My parents won't let me express myself?
So I am a 16 year old girl and my parents never let me communicate my thoughts. If something bothers me, I can't tell them without them raising their voice at me and sending me to my room. I am getting very frustrated that they won't let me express my thoughts. I never yell at them to get my point across, but I try to let them know that some of the things they say to me hurt my feelings but I always get talked over, yelled at and sent to my room. I always thought communication was a major part of being a parent but my parents had never let me tell them what's bugging me, even when I was a little girl. And if I ever look upset and they ask me what's wrong, when I tell them they just yell and yell. That's all they ever do when I'm upset. I have all of these emotions bottled up and can't express them. I fear one day I'll just snap and say things I shouldn't. I've tried countless of times trying to tell them they never listen, but I get ignored. How do I let them know how I feel?
My parents won't let me express myself?
I'm a 14 year old girl, and I would like to have some sort of feeling of identity. My parents (my mum especially) won't let me express myself, for example, she won't let me get ANY piercings (not even ears), she doesn't let me wear clothes that I like, so I end up ALWAYS wearing the same things over and over. She won't even let me put posters on my wall or anything. I asked her why and she's just like 'Because you don't need to.' What can I do?
How should I express my feelings to my parents that I am not interested in what I am doing now and want a new way of life?
parents are our well-wishers. mostly in India and especially in those of middle class families parents do have some expectations upon their children.they want their children to travel the same path. but nevertheless the generations are changing in this present day context.if you have realized that you belong to a different stream of interest than from that of your parents ,never hesitate to inform them at any cost and at any means. in my opinion expressing truth to near-ones will never break the bond and rather it will build it much more strongly. so go to your parents dare to tell them the truth before it becomes too late to reconstruct your dreamworld. donot ask others to do it for you, even your best friends..........please try to understand.....
My parents wont let me express myself.?
You know hon, before you were born your mother came up with a picture of the person she thought you were going to be. Keep in mind this is her vision, her dream and she got it before she even knew you. Parents are so used to controlling what their children can and cannot do that when you finally are expressing your own individuality they can't handle it. I know this from personal experience. What starts happening when you are a teenager is developing into your own person - and that looks like it's going to be a problem for you at home. Your best bet is this - remain true to yourself as much as you can, but try to honor your parents and respect their wishes. This means walking both sides of the fence but the thing is we all have to find ways of getting along with people different than we are. Don't fight what they are trying to do, it's okay to accept their rules for now. They are trying to do the best for you and think they know. But when things have calmed down a bit, you might want to sit down and talk with them and tell them how you feel. Being open with who you are, your desires, your interests the person you are is important. They may or may not accept that but all you can do is try. Edit: One thing I'd like to add. If it gets oppressive, if it feels too hard, do not ever forget who you are inside - that will never change no matter how hard they try. That knowledge is like a cream filling in candy - it's your gift so hold on to it. Don't try to be someone else, be you, and if you can't do it yet, know that there will be a time when you can. Who knows, maybe they will change in time and accept the changes in you - all parents have to do it sometime.
I can't express my feelings to anybody, not even my parents. What should I do?
Pen it down!Believe this works as magic.Just take a diary or a small notebook.And write everything down. Everything as in Everything.May be good,may be bad.Whatever you feel at present.What made you angry?What cheered you up today?I have been doing this since class 8.Every good and bad incident that happens in my life is written on my diary.Being an introvert.I am very less expressive.It’s good to jot everything down.Nobody judges you.It’s million times better than telling people who sympathize on the front and laugh at the back.Hope that helped.Thank you.
My parents took a blacklight in my room...?
If your parents are undergoing such bizarre measures to enforce anti-masturbation policies... they're crazy. But they are still worthy of your love and respect, because they're your parents, and they care for you. As long as they're not physically abusing you, or exerting extreme, cinematic-style psychological manipulations, I would suggest... Try to encourage, initiate, maintain dialogue. Do not lose your temper, but express your feelings and thoughts as best you can. Do it in writing if that seems easier. Do not expect them to be aware of your experiences as an adolescent or to have any knowledge of popular culture post-1957. They very possibly went through the same experiences as you.. and then conveniently forgot them as they progressively became convinced that social conformity is the best way to go. Do not allow them to take control of your identity. Do not give up on them. Losing an emotional connection with your parents can be very painful later in life.
I'm unable to express myself well to my parents. How should I change myself so I can better communicate with them?
I think the trick is to be very direct even if you feel stupid, even if it feels unnecessary and intuitive. This is especially true with feelings. You still ought to be direct, but also polite and calm. If you are calm you come across as more rational, reasonable and mature, so people and especially parents think that your opinion holds value.Example:Mom invites a neighbor you don’t like.You: Behaves uneasily, talks with irritation.Mom: you can’t make friends because you don’t know how to behaveYou: * angrily storms off*Or...You: You know I don’t like him. Why did you invite a person I told you I didn’t like?If you say this angrily the parent sees it as an accusation, so say it calmly.Mom: Well I saw you speaking and laughing with him a couple of days ago. I thought you became friends.You: *clears misunderstanding*
Ever had the feeling your parents can read your mind?
ohh sh*t yeah most definitely my mother is like a mind reader or a physic she knows what i am about to say or do before i say or do it. she scares me sometimes my mother told me that she knew when the nurser at the hospital 12st let her hold me. she said that it was the most precious moment of her life o.k. o.k. enough with the emo talk now.lol anyway take it easy good question by the way keep them coming.
How do I express my feelings to my family? They used to laugh at me or ignore when I was young and had an outburst. Now whenever I'm upset, I just hide in my closet. Slight things can trigger me. Thoughts or even one comment can do it. Suggestions?
Grow up! No need to have outbursts and hide in your closet. Get a notebook or some paper and write a journal or write one on your phone. Get over yourself. You are too grown up to be doing the histrionics! If your over 10 and I suspect you are, you’re too old for having fits! It’s time to learn to handle yourself and speak like an adult.Discussing school, tell it like it is, without the teams and drama! The opposite sex, discuss with same sex parent one on one, again no trama and drama. Whatever else pick a parent and discuss. Omit any Trama and drama.All other “feelings “ commit to the journal. Do not tell all your private stuff to your friends they will spread it all over.Blessings on your journey.