Honestly Answer Me How Do I Look

Obviously I could look it up, but can anyone honestly answer the question without looking it up, what is the difference between empathize and sympathize?

It’s probably true that many people don’t understand the difference between the two. But, as others have pointed out, there is a significant difference.I suspect that anyone who has even basic training in counseling will know the difference. There is a Christian church-related program called Stephen Ministry, which trains ordinary church members to be active listeners for people who are in need. One of the very early parts of the training is the difference between sympathy and empathy. Stephen Ministers are taught to empathize with the people they are listening to.Sympathy is more detached than empathy. Sympathy leads you to say, “I’m very sorry for your loss.” Empathy leads you to say that, too. But it also leads you to imagine yourself in the shoes of the other; to remember yourself in a similar situation. And empathy leads you to reach out to the other in ways that are very specific to the individual and the situation. Empathy remembers the bereaved weeks after the funeral is over and the family has left, when the reality of the new circumstances begin to become real, when loneliness has moved in as a permanent resident.Sympathy is not a bad thing. But it is much easier, more ordinary, and less helpful to others than empathy.

Honestly, do girls date men for what they look like or who they are?

Okay, I am going to give you an honest answer and a little tough love here. Just so you have been warned.I know quite a few “hot girls” who are with guys who are “not so hot”. So looks are not quite as important to most women as they are to most men. Social experiments have proven this time and time again. Just look up the Fat Guy Tinder Experiment. The results are pretty disheartening for the female version of the same experiment. But I will tell you, if hot girls are turning you down it may be in part because of your attitude. No offense.You refer to them as “hot”. Wrong move dude! You could have chosen the word “attractive” over “hot”.This screams that you are looking to hook up and therefore may be deterring some of these girls away. If any guy called me hot, I would instantly role my eyes and be repulsed. I would rather be called beautiful than hot. A man who calls you beautiful respects you. A man who calls you hot usually doesn’t. Just saying.Your question is a pretty shallow one. There really is no magic way to woo a hot girl. People already have a precognitive idea of who they will end up with. So you may not fit the bill in their eyes. And please don’t say that you’re a “nice guy”. Guys who have to announce they are nice usually think common courtesy is some type of personal achievement. Respecting women should not be that strenuous a task or need a billboard that says “ trust me, I’m nice”.I sincerely hope“Girls” are not dating “men”. That is kinda creepy. I would hope if you are a full grown man you would be more interested in women. Maybe that’s why you’re striking out? Otherwise you wouldn’t have asked this question in the first place. Unless you’re just now considering dating a “hot girl” and thereby limiting your dating pool drastically.With that out of the way, I will tell you that women may go for a hot guy but his looks won’t mean much if there’s no depth to him. She may play with him for awhile, have her fun and then leave. The same holds true for men. A woman could be gorgeous, but it doesn’t mean a man would ever commit to her. An attractive face can only get you so far.Both men and women want to be with someone who challenges them, respects them and encourages each other to grow as an individual. So a vast majority of women may go for your looks in the beginning, but in the end your personality will have to be the glue that keeps them there.