How do I tell my best friend I just cut myself?
If you wish to talk about cutting yourself with your friends, you should take your time. Make sure that your friends are trustworthy and would understand you. A lot of times there were people that would spread around rumors from something like this without noticing it. Also, make sure that you don’t scare your friend too much, talk to them calmly and slowly. This will not only help you say what you need, but also let your friend figure out whats going on and to help you. Also, I’m not trying to make you not tell your friends things and be paranoid. I am merely warning you before the damage happens.I had a friend that would cut and starve herself, and I wanted to help her. Over the years, I would check her wrists and legs and ask her about her. Sometimes she would be annoyed, or be a little aggressive, and that’s okay. But most usually, she wouldn’t mind too much about it, and actually treated it like a casual thing. After a few year, she stopped cutting herself and she began eating again. Slowly and slowly, I began to tell that she was getting better. She had a stronger and healthier body, and she no longer had cuts all over her body.
Should i tell my best friend i self harm?
Ok obviously these other people have no idea what self harm is about. I would definitely tell her, i don't know how hard it is to come out, but i imagine that coming out about self harm is slightly easier. She may be upset but that's just because of what it is you are doing. And if you tell her then you have someone to talk to, and that might help you stop (if that's what you want to do) and even if you don't want to stop then it might just help you cope with life in a better way. So i definitely would tell her if i were you, i told a few of my friends over msn, and it upset a few of them but they have all been really nice about it and tried to help me cope, so it's a really good idea and very helpful. Hope this helps good luck :)
Should I tell my best friend I used to self harm?
Its now been 4 months since I last hurt myself. I am stupid and I am so angry I allowed myself to fall into this horrible habit. After I saw the scars I knew I had to stop - and I have. But recently I have been wanting to start again. I can not describe why and if I could redo anything in my life it would be ever cutting myself in the first place. But I can't and I keep wanting to take out the piece of glass I keep in my drawer... I haven't told anyone and I feel so alone keeping this secret. The scars on my wrist are a constant reminder of my weakness and sadness , always with me wherever I go. This makes me want to cut for being so stupid which in my head I know is idiotic but it's what it is i guess. Should I tell my best friend? We have been friends since 1st grade. I don't want to burden her and I don't want our relationship to change. How would I tell her? I honestly don't know if I can. She has asked me about a cut she saw in the past but she believed my lie and I wore a watch over them for the rest of the healing process and I haven't cut since in fear of burdening her. Advice? Thanks.
How do you tell your best friend you self-harm?
POSSIBLE TRIGGERS. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED.Walk up to her/him. Ask if you can talk in private and if they're talking to someone else, try not to make it seem as if you're going to gossip about the person they're talking to. It's rude and hurtful if you do that. Next, take them into a place with no one around. In a situation like this, I truly believe that words can make the situation worse. It's also easier if you feel like you're going to be emotional. If they ask what's going on say something like “Wait a sec.”Reveal to them your cuts without saying anything still. If they're a true friend, they won't go off on you by making fun of you. If they hug you or cry, let them. Lastly, explain. I almost promise you they will ask about it. If not directly, it will be indirectly like, “Are you okay? What's wrong?” or something like “What happened?” Then, explain. If you don't want to talk about it, tell them politely. This is a sensitive subject and they might be emotional.
My friend is self harming?
My best friend is self harming herself. We found out why because she is having very big problems at home and she is cutting herself on the wrist and now recently on her legs. We've tried talking to her about it and to tell someone but she changes the subject. I've tried to offer her my mums help as she expertised in this kind of stuff but she says ok but never brings it up again. I want to go and tell someone but im afraid she'll be upset with me because if i did it would have to go further due to why she is doing it :( What can i do? Help is very much appreciated
What is the best way to tell someone you self-harm?
This depends a lot on both you, your friend, your age, and your parents.If you’re certain your parents would not be supportive and them knowing would do you more harm than good, then tread cautiously with who you tell. But please still do tell someone, self-harming is not a struggle you can get through without talking to anybody about it.In my experience, though, the first step to stopping is wanting to stop. It’s actually really fucking hard to want to stop, because it seems like something you could stop if you wanted. And then it escalates, and I really didn’t believe that at first.This is something that is alienating and difficult, but having friends checking in on you will absolutely help. If you can be brave and tell your good friend, then that’s an amazing first step.
My friend found out that I self harm?
Aww sweetie I know it's hard isn't it? I self harm too. Blame any scars on a cat, falling, running into stuff. Wear an ace bandage to hide it. If you're reported then you can refuse to talk to them. Plus, tell them that it was an accident or something. Go to Target and buy the yellow and green concealer sticks from Physician's Formula and put them on the scars with foundation powder/liquid over them. Stipple on liquid foundation for better coverage. Also, I made this mix to fix my scars: Lemon Juice Vitamin E lotion/oil Baby oil Coconut oil Scrub your arms with a salt scrub to remove the dead skin and fix the scars more easily. Ignore the bullies, and if they realize they aren't hurting you then they'll be wasting their pointless time harassing you. Please, try to stop. I, like many other true self-harm addicts, know that it isn't for attention it's your source of release. If you do get hurt by these people, feel free to message me about it, I'll always lend a sympathetic ear. Best wishes and good luck, notsosecretlove
My friend saw my self harm cuts ,help?
Pleasedont talk to me abt the dangers of self harm or say people who do it only do it for attention cuz thts not true. She only saw my cuts today because i had to take my sweater off in pe since it was so hot, but anyway i got carless and she saw them in the locker room after pe. I tried to avoid her questions becuz i didnt kno what to say to her... but she followed me to the next class and the guy who always flirts w/ me heard her trying to ask me about them. He told me abt his old problems( he used to cut) and said we were 'emo' buddies . Calm downn he was kidding. But anyway i was okay talking to him abt it since he knows the feeling ( he did most of the talkin tho) I know shes goin to bring it up next time i see her & shes just trying to understand but i really dont know what to say to her. She wont understand. the thing is i only just started cutting again . I stopped for like the whole year becuz this year was going so great but im not ready to talk to her abt ANY of this becuz no ones the real reason so what do i say to her when she brings it up?
How can I help my friend who's self-harming?
Self-harm is a symptom that can take many forms. But what to do depends on the situation. First, a caveat: You are a friend, not a caretaker. Being supportive and helpful is part of friendship, but try to keep in mind that you cannot bear the responsibility for the person alone. Being friends with someone who’s self-destructive can be exhausting, and you may need support yourself. Try to stay away from a downward spiral of increasing feelings of responsibility and guilt coupled with isolation. I’ve been there, on both sides, and it’s bad for everyone.But, in terms of what you can do, there’s the long-term and the short-term. Long-term, try to find out why they self-harm (e.g. depression? anxiety?) and try to get them to a professional. And just, in general, be a *friend*. If it’s depression, try to engage them in stuff, try to get them to take a walk with you and so on. Depression is a downward spiral itself and sometimes you need a bit of a push in the right direction from a friend.Self-harm is often a coping mechanism that frequently also turns into a kind of psychological addiction, Short-term, it depends on them. Talk to them about it sometime when they’re in (relatively) good condition.If they *want* to self-harm and don’t want to stop doing it, there’s not really much you can do about the symptom itself. Forcing the issue too much might risk harming your relationship without aiding the person at all.If they want to stop self-harming, but can’t do it alone, help them out in making the self-harm itself harder. If they cut themselves, get rid of their razor blades. If they starve themselves, be a bother about them eating. And so on.