How can i stop my friend from cutting herself?
i was talking to her about it and she doesnt care that she cuts herself she said its an addiction and she cant stop i really want her to stop but she wont listen to me
My best friend is cutting herself?
I'm in high school and I've struggled with cutting for a long time. What you need to do, above all things, is remind her each and every day that you love her for what she is. Let her know that you care about her, and that you will do everything in your power to help her. Don't freak out, or accuse her of being suicidal. Although cutting and suicidal thoughts often go hand in hand, there are still times when people just get relief out of cutting. Accusing her of having suicidal thoughts might make her worse. It's her way of coping. Don't try to get answers out of her, and above all things make sure she knows that you love her and that you want her to stop because she's perfect the way she is. Also, try giving her these sites: www.givesmehope.com www.operationbeautiful.com www.lovegivesmehope.com http://www.myspace.com/saveyourselfrescueothers Maybe have her listen to The Last Night by Skillet It's a very powerful song. I hope that you can help her, and feel free to send me a message on here, and I will try to help you to understand/get more ideas of ways to help her. <3
My best friend is cutting herself.?
The thing with cutting is, you can seem to have everything, the whole world at your feet and have the best life, but you can still be hurting inside. I've known people who do it for attention and I've known people who have just hoped that one cut, at least one, would be too deep and kill them. It is a problem either way and it needs to be fixed. She needs help, sit her down, tell her how great she is and how much you care for her and then express your feeling towards this. tell her that no matter how bad she thinks it doesn't look or how many times she wants to send you pictures and say "it's not so bad" it IS bad and it's hurtful to herself and the ones who care about her. It's like an addiction and she won't just STOP! She needs HELP! You need to tell her that if she won't listen to you and have your help, you WILL tell someone else and the can help her. She may not like it, but in the long run, you could very well be saving her life. Also, you should know that by her cutting herself on her legs and not her wrist, is a way of "hiding" them, which means it's getting worse and she probably has cuts all over her body that you don't even know about. They become very visible on your wrsit and people start on the legs and upper arms, sometimes the stomach even.
How should I stop a friend who cuts his wrist?
Your intentions might be correct…but I believe you are wrong.Before you “stop” a person from cutting, understand, and I mean fully understand why your friend cuts…what is the out come of the cut besides the cut…if you can’t understand it…then you can’t help and who says that your freind wants to stop. Is it helping your freidn to do what he is doing…and are you only stopping him becasue you believe that your right in the fact that he shoudl stop.Why should he stop…Im not saying cutting is good but cutting does help…know this before you try and stop him.if you tried to stop me without knowing why i did it….I would just push you away…no longer freinds. okay so be careful.oh and who are you doing this for? are you stopping him from cutting himslef becasue you hate to see him harm himself or are you doing this becaue you just dont like it and don’t understand it.
My best friend is cutting. What should I do as she won't listen to me and I need her to stop?
From what you said it doesn't seem likely that she would go further with this behavior. Both her not doing anything very bad with it and the fact she doesn't seem to mind that you know tell me that it isn't as bad as it seems. There are things you can do to try to get her to “cut” something besides herself, find some things to pique her interest that also blow off steam. For some that might be mudding out in the country, not great for your vehicle but it really is a rush. Mudding is purposly taking your vehicle in a place not many others would go, and having the most fun possible messing around and getting out of it fine…just dirtier. Along with something that can consume her thoughts you need to find out why she feels like she needs to hurt herself so directly. Most people focus on hurting themselves when they feel completely out of control in every aspect of their lives and poweless to change it. The one thing they can control is what they do to themselves. Perhaps you can help her to understand this and stop the current pastime. If you ever have any feelings that she may do more than superficial wounds, please realize that no matter what she may think of you for doing it you need to get immediate outside and inside help.
Should I tell the teacher my friend is cutting herself?
Absolutely. This is an issue that could potentially kill her if she does it in a certain way. She seriously needs help, and as a past cutter myself, it doesn’t lead to a good path. I got over this, and I would like your friend to get past this dilemma as well, so you need to tell the teacher, she will take care of this matter.
How can you help someone stop cutting?
Sadly, I can answer this as I used to do the exact same.The best way to help someone to stop cutting is to show them that you actually care about them. Don't pry into their life (nor the reason why they do it), instead just sit there with them and talk about other things. When they trust you enough, they will open up themself. Don’t get all high and mighty the next time you see new scars on them, and definitely don't say that they “shouldn't do it” for whatever X reason. We know that. It just pisses us off and gives us another reason to cut.Love, care, and patience are critical here. Love to show them that there are people out there who care about their well-being and them, care to show them that the love isn’t fake, and patience to show them that you are willing to wait until they feel able to open up to you. This may take a while, but it will ultimately help them to stop altogether.Once you get to that point where they open up willing to you, don’t condemn them. Be supportive, and sympathise with them. Having a judgmental attitude or retiring your care for them will make them shut up and want to cut again. Most cases of cutting come with depression. It is very hard for depressed people to open up about their feelings, as we believe that either people don’t care, or they’ll hate us for feeling a certain way. That’s why people cut—it’s a self-relieving method for all those pent up emotions.I cannot stress how important it is that you don’t judge them. They are a human being with emotions that they don’t know how to cope with anymore. If you can make them feel important, you will have taken a huge leap in helping them.I will mention as well that you shouldn’t say anything about them getting help, like going to see a doctor or a psychiatrist. This will make them feel like they are an abnormal human being unworthy of love from others. Once you can see a great improvement in their cutting, and it has been a couple (I would say wait at least 6) months since the last time that they did, then you may suggest it, but still be very careful about your wording. Perhaps tell them that you care deeply for them and you wish that they could feel better completely.