Should I tell my fam I was molested?
I'm 21 years old now.im from Arizona. I've never told anyone that I've been molested by three guys as a little girl. Mainly Bevause two of those were family. My uncle who still lives with us. And my sister husband. I've always been afraid to speak up. But now that my sister has a three year old daughter I worry for her. Her dad was the one who was more constant and went further for the longest period of time. And til this day he still hits on me or says uncomftetable things. I've kept quiet out of fear of breaking up my sisters fam or being called a whore or sonething. I was only 8 when it began. And younger eith the other two guys. I've have never told any one. And I'm scared to tell my Boyfriebd of five years. I'm ashamed of what happened. And I try to just forget it. All my life I've tried to put it in the past. But now I worry for my niece. She told us today he rubs her butt and no one did anything about. Please help me. Don't bother commenting if it's something stupid or dumb. Only wise words please.
My stepson molested my daughter. What Now ?
Since I got married 5years ago my stepson have been molesting my daughter. He was 14 at the time and she was 4. He is now 19 and she is 9. I found out months ago that he had been molesting her since the beginning. He made her perform oral sex on him, raped her and evrything else inbetween. I kicked him out of the house, but now he has lost his jobs and moved back in with us. I struggle to get over my hatred for him and try to tolerate him for my husband's sake, but it is just so difficult to forget what he did. How do I overcome this hatred I feel for this man ? My husband does not really stand by me in the situation. He has hinted a few times that my daughter also carried guilt in the situation. At 4 to 9 years I don't think that is true. She was the one who told me about it now that she is older which proves that she took action when she became able to resist. He says that she is looking for attention when she gets emotional. He just doesn't get the seriousnes of the situation. She is getting councilling and is doing well. Every day at a time. I am the one with the most anger and hate in me. Please help. I am trapped in the marriage because I do not work and in the current economic climate I can't fin'd one. I also find it very helpfull to be at home right now while she needs me. What do I do and how do I overcome the hate?
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I found out my husband molested his niece?
Listen up, If I were you I'd talk to him about first. Because the information his family has given could be false. Depending on the answer will depend on what choice your going to take. If you still don't trust him then you need to either split up with him if you don't want to do that then make sure you're daughter is always somewhere you can keep a eye on her. Then move away from him as soon as possible I wouldn't even take chances since my daughter would be in danger and since she's so small he could do something to her that could even end up with her being dead or when she gets older she might be scared with memories. But then again he was only fourteen when he did it so he might have not been fully concious of what he was doing since he's an adult now he knows what's wrong and what's right also as someone said 'people at that age like to experiment'. I'm not trying to scare you but I'm trying to warn you; also make sure to tell someone close to you about this just in case he tries to do anything funny so you always have someone who knows about the situation. You should look forward to the future not looking back at the past, and haven't you know him for 6 six years? Since you've known him for such a long period of time then you should be able to tell when he's lying or not and if he's the type of person do that. Well if his sister wanted to "protect" him then she wouldn't be telling you this and would let him date the person he's in love with so there is something obviously wrong with that as well. Don't accuse him straight away he might be denying it because he actually didn't do it. You might even be thinking to deep into it - that might explain the reason why you thought that she'd want him if she didn't have a boyfriend. Don't ask his family about it at all you should listen to the truth from him only. If he has been molested as a kid and still can remember than I doubt that he did it to someone else and his niece might be making everything up. I hope things work out of for you.
How would you react if your 16-year-old daughter got pregnant?
Three weeks ago My wife sent me a text while I was at the supermarket asking me to get a pregnancy test for our 15 year old daughter as she was saying that she was late for her period. We thought that she had her dates wrong as she told us that she had not had unprotected sex.I brought the test home and gave it to my daughter, telling her to do it when her younger siblings were not around. a little later our daughter called my wife from the bathroom. As my wife was on the telephone I went instead and knocked on the door. When I entered my daughter just pointed at the test, a very clear two lines confirmed that she was indeed pregnant.My reaction was shock at first but, then I went into autopilot. My wife and I sat down with our daughter and asked her how she felt about it and what she wanted to do next. We didn't get angry and we made it clear that whatever she wanted to do we would support her. My daughter said that she definitely would not have an abortion and that she wanted to keep the baby. We spoke to her about the stigma that she would face and the issues her boyfriend might face with the police with her being underage.Three weeks later I am still in shock and not sure of what the future holds but, I am sure that whatever happens, both my wife and myself will support our daughter and her boyfriend throughout the pregnancy and beyond.EDIT: To answer a concern that has been raised in the comments. My daughter and her boyfriend have met with the authorities and there will be no charges. With their ages being very close and my daughter being very close to 16 it was judged to not be in the interest of any parties to prosecute. Here in the UK due to her being over 13 the charge would not have been rape but would have been the lesser charge of sexual activity with a child.Also as to why we left the overall decision on keeping the baby to her is because it is her body and her life that will be most affected. Also a friend of mine growing up got pregnant at 14 and was forced to have an abortion by her parents and I saw how badly she was affected for the next few years until we eventually lost touch.