Totco Toilet Trainer?
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How long does it take to toilet train a child?
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/hundreds-of-children-over-the-age-of-5-are-sent-to-school-wearing-nappies--and-teenagers-as-old-as-15-cant-use-the-toilet-on-their-own-9295290.html This article is stating clearly that a lot of children with no medical conditions or development issues go to school in nappies because they haven't been potty trained properly. I was so surprised when I read it. Is it really true that children with no problems that still wear diapers when reaching the school age are mainly from problem families/chavs that cannot be bothered to potty train their children or even educate them? I don't have a child myself yet but I remember my mum potty training my little brother. As soon as my little brother started walking she potty trained him and it took less than 2 weeks for him to learn it properly, when he was 2 and a half years old he was diaper free. My mum said it was the same with me and my other brothers and sisters.
I’m struggling to decide whether I can handle stepparenting an autistic child. Her daughter is six years old, nonverbal and not toilet trained. What are the chances that she’ll grow up to be independent? Will I have to deal with her issues forever?
My middle son did not potty train until he was 5, though he did learn to talk in complete, but short sentences by that age. He is now about to turn 19 and has come a very long way from that point. A very long way.But, his mother and I are legal co-guardians of him, because he is not likely to ever be completely independent. We have been able to teach him to do self care and he even has his driver’s license, though that is not common for his level of social functioning. We have made it a long-term goal that he become as independent and easy to care for in an assisted living situation as he can get. He is already exceptionally easier to care for than most other comparably functioning 19-year-olds with autism that I have encountered (drives, has a part-time cleaning job, helps around the house, etc.).I would love to tell you not to worry, it’ll be no problem. But the reality is that, in order to get our son to be as easy to care for as possible, we have put in life-altering levels of effort, time and money, while also parenting two other children. Autism, particularly in kids as low-functioning as your possible step-daughter, can suck up all the time, money and resources you can find to pour into it.Finding the balance between what is theoretically possible and what is sustainable by yourselves over the long term is the challenge. There is no cookie-cutter answer, no matter how wealthy, skilled at parenting or learning you are.On the upside, you can grow to love this daughter as much as any child and the rewards of seeing her make progress are sometimes even better, because you know the hard work it took to get there.Bottom Line advice:Decide how deeply you care for mom. Pay attention to how well she is holding up and what her plans are for helping her daughter. Even if your main contribution is just helping get the daughter to therapy appointments and rare social gatherings and mundane household stuff, you could make all the difference in the world for both of them.If I was making such a decision, I would pay most attention to what sort of partner in parenting mom would be and then whether there is something I had to contribute. With the right partner, even having her issues for the rest of your life is probably not as bad as you imagine, even though it is always going to be a lot of work.
What is attachment parenting?
They were referring to EC or Elimination Communication (also called Infant Potty Training ((IFP) or Natural Infant Hygiene ((NIH))). Attachment Parenting (AP) is a phrase coined by Dr. Sears and is based on the Attachment Theory - that our childrens first few years of life are very important to their developing selves and the best way to meet their needs and their growth in life (for a healthier them all around - including emotional/mental health) is to form a secure attachment with them. This can be done with natural childbirth, breastfeeding, co-sleeping, baby wearing, and with EC. It is important to note first that EC is not potty training - at all! Because when a lot of people think of it like that, they think it is then 'cruel' and a lot of these thoughts are usually surrounded by myths the western world has been led to believe. Babies are born with some sphincter control (mothers of boys will notice this quite quickly! hehe) - so EC is about not relying on nappies or simply not using them at all - and if you don't use a nappy/diaper, your baby still needs to pee/poo somewhere! This can be closely connected with AP because you are responding to a need (the need to pee/poo) your baby has in a respectful way (offering them a clean and comfortable place to pee/poo like a potty or toilet). Over time, this does result (usually!) in a baby being able to use the toilet/potty independently because they are used to only eliminating in these places (compared to if you ignored this need, they got used to just letting loose in a nappy and not being made aware of this normal bodily function and then you have to essentially 're-train' them later to use a different area - the potty or toilet!). It is actually pretty amazing and fun for both baby and mother - I have enjoyed my EC journey with both of my sons. Please check out the links or have a good google - you can learn lots! :)
Potty training an 18 month old?
So about three days ago now my son refused to keep on his diaper. If I put him in disposable he'd pull it off and if I put him in cloth (which we normally use) he'd pull on it and scream until I took it off. So, I figured he might be trying to tell me he doesn't want to wear a diaper!! lol. Anywho, he's been consistently pooping on the potty for months. He sat down on it one day and voila be pooed. Pee is not consistent. So, back to the question at had. He's pretty much been half naked for three days except when we leave the house and sleep times. He's had only one accident a day, pee diaper at nap and bed time and once he had a pee diaper when we were out - the rest of the time he uses the potty! yay us! Ok, so now after all the ramble my question(s) is this - how on earth do I make him initiate it?? Clearly he knows what the potty is for and will use it, and he can say potty, pee and poo, but how to I get him to start telling me when he has to go. The only reason I worry about him asking is b/c of day care. My husband works shift work, I work part time, but he still goes to day care 1-2 days a week and I cannot expect her (or can I??) to ask him very hour if he has to pee and sit him down on there... and do I put him in diapers at daycare?? We're looking inot buying cloth training pants, but don't have any yet. Sorry this is rambly and thank you to everyone for taking the time to read this and provide any info!! Happy Canadian thanksgiving!!
What is something new parents do that drives you crazy?
There is nothing new parents do that truly drives me crazy. I was one of those new parents once also. I realize that you are not given a handbook with your newborn baby at the hospital before they send you home with this unfathomably complicated, little human you are to care for. While I was pregnant with my first child, I remember thinking (more to reassure myself) that birthing and raising a child couldn’t possibly be that difficult because so many people do it everyday. I mean, how hard could it really be? Yeah, go ahead and laugh with me at that one! I have eaten those words everyday since.Ah, I just thought of something that new parents do that is really annoying to me. I have never been really big on forcing a child to potty train. My feeling on the matter is that I’ve never seen an 18 year old still wetting his pants because his parents never taught him how to use the toilet. My daughter just decided one day at age two that she was done with diapers and that was it. She never wet the bed or used another diaper from that day on. My son preferred to keep his diapers on until he was four, but once he decided he was done, that was it. He never wet the bed either. One of my closest friends was just hellbent on having her son potty trained at age two, and would fuss at me about not potty training my son. Her son is a year older than mine. She would refuse to let him wear diapers; consequently, her son wet the bed every night for years. By age seven, the poor kid had a complex about still wetting the bed every night. I suppose the lesson to new parents is to help each other, instead of looking down upon, or condemning, other parenting styles because it doesn’t agree with your own.