How do I stop worrying about a class I failed?
Read this recently. It would be fetching you much !!!"I was really stressed before my Economics paper, when my blood sugar dropped to a really low level. I collapsed and even my calcium levels dropped as a result - all my muscles stiffened and I couldn't breathe. I don't remember much else, except waking up in a hospital bed, glad to be alive. What was all the stress for? One paper that would define my life in what way? I decided then and there that I just wanted peace and I wouldn't let any exam, job or promotion get in the way of my happiness. Nothing in life should stress you out to the point that you can't breathe."
How do I stop worrying about silly things?
Whenever you're worrying, think about how much it's going to matter and for how long.If you realise it's not going to matter 5 minutes later, don't even think about it. If it doesn't matter in 5 hours , don't spend more than 2 minutes worrying, 5 days , 5 minutes and so on.If what you're worrying about is something you cannot change , learn to accept it and move on. Strive to focus your efforts on making a difference and don't spend time on things that won't make a difference.Do that and you'll find yourself worrying about the right things and improving your general temperament because you're not even considering trifle issues. This saves you a large amount of time and energy, and even helps you keep calm when you have a real issue at hand.(But hey , practice what you preach , and this is not that easy . Many times I feel compelled to worry about something that will never matter , and I need to force my brain to think about something else. It's hard but not unattainable, so keep trying.)Good luck!
How do I stop failing school?
Change your study habits. Try this:The moment you get home from school, start your homework.Find out what it is that’s distracting you: Do you spend hours a day playing computer games? Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend that you text all day instead of studying? Do you play sports in school and have little time for your work? Once you know what it is that’s keeping you from your work (if there is something), you can work around it or eliminate it to get your work done.Get help. If your school has a tutor, go to them. If you know friends, family, or accquaintances that are skilled in a certain subject, find out if they’ll help you out. If you aren’t aware of anyone personally that can help you, try Khan Academy (khanacademy.com). It’s a wonderful resource that teaches almost anything.Stay organized. Get a planner, a calendar or some sticky notes to help you stay on track. This will help you not to forget deadlines when certain papers or assignments are due.Hope this helps!
How do I live a confident life and stop worrying about failure and others opinions?
Originally Answered : Am 24 and still I don't feel I act mature or confident or speak like a confident man.How can I change?(I have suffered a lot of failures in my life..have been in depressing situation.now am 24 and still feel that i dont act mature or confident..some times i just become angry on small small things..please help and tell that what should i do to change.)My Answer :Firstly, I can see a real urge in you to change! Congratulations!Secondly, I can see that you are too critical & judgemental about yourself!Where did you pick this habit from & When?If you can give yourself some unconditional love and support, I think that will spring a lot of nourishment to your soul!Is there a friend or mentor, you can find to support you in this?What are the good things about you? Can you write them down and read it every day?You want to speak like a confident man. Who is this confident man? Whom are you comparing with?How do you exactly like to speak to resemble him and Do you know what is that you have to do in the way you speak, to come across to yourself as confident man?I would say..Give up comparison…Be Yourself..Confidence arrives when you are not too critical about yourself…Confidence arrives when you accept the way you are …and if you are in a positive environment at home/work, that would be easy.The other word for failure is experience…It seems You have accumulated a lot of experience in your life.Confidence comes from WisdomWisdom comes from experienceexperience comes from failures.Convert your failures into wisdom, by reflecting on the experiences.Wait with Patience…Buddha inside you will blossom out of this cluttered mind like the lotus blossoms out of the muddy water!!All the best!
How do I stop worrying about college ?
Can't you just apply without choosing a major? I understand that there may be a different application process for vocational studies such as HVAC, and academic studies such as electronics engineering, but aside from choosing between vocational and academic, you probably don't have to decide a major right away. If you have reason to believe you'll fail math classes (e.g. if your grades in math in high school were below a B) then I agree you need to avaoid engineering. If you did fine in math in high school (As and Bs) it's ridiculous to be frightened of a course just because it's math-heavy. I can't imagine where you could possibly live that there isn't a need for HVAC technicians; if there's no need for heat, then there's a need for AC, and vice versa; but most places in the U.S. require both. So do that if it interests you (you'll need some math, but nothing like engineering). Or if not, just apply to for the transfer degree program (the first two years of a bachelor's degree). You can always change programs later if something pops up that interests you, or you can take the prerequisite classes for something like nursing, EMT or radiology technician.
How do I stop thinking about my flaws and failures in the past?
Live, learn and move on.That should be life’s motto.unless we had a time machine then that would be a different story. But we don’t. At least as far as I know and if there was one available I would probably go back in time and delete this answer because it no longer would be a good answer.Out of every lesson there is good and bad. You just have to figure out what to take from it. These lessons are there to teach us how to prevent them from happening again.You’ve mentioned that you have flaws and failures and my response to that is don’t we all? The only difference is that I’ve learned to accept these flaws and failures that I’ve moved on. The second I acknowledge them is the moment I go back to making those same mistakes again, and the moment I focus on my weaknesses is the moment I forget what my strengths are. So if you want to move on and grow. Learn from your past failures and focus on your strengths. That will always outweigh any of the negatives.
How do I stop worrying, take risks and accept that I've made mistakes?
By realizing you’re supposed to make mistakes. As a music teacher, that’s one of the first things I tell my very young students because they’re usually afraid of making mistakes. I tell them if they didn’t make any mistakes, they’d be teaching me.There is no growth without failure. None. Successful people fail and average of 5 times more than unsuccessful people. Why? Because they put themselves out there so many more times. And then, instead of thinking, “I guess I just can’t do that,” they think, “Okay, that’s not the way to do it. Let’s try this.”Do not try to stop worrying about your fear of risk. Ain’t gonna happen. But fear is good. It keeps you alert, it tells you what to look out for. But you can’t let it run your life, even though that’s exactly what most people do.As far as I know, there is only one way to get past your fears, and that is to head directly into them. No amount of logic and convincing, etc. will do it because emotions are not logical. When I was testing for my instructor’s certification in Scuba diving, there was this one skill we had to perform that was the most difficult one for everyone every class. I practiced for a while. Then, I don’t know what happened in my head, but I got this image of running directly towards the edge of a cliff, arms waving, head shaking, not knowing what I was doing, but doing it anyway.I told the instructor I was ready to test. I did it perfectly. Of course, everyone else had to then do it perfectly, and they did. The instructor was floored. He’d never had a class do that well.Another time, I was at a park with waterfalls and I really wanted to dive, or at least jump, off the high rocks like everyone else was doing, but I was sticking to the low ones. Then I told myself, “Susan, you want to do this, so you know, at some point, you’re going to talk yourself into it. So, why don’t you save yourself some time and trouble and just do it now?” Why that worked, I am not sure – I know it wasn’t the logic of the it – but it did.Getting the point? Do you want to stay where you are, as you are? If not, you have no choice but to take chances, risk failing, and actually fail. You will fail. Count on it. Thomas Edison’s phonograph worked the first time and “I’ve never been so taken aback [thrown off balance; stunned, etc.] in my life! I’m afraid of things that work the first time.” That may not be an exact quote, but that’s the intent.Hope that helps.
How can I stop to worry about my grades?
Worrying is a useless emotion, it doesn’t do any good for anyone! (size 72 font).Fear on the other hand is healthy in small doses. Why? Fear is the reason why most people trend to worry about tests, grades, friendships, holding conversation… blah-blah, basically it helps us self-reflect, possibly even in the moment.Fear about failing a test is ‘normal’. Worrying about failing is not going to change the situation, as you stated; it usually turns out fine. In fact - the majority of situations that people worry about tends to turn out fine.What’s the worst case scenario? Seriously? You fail the test/exam, and your grade point average might drop - that’s literally it, right? There’s no monster under the bed that’s going to drag you off in the middle of the night, due to your preparing for the exam and studying and working hard for your grades. There’s no boogy-man in the closet that is going to grab you… nope. Just a bad grade.(I’m not mocking you, I’m trying to prove the point of thinking of the worst case scenario).We worry so much as people about everything, but we forget the reason why we got there. We were afraid of something, but then we let that fear move into an unhealthy and irrational mode. Put it on a leash, don’t let it run you.“(But) I can’t stop worrying after exams”, yes YOU can. We can all stop worrying. We can put it back into perspective and quiet our minds when they run around aimlessly, it’s a question of ‘do you want to?’. If the answer is yes, then do it.Worrying is crippling. It prevents us from doing what needs to be done, moving forward and focusing on the next task at hand. In this case you’ve turned your exam in, it’s over. Sigh/breath, move forward. Study (not like a crack head, don’t replace worrying about exams with worrying about studying, but do something else).Examples:Again - fear is ‘normal’. Fear let’s us decide what we’ve done wrong, if we missed a question, if we possibly should take the dark street in the middle of the night that has cloaked men in masks.Worry is deciding I’m not going down the street, I’ll stay on this street that’s lit up with people walking around me, near shops, but instead of feeling safe you zone in as if you were walking down the ally-way of the dark street - it’s a useless emotion, probably the only useless one!
I keep on making mistakes at work and it gets me really anxious. How do I stop making these mistakes?
Mistakes is a part of life. You can’t stop making them. It comes with doing, or being in action. Mistakes happen.I understand how mistakes can make you feel, anxious.Instead I would encourage you to find the lesson in the mistake.What did I do to cause that mistake?What worked?What didn’t worked?What can I do the next time to create the desired result?Are my actions aligned with what I need to achieve?What skills/knowledge/expertise do I need to be successful?Are my goals/expectations realistic?Successful people make more mistakes than they succeed. Take for instance baseball players. The best batting average right now is .340. Which means they hit the ball a little better than 3 out of ten times at bat. Which translates they strikeout 7 times out of ten.That’s how life works.I would suggest you do a couple of things…One, figure out why does the anxiety exist for you. What stories do you tell yourself about mistakes and failure? What did your parents or teachers tell you about making mistakes, being less than perfect, failing? How does making mistakes affect your sense of self-worth, if it does?Second, get curious as to what happened? Ask the questions I suggested above. Maybe ask a friend or a colleague for feedback on how you can learn from your mistakes.I hope that helpsCharles Sue-Wah-SingBusiness & Life Coach at www.agentsofway.com
How do I accept mistakes I've made and move on from them as opposed to beating myself up for them?
I suspect (but I could be wrong) that you might be getting something out of beating yourself up -- even if, rationally speaking, the benefit, whatever it is, doesn’t outweigh the cost of feeling horrible. In my experience, people who beat themselves up endlessly are usually people who believe in “good.” That is, they have an idea of what a good person is or does, and they are always worrying that they are falling short of that ideal. As a result, they beat themselves up. What’s interesting is that beating yourself up for not being good is what a good person would do. A “bad” person couldn’t care less. So by beating yourself up for not being good enough, you paradoxically reinforce how good you really are.Here’s something for you to think about. Would you be offended if someone attributed your inability to get over mistakes to your extreme sensitivity or conscientiousness? What about if someone attributed your inability to get over mistakes to your arrogance or extreme narcissism instead? In other words, deep down, do you see this inability to get over things as coming from your best nature (i.e., the part of you that wants to be good and do the right thing) or your worst -- i.e. the part of you that unconsciously believes that you should be held to a higher standard than others, presumably because you are capable of doing better (than others), which could be seen as a form of arrogance, disguised as its opposite? If you see it as coming from something good in you, then I suspect it will be difficult to change. But if you understand that it’s probably paradoxical, that it might come out of both a desire to be good as well as a wish to be superior to others (which is ironically rooted in a feeling of being inferior), then I think you can change. Although how, exactly, I don't know. But you have to look hard at why you do this, because it’s not likely just random. And being honest about why you do it might help point to the answer.Just to be clear: I’m not saying that you’re enjoying beating yourself up (on the contrary, I believe that, at least consciously, you hate it). But people are complex, and we do things for paradoxical reasons.