When do you stop taking adult children on vacation?
We are going on a family vacation for one week. We usually invite our adult children to go along if we have room. We asked our son (30 yrs old) to go along this year as well and he said that he and his girlfriend and her children would like to go. Here's the problem. We didn't invite his girlfriend and kids because we don't have the room or feel like we need to foot the bill for grownups with their own jobs. Now the son is mad at us and my husband is feeling terrible. Additional info: We have 4 small children still at home and another in college. Girlfriend's kids are unruly and mom usually leaves dicipline to others. My kids don't care much for her kids because they are such a pain in the butt. Do you think we are being mean? Do you think we are snubbing his GF?
Do parents ever stop trying to control their ADULT children?
Sometimes its hard to tell the difference between genuine need / concern vs. an attempt to control. I say the most powerful tool parents use to control their adult children is guilt trips and judgment. But being the freedom loving person that I am.. I'm growing to resent all the attempts to control me. There have been many times I've caught my parents in a "mind game". One time when I was on a trip my mother call me and started b*tching about how I should of called her when arrived and how she was so "worried". This was late in the day AFTER I arrived btw. I responded with: "If you were so worried.. why didn't you call my cell?" She had no good answer. I'm a grown man and I support myself. I'm sick of all the BS and I don't know how to make it stop. I want my parents to give up on trying to control me and just let me be. How do I get them to cut the crap?
His adult children refuse to even meet me.?
I have been seeing a man for 5 1/2 years. He has been divorced for two years, but was separated prior to that. His daughter is 21 and his son 25. Their mother has told them that I broke up there marriage and they should never have anything to do with me. I still have not met them. When my boyfriend brings up meeting me they get very angry and end up having a fight. We don't live together (100 miles apart), and now he says he can't see a future with me because of his kids being so hateful and worries about me having to be left out of his daughters wedding someday and gandchildrens lives. I just became a grandmother and he has been very loving to him. My sons have known him from the beginning and are 23 and 32. He says he loves me very much, but after all this time to make his kids hate for me the reason to break it off just doesn't seem possible. I have never pressured him about marriage or even living together. Maybe I am a fool and he has found someone else. His ex is very hateful and still sends him nasty texts. She had emailed me several times a couple years ago telling me he kids will never know me and I would never be in their lives. My boyfriend loves his kids very much, but one is 2 hours away at school and his son is married and in VA in the Navy. Sorry this is so long, I am just very heartbroken.
Why isn't viewing Adult/Child pornography illegal?
The internet is a sick place. Many children are exposed to many things they shouldnt be viewing just by the click of a button. National TV already sickens me. Such as MTV and other stupid pop culture stations. I just find it sad that children have more easy access to the internet and its disturbing content. Ive read online at the Us justice website that distributing, engaging, possession (downloading), or producing it is illegal. But why not just ban all sites like those? I have younger siblings and cousins that have already been exposed to viewing these sites and its horrifying. http://www.justice.gov/criminal/ceos/citizensguide/citizensguide_porn.html