How can I keep my daughter from being too shy?
Hi amynikki, The best way is to model the behavior that you want her to copy. Be an example of the kind of woman you want her to become. She may not end up being how you would prefer that she be. She may have her own agenda when it comes to shaping her personality. Kids are like that. Sometimes they're kind of unpredictable. Find her some little girl friends and invite them over. Have a tea party or something. Bake a cake & let them help you. Spend time with them, showing them how to interact with each other.
How would you react if your daughter was 16 and was dating a 47 year old man?
0. JESUS! The answers you’ve gotten to this based on pure assumption. My god I would hate to be in this guys shoes.1b. You need more information. Did she lie about her age to him to make him think she was older? I’ve had this pulled on my when I was a young man and I was LUCKY to get to meet her parents and have them accidentally reveal hear age when they thought I looked older (20 at the time). I apologized and broke it off long before anything ever crossed the line. Luckily.1b/c. Where has it gone? What has she shared with you?2. Collecting evidence, that is the right idea for sure because this could go one of two ways and you’re going to need that evidence if it becomes needed. Stay calm as others have said. Get copies of all emails, texts, facebook messages, etc. If it turns into a court case - police can likely retrieve texts that they have deleted, but don’t count on it.3. Get his phone number. Give him a call to “get to know him”.. If he has even the smallest amount of ill intent - do you know what he’s going to do? Shit in his pants.. (and at his age, maybe even have a heart attack) Because if you have any evidence - even if the worst thing he has done is send a sext.. He’s going to jail. Do not pass go.. Do not collect 200$ dollars..But before anything else - Step 1. You don’t know what you don’t know so your first step is to get as much information as you can. He may just be a very stupid 47 year old man who thinks he is dating an 18 year old girl.
I need some help regarding care arrangments of my daughter *Urgent*?
I have care of my daughter for 3 days every fortnight which has been agreed by my daughters mother. I would like much more so there is currently a court order going through for contact. Recently I have noticed my daughter's behaviour being different. She never wants to go back home to her mothers and is obsessed with locks on doors. The first thing she said in the morning when she woke up was "im not going home today am I daddy?". I probed her further and she said that she doesnt want to go to mummys as she smacks her and shouts at her all of the time. She also then said that sometimes she is left in the house alone while she picks her boyfriend up from the station. She also said "Sometimes mummy leaves me alone of a nighttime too. She will put me to bed at 9pm, lock the babygate on the stairs so the dog cannot get up and go to the pub with her boyfriend". I have kept her and do not want to give her back. Her mother will not speak with me. I do have Parental responsibilty.I have tried to contact my ex partner in regards to this but she will not reply to txts messages or answer the phone. I have contact social services who have said that I can keep her as I have equal rights but surely my ex will be in touch with her solicitor on monday morning. What can I expect to happen? Would a court allow me to keep her although there will obviously be no evidence of my daughter being home alone? I know sometimes children will lie but my daughter has gone into far too much detail with regards to this and I really feel for her safety. She also has thrush, was diagnosed with this on the 6th september by her mother and her mother gave her no further medical treatment in 2 months. I took her to hospital to sort in November when I first realised this. I was not told anything about this by her mother nor when I collected her was I ever given any cream or medicine for this. To me my daughter is being severly neglected and I cannot allow this to continue. She is only 3 years old.
My daughter keeps being bit at Daycare, What to do?
I'm sorry your daughter has this happening and it must be very frustrating to you as well. I used to work at a daycare and we had a biting problem. The director's daughter was the one doing it! It got really bad. She would bite up to 3 different kids each day! By law, the daycare wasn't allowed to say which child was biting so the director acted as if it wasn't even her own daughter doing it when she told the parents. She bit my daughter once and I was standing RIGHT THERE. It happened so fast I couldn't even stop it. I was so upset and didn't work there much longer. Biting can be a "normal" phase of childhood, especially at this age, because they don't always know how to communicate. They want something the other child has so they bite them to get it. That's usually the circumstance. I personally wouldn't keep my child there and would try to find another daycare or sitter. It's an unfortunate situation but both the sitter and other mother would have to understand your child comes first. Good luck.
My daughter was raped a week ago, and her boyfriend has started taking care of her. IS HE GOING TOO FAR?!!!!!?
correction... it is 3 times, you would know if you looked at her profile and you would also know that the probability that a new user of yahoo answers would be the least likely to troll and trolls dont really ask the same question over and over, unless the answers can be very funny but this isnt funny. any one that talks about rape is instantly considered a troll for some reason, and some are but this is to well explained. i answered your previous question with a good answer but i think you already made up your mind on the answer other wise you wouldnt keep posting the question. if you keep posting it, i am thinking you are just waiting for the answer that you want to hear and not the answer you should hear.
My daughter was raped a week ago, and her boyfriend has started taking care of her. IS HE GOING TOO FAR?!!!!!?
i caught my daughter being raped in the living room of my house. when the rapist saw me, he ran right out. i gave the police a description of him. they caught him and now im going to to make sure he pays. my daughter had knife marks all over her body, and her vaginal are was covered with blood. we took her to a psychiatrist. he said that she is not going to be able to do a lot of things and is going to need a lot of emotional support. the doctor also said since it happened in my house, that she should be somewhere else. i called the boyfriends parents, and they were more then happy to have her stay at there house. when i told my husband, he wasn't so fond of the idea, but he also knew they weren't many other options that could help. when we got to there house. me and my husband slept in the guest room. which is right next to the boyfriends room. the boyfriend did a lot of things to make his girlfriend feel safer and comforted. he put a loaded shotgun under his bed. he moved his bed against the wall. so my daughter would be in between the wall and her boyfriend. every day they would watch her favorite movies and he made her favorite meals. he did a lot of things to try to make her happy. sometimes she would smile but she was still mostly sad. her bf understood that it wouldn't be easy to make her be herself again. sometimes she would cry for 3-4 hours at a time. he would just hold her and keep saying "i love you and that your safe" there were a few times when she would start screaming in her sleep, and the bf would have to wake her and say its just a dream and that's its ok. they are both 16. have been best of friends since they were 8, and got into a relationship when they were 12. he has always been a good boy. i mean sometimes he can be hard to handle, but he is a good kid for the most part. about a year ago, this kid put his hand up my daughters skirt. he repeatedly just started punching him, my daughter had to pull him off. my concern is that the bf is doing too much. he has the responsibility of taking care of my daughter and keeping her safe. that's a lot for a 16 year old boy. WHAT SHOULD I DO
My 12 year old daughter has completed algebra 1. What should be next?
I’m assuming your child is in the gifted program because there is no way for her to even be accepted into the class unless you skipped her straight into 9th grade. I took Algebra I in the 7th grade when I was in middle school.In most cases, your daughter would go into Geometry, as with Common Core (Which most states have accepted all, if not some aspects, of it) most states have similar progression paths for kids, the difference being whether they are regulars (normal progression) honors/advanced (1 year ahead) or gifted (2 years ahead).As for Ivy League…I’m going to break the hard news but completing Algebra I does not seem impressive at all for a 12 year old. In fact, that’s just slightly above the average of most gifted kids. And most gifted kids also have a passion they work hard at like arts, dancing, martial arts, writing books, destroying noobs in video games with carefully calculated strategies and risks accounted for, singing, community service, construction, and just about every single activity you could think about. Yes, even laser guns.Point being, you’re daughter, while special in the sense that she is gifted with a more usable mind than most will ever achieve until they get their act together, she is by no means a sort of genius that few in a school system can achieve. She is actually fairly average for a gifted student.I would have responded very differently to this question if you hadn’t put the Ivy League tab on it. I had an opportunity with Duke University to do SAT prep and have preference to enter their campus when the time came, but I ultimately did not take it, mostly because of the time frame and circumstances outside my control.Just please raise your daughter for now, don’t worry about Ivy League now, worry about it when she is in the eleventh grade.
What if your daughter were to tell you that she is pregnant?
I was in this position two years ago. My 19-year-old daughter rang to tell me she had to tell me something the next day as we were catching up face to face. I knew in my heart immediately what it was. My husband & I had recently moved to another state for my job. My daughter was living with a friend, working full-time and supporting herself. She had a boyfriend (who we knew & liked) & we knew she was sexually active and on the contraceptive pill.As a young mother myself, I had talked to my children about waiting until they were older to have children so they could travel & enjoy their youth before settling down but I always promised myself that I would not react the way my mother did, which was to tell me to have an abortion and make me feel like she was ashamed of me.My daughter picked me up from the airport and whilst driving asked if I knew what she was going to tell me. I replied “You're pregnant?” And she confirmed it. I was very calm and asked if she had decided what she wanted to do. She hadn't decided (although I think she had) but said her boyfriend wanted her to have an abortion. I told her I would support whatever she decided, I loved her and would be there if she needed me.She had an ultrasound a week later to see how far pregnant she was and they were unable to find a heartbeat. They told her it might be an empty sac (non-viable pregnancy). She said it made her sad as she had decided to have the baby. I confess, I had started to imagine life as a grandmother and it made me happy.Two weeks later they did another ultrasound and there she was, with a beautiful strong heartbeat. I was with my daughter (along with her boyfriend) when my lovely granddaughter came into the world and she's had my heart ever since.My daughter loves being a mummy and she's doing a wonderful job.Photo is me with my daughter/me with my grand-daughter.Update:Wow, I only joined Quora in July 2017 and I am amazed at the upvotes and positive comments!My little grand-daughter is such a blessing and has brought us nothing but joy since the day she was born.In May 2017 we were blessed again with a gorgeous grandson from my 26 year old son and his girlfriend and they are having another baby in June 2018.Life is good!Update 2Recently blessed again with another little grand-daughter from my son and daughter-in-law.If someone had told me 4 years ago that I would be a grandmother of 3 at 45, I would have laughed.
With my daughter being molested did I have a legal right to break my lease with the family still there?
well most contracts state u can break a lease only by death or medical reasons but i would get a good lawyer and fight what judge or jury would side with the complex i would think they would be liable for haven dangerous people living on the property cause usually molestation runs in the family which is just sick i totally would have moved to and get ur daughter some mental help and teach her that is is ok to talk about it even though it will kill u inside to listen peole like that have no idea what kind of pain they inflict people like that should be tortured not put in jail to live well crap a warm place to sleep 3 meals a day a tv to watchfree room and board i know guys in the joint are hard on rapers a more on child molesters but jail in my opinion is just to good just dig a deep hole lower them into it and just leave them there is just no cause for why people like that exist and i feel if our government and communityes cracked down with exterme force cases like this would become rare my heart goes out to your daughter as unfortunatly i know how she feels and what hurdles lay ahead but it really helps when u have someone there to comfort u when needed as i had no one so my heart and love goes to her ttfn
What released you from the abuse you suffered as a child?
I think release may be a misnomer. I still flinch and brace for a beating when certain words, phrases, and inflections are used. I'm sitting writing this with a pain in my left collar bone that was broken by my father 13 years ago and never properly set because, as my mom said, “you'll get taken away.” Last night I had to take pain killer for an ache in my ribs that were cracked when I was about 8 and never seen to by a doctor after my dad kicked me in the side until I spat blood because I started coughing after he poured rubbing alcohol over my face. They're aching again, but, alas, no pain killers available.When did I stop being scared of him? When I fought back successfully for the first time. We'd just gotten home from a funeral. He was throwing yet another temper tantrum. He pulled back to hit me and I grabbed his wrist. I had long nails at the time and I drew blood. I looked him in the eye for the first time during one of his fits. I told him he could hit me if he told me why he wanted to. I guess it forced him to think and calm down. He stopped screaming. He was still angry. He still slammed things like a toddler. He didn't hit me, though. He never hit me again. I moved out shortly after.When did I stop being mad at him? About ten minutes after the above incident when I was washing the blood out of my nails. I realized that I looked like him. I looked a hell of a lot like him. I was terrified. Truly, gut wrenchingly terrified. I vowed that I would not be like him. I would never make my family feel like they had no recourse. I would never let my family feel afraid of me because of my actions against them. I would not let bitterness ruin my life like it ruined his. Come hell or high water, I would make my life what I wanted it to be.My father has been through a lot of therapy. He's no longer a violent asshat. He's a good person who is actively trying to repair at least some of the damage he did. A lot of abusive people don't come that far. I actually get along with him pretty well now. I have to think of him as he is now as an entirely different person than he was. I couldn't look at him if I didn't. It has taken a lot of work, though and there's still days I can't just chat with him.