get a similar benefit when their husbands are at home. I can actually give a personal example. I work (I'm a business owner, and work from home) and always have. But just last night my husband told me he got a big raise and a huge bonus, and he said I deserve some of the credit. We both do housework, but I do a little more because I'm at home. I'm also the family purse-holder, and have made financial decisions that greatly benefit us both. He'd be living a very different life if he was a single man, and I know that being married brings him happiness that undoubtedly affects other areas of his life. So while he would do very well even without me around, he does even better because I'm here to love and support him.
Is a marriage between two "career ambitious" people possible? How would they deal with relocation?
First of all, I'd like to preface that marriage, like most long term projects, will encompass, and is probably on some level, constructed of, challenges. I don't particularly think "having two 'career-ambitious' people in a marriage" is more challenging than other set-ups. ('He's a Hasedic Jew, and She's Paris Hilton, and they love each other, that's hot, but oy yey.') Do they have their own particular flavor of challenge? Yes. So having never been married, of course I'll tackle the question. Here goes. Going with a generalization i have that "career-ambitious" people are motivated in two ways- the "The End Justifies the Means" crowd (TEJM) - this group is career-ambitious because they can't wait to be successful in their career so that they can be rich or famous, (or some definition of "set for life"). - the "It's The Journey, Stupid" (ITJS) crowd - this group believes in the journey, not the destination. If you have two similarly career-minded types together, they'll run into all of the challenges listed by the Anons here. But with the a shared end-game/goal, the couple can always lean on their shared values with regards to work and career, looking to those values as a shared guide/reference point toward prioritization and sacrifice. When you have two equally career-minded types who are driven by different motivation, it gets a lot more complicated because at some point the TEJM partner will change his workpace depending on where he is in relations to reaching his "goal"; while the ITJS partner may be confused, angry, jealous, frustrated because he/she doesn't get why the other partner is varying that dial. This fundamental difference may end up driving a wedge of misunderstanding between the couple. And being busily involved in their own careers, the individuals may not make the time to communicate and establish a strategy to overcome that misunderstanding. Growing up my family knew a lot of immigrant grad student couples - there are a lot of couple (where both parties are 'career-minded') who, when they first arrived, weathered a ton of hardships together in busy harmony, only to find their marriage disintegrating in later years when things are more established and "times are better." (只能在一起吃苦，不能在一起享福 - roughly translated "can weather hardships together, but unable to enjoy life together) The above theory is constructed based on my knowledge and observation of those those couples.
Can a Marine officer and a Foreign Service Officer Relationship work?
My boyfriend and I have been best friends for 9 years. We always discuss our dreams and the careers we want to take on. We are still college students (seniors) ( yes I know we are very young ;p and maybe too young to be worrying about this but you never know where we'll end up) We have been dating for the past year and a half. We have a lot of similarities and understand each other, we were on the same page...up until a year ago. About a year ago he decided he wants to join the Marines. His plan is to spend 20 years with the Marines. I, on the other hand, want to be a Foreign Service Officer and live abroad. I have done a lot of research on what military wives do and I do NOT want to give up my dreams and become a house wife. ( I fear that I'll resent him if I do and I'll be miserable) I wouldn't ask the same of him either. Though I have met military wives with successful careers, they seem to have more transferable careers such as nursing, doctors, teaching etc. Some of them that chose to become housewives seem to be fine with it even if it's for a certain amount of time. I want to be able to have my own identity and I do not want my life and career path to solely revolve around his Military life considering our jobs will be calling us to be in different places at different times. Do you think it's possible for a Marine Officer and a Foreign Service Officer to have a successful relationship/marriage considering the possibilities of them traveling and having to live overseas and possibly in different countries? I would love to hear from anyone who is or has been in this situation or know someone who is/has been in this situation.. Or anyone in the military or any military wives. Advice please!! (please no stories about how you failed the FSO test and how the possibilities that I become an FSO are very low because of your personal experiences. I am a very goal oriented individual and I do NOT let obstacles get in the way of achieving anything I want.) Thanks