My "best" friend has apparently found another "best friend. My feelings are hurt, what do I do?
Me and my friend have been friends since Pre K. We are both 27 now, so we have been with each other for years. Been through everything together. Lately, I've felt blown off, left out, not thought about. She has been off with this other girl. They work together, they talk on the phone. They go to each others houses. Their kids play together. She doesnt act like she wants to come to my house for her daughter to play with my son. She really is starting to act too good to be my friend. Yes, we are both married, and have jobs, and kids, but get this, her hubby and mine are BEST BUDDIES. She just recently got married, and she waited 2 weeks before the wedding to even ask me to be a bridesmaid. NOT the maid of honor. This new friend of hers was the MOH. Even though SHE was MY MOH at my wedding... What do I do? What do I say? I feel as though all these years, and all the things we've done are worth nothing, that I'm not good enough anymore. I am being replaced. HELP!
Do some women act differently in front of their friends?
Depending on the women yes. The thing about that is all women act differently around some friend, because all our friends are different. Right? Such as being with the shy friend she will get quiet, the hyper friend she will become outrageous, now for the bitchy kind of mood that can mean rather she is trying to compete with that friend or impress her. Almost every single human being does this, man or woman. It's just like when you talk to different people you have to watch what you say. Hope this helped :)
Apparently, I'm "too innocent"?
Just be thankful that he's putting you first in this! If he's saying you're "too innocent" it isn't a bad thing at all, it just means that you and he are not meant to be together. One of my best friends was "too innocent" for the boyfriend she got with. She had never had a boyfriend, been kissed or anything before him. She really liked him for ages and he didn't really look at her, but things sort of changed and they started texting and stuff and eventually he asked her out. I and all my friends warned her about him - he first had sex age 12, had been in 2 one-year-long relationships before that and had slept with 9 people by the time they got together at age 17. She assured us all that he was respecting her and that they both really liked each other, but after being together for TWO MONTHS he had convinced her to sleep with him. She has told all of us since then that she didn't want to do it - at that point he had done stuff to her like oral, fingers etc. but she had never done stuff to him as she was completely inexperienced, and mainly, SHE DIDN'T WANT TO. She said the first few weeks of sleeping with him she never even saw his willy because she was scared to look, she didn't want to see it. She just looked away when he got it out and let him do what he wanted. They've been together about a year and a half. She doesn't really drink, never would DREAM of smoking, and although now she is quite comfortable with having sex and she loves him very much, HE drinks so much vodka the doctors have told him to stop, he smokes despite her asking him not to, and he went on a lads holiday last week and kissed 4 girls and had unprotected sex with another. And she forgave him, because she's in love, and much of her confidence, independence and happiness is tied up with him. So yeah, these are the dangers of getting with a bad boy. All our friendship group (the guys have known him since primary school, and the girls have known her since primary school, and we've all been a large mixed group for about 2 years now) said they thought that she had finally changed him, that he is at last in love, and willing to commit. But he cheated. A lot. Just stay away, he's probably doing you a favour here :)
Is it normal for my boyfriend to be talking to his female friend every day?
Depends on what they talk. I have a girlfriend. However there was one girl who used to talk to me regularly.One day she told me that she is down (I didn't knew what that meant) and is in terrible pain and that she needs to talk to someone. She talked for an hour over phone call that day.Another day she sent me pictures from saloon where she was getting her hair removed by waxing. I never told my girlfriend what we talk nor did she doubt me.Then one day this girl started asking me if I had sex with my girlfriend. I did not answer as that is my personal matter.Then one day I went to watch movie with this female friend and when I dropped her home after the movie she told me that she had a breakup with her boyfriend. Then started telling me that she used to have intense sex with him. Then told me that no one is at her home. I got the message but chose to ignore and left.However, few weeks later she called me drunk from a party and told me that there is no one to pick her up and requested me to pick her. Worried I could not tell my girlfriend about it, she was anyway at her home. I told her over phone that I am going for a boys night out for drinks.By the time I reached the party venue which was an apartment, I couldn't find my female friend in the house. When I search for the rooms I found her making out with a guy on the balcony. I felt awkward and waited for them to finish. Their acts were causing sexual desire in me too and I was not able to move away.However, I was able to control my desire and left the party without saying anything..I have been avoiding this female friend since then.So it all depends. If your boyfriend's female friend is like the one I had, it should raise red flags.
My girlfriend has a lot of guy friends. They always ask her to hang out alone. Should I be worried?
Thank you for the A2A, @Rochelle Thundercloud.I guess the best way I can answer this is to tell you what I myself would do if I were the girlfriend with a lot of guy friends who were asking me to hang out alone. I would politely ask my friends if my boyfriend could join us. If they said “yes,” well then, great. If they said “no,” I would decline their offer. If my male friends were just my friends and nothing more, I would hope they'd get to know my boyfriend and include him in our plans. If I had a male friend who said, “Hey, let's hang out today, just the two of us,” knowing that I had a boyfriend, I would find it inappropriate.I never had a lot of guy friends, but I had them here and there. I had a close male friend when I was in my twenties. He was unattached for most of the time we were in contact. Sometimes he and I would go to dinner together, just as friends, nothing romantic. When I began seeing the man I eventually married, I told my friend that I still wanted to have our friendship, but that I didn't think it would be appropriate to go to dinner alone with him anymore. My friend laughed and agreed, saying “Of course not! It wouldn't look right!” And it was never an issue.I know how it feels to be on the other side of it, too. At the beginning of my relationship with my husband, he had a female “best friend” who regularly invited him to do things, like parties at her house and going out with her to the bars, and she never extended her invitations to me. She also wanted to accompany him on car rides, like, say, if he had errands to run or places to go. She wanted to spend the day with him if it was his day off from work. From where I was standing, her behavior looked shady, and it didn't make me feel very good. It made me wonder what her motives were.I have also been the close friend of a guy who met a girl and began a relationship. It wouldn't have ever crossed my mind to invite him to do anything without inviting his girlfriend too. I think that inviting him to hang out one on one with me would have made it look like I wanted to be more than just friends. I would have felt like I was disrespecting his girlfriend, and I wouldn't have wanted to hurt her feelings or make her doubt my sincerity.That is my answer. I hope it helps.
Apparently I'm really pretty, but guys never hit on me or ask me out? Please help?
It may be that you do not smile much. If you don't smile and just walk by someone without stopping to say hi, it can come off as snobbish. Perhaps you don't radiate warmth. I'd start by showing I care. If you're eating a bag of potato chips and sitting next to someone, ask "Would you like some?" If you're going to a restaurant with other people and there is a pitcher of water on the table, try refilling their drinks for them. Definitely smile more. If people ask you how is your day, instead of saying "I'm fine." say "I'm fine, how are YOU?" etc etc. On my way to work, I once saw this big box filled with little chocolate snacks, and I just thought, "Hey, I want to try some but can't finish it." And then I thought, hey, maybe I should bring it to work! So at work, I passed out little chocolate snacks to everyone and left some on the counter and wrote in my office's chatroom, "Hey, if anyone wants more I left some on the front counter" and people were definitely really happy. I think making friends and making boyfriends come hand in hand. Everyone appreciates someone who is friendly and thinks of other people.
Apparently I'm intimidating?
Depends. If you are very pretty and very confident that may cause some guys to shy away thinking their odds are not great. You could also be rude and have a sharp way of speaking that makes guys go the other way. I can't speak for all guys just myself. I have no problem with a strong woman, able to express her views, comfortable in her own skin and aware of her own beauty. I do have a problem with a woman who thinks she is the smartest, finest,always right and Gods gift to humanity type women. Relax, soften the eye of the tiger look, listen more than you speak, show interest in the other persons thoughts and ideas, know that you are not perfect and do not expect everyone else to be. I just want to see a human side to women they do not have to dumb down or be submissive just save the goddess act I know women can't walk on water and beauty is only skin deep.