I do not want to attend my sister's graduation.... How do I get out of it?
Wow...some replies are almost as long as the question lol. Just don't go. If you are asked why you don't want to go then just tell them you don't want to. You don't have to make up anything. Although your accomplishments are to be commended, you are not grown just because you graduated early lol. Stay young as long as you can lol!!!
Wasn't invited to my boyfriend's sister's wedding?
Yesterday was my boyfriend's sister's wedding and I wasn't invited. My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months, I've been over to his house, his parents knows me well and his parents, sister and her fiance talk about the wedding openly in front of me. I didn't give the whole thing much thought, but whenever I talk to someone outside of this and I off handedly say I wasn't invited they all have the same shock reaction. I finally asked someone why everyone responds like that. The person told me it's not etiquette to not invite a girlfriend of a bride's/groom's sibling to their wedding and if they can't then atleast talk to me about it why they can't. Or at the very least have my boyfriend talk to me about how I feel about the whole situation which he never did. Which leads me to my boyfriend. He hasn't talked to me since two days before the wedding and as of today still haven't got anything. But yesterday he did email me a Google Doc invitation to his wedding speech for me to proofread and edit. Again, I didn't give much thought to the whole situation. He has an attention deficit disorder so I try to be mindful and patient and seperate the symptoms from the person. Although, I do sometimes wonder when does it stop being the symptoms and start being the person? What do you think? Should this be something I should be concerned about?
My daughter doesn't want me at her wedding. What do I do?
Reading this took me back to how I truly feel about my own mother. We are very close, but I know I am also weak. I suffer from years of piled on manipulation and psychological control from her. And I’m an only child. She’s always been disapproving of my life choices, past relationships, and she has her own problems in life - that I always seem to be dragged into as part of her ‘healing’.I am trying my best to separate the bond from my parents in having my own with my now husband. And it’s extremely difficult, as she makes me feel like a terrible daughter to her. My entire life she has implied my life as being ‘a mistake’, or the reason she ‘sacrificed’ her own to raise me, which now at nearly 30 makes me completely distraught over the fact I dealt with years of that emotional abuse.And I know if I stepped up to her (as I have tried doing for years) about how I feel, I get shut down - every single time. So I deal with the emotional stress inside, knowing I have a mother who refuses to empathize and simply listen to me.I am not speaking for your daughter, by any means, since I don’t know the extent of the “control and manipulation” you are talking about.But if you were my mother, right now, I would simply be asking for your acceptance. Accept that this is the time for my need of healing (from the past), and to accept that right now she has to do what’s best for her.This isn’t a matter of changing her mind - it’s a matter of being there for her, the way she wants. Be more understanding, empathetic and accepting of her. Allow her that time to grow, to grow in forgiving you.Forgiveness is something you want more than simply being at her wedding, even if that forgiveness only comes a year, 5 years or 10 years from now.theMRSingLink Blog(themrsinglink.com)
Stepdaughter isn't giving my daughter a role in her wedding?
My husband and I married 7 years ago and we both had children. I had my daughter, now 14 and he had his three now 17, 19 and 20. The oldest lives with her boyfriend/fiancé and the other two live with us. Their mother has not been in the picture for over 10 years. My oldest stepdaughter (20) announced her engagement back in May and has almost everything organized. It's a couple of months away right now. I'm very upset about one thing, though. She asked her sisters to be her bridesmaids, her two best friends, too, and one of her cousins to do a reading, but when my daughter asked if she could do something, she told her no. My daughter looked very upset and I bit my tongue while she was there but my husband called her out on it. She basically told him it was a f*** you for bringing a kid who was not her sister into the house and she called my daughter some very horrile names. After my stepdaughter left, my daughter told me she doesn't want to go anymore. She told my husband she heard everything she said about her (how she wasn't her sister, the name calling and how she didn't want someone ugly in her wedding photos). I'm angry. I would have understood if she'd been nice about it. Honestly, I would never say she has to include my daughter, but to be as nasty and hurtful as she was... My husband has spoken to her but it didn't help. I'm just wondering wondering what to do now... Should I make my daughter go? Should I even go? Advise?
Fiancé's daughter doesn't want to come to our wedding?
My fiancé and I have been together for 4 years. He has a 16 year old daughter with his ex girlfriend. My husband has always been in his daughters life and they were very close up until he and I started getting serious, then problems started to appear. We have a two year old son together and we are getting married in 3 weeks. His daughter was supposed to be attending at first, and she was even supposed to be a bridesmaid (she agreed to all of this), which I thought was her saying she was starting to come around to me, but now she has announced that she won't be coming. It's very annoying and my fiancé is extremely hurt over this. He asked her why and she said it's because she doesn't like me and because she won't know anyone there but us and her brother. I do understand the second part, and we would have allowed her to bring a friend if she had mentioned something, but we can't now. My fiancé asked me to talk to her, so I did and it seemed like she was enjoying herself. I told her I would love for her to be there, even if she wasn't a bridesmaid and she said no to that, too. Does anyone have any advice? What would you do if you were us? We've talked about postponing the wedding but that was dismissed immediately and we just don't know what to say or do. She's getting to the age where she will be able to say no to seeing her father whenever she wants and I think the thought kills my fiancé.
Bride excludes grooms sister in wedding?
It appears to me that your brother knows what is going on. I would have a heart to heart with him and ask what is going on. You know about the stagette and you realize she has excluded you from the wedding, so you want some honest answers. I'm not sure you want to hear the answer, she sounds like she has a real grudge again you over something, whether it is real or imaginary. Sorry you won't enjoy your brother's wedding much. Guess it's their day and whatever they want is right, but I find it hard to understand your brother not stepping in and saying she's my sister and it's my wedding too. Maybe she's a bit of a bridezilla and he's having to cower to everything to keep the peace. Don't understand the men who put up with that type, but there's a whole bunch of them!
My sisters never include me in anything?
Try to tell them how you feel and if they don't understand then don't get angry, tell your parents they will help sort your problem. If your sisters still give you the hard shoulder then hang out with your brother, even though he is younger than you he would still be company.
I'm not invited to my soon-to-be-step mom's bachelorette trips and party & I'm v hurt. Am I over reacting?
I'm going to assume she didn't intend to hurt you by not including you - she is an adult, whether she is younger than you parents or not, and does have a responsibility to protect you from things that are for adults only. As another answer already stated, Vegas is no fun if your under 21 anyway. While you may have enjoyed a spa treatment for a few hours, you'd be in the room a lot, and stuck with drunk old ladies the rest of the time. All that being said, even if she didn't intend to hurt you or mislead you, I can see how she did. I can certainly see how you thought you would be invited, and how it must feel to suddenly realize you are not. I hope you tell her this - not just your dad - and give her a chance to at least make you feel less hurt. She probably didn't even realize she was being insensitive with all the excitement of planning. Hopefully the other trip is a better fit and she can include you. But, if she can't, just remember - you probably won't want her along for your bachelorette party either ... She'll be to OLD!