What to first email your college roommate?
"hey this is ___ ____, and as i'm sure you have found out, i'm your roomate! i just wanted to get in touch with you and see what your plans were for moving in this fall, and what you needed me to bring, etc. i'm looking forward to getting to know you, see you soon! " try something friendly and conversational, along those lines. that's what i would do :)
What do you say to a college roommate you don't know the first time you email them?
An introductory "Hey, I'm your new roommate" email is absolutely appropriate. You don't have to get ultra-personal, but you can tell her some of your interests (intended major, etc.) and ask about hers. Also, it would be a good opportunity to find out what appliances and other stuff you or she may be bringing so you don't double up and eat up space unnecessarily in your dorm room (hotplates, stereo, fridge, etc). How exciting for you, enjoy your freshman year!!!
My roommate is failing college?
Most? I don't think so. But yes, it happens. Most freshmen are relatively new to adulthood, to being allowed to make their own choices and expected to cope with the consequences of those choices, and not all of them handle that new freedom well. Some of them will get their acts together, and others will still be engaging in the same pattern of behavior when they're 40. My first roommate failed out at Christmas and I think you'll be a lot less frustrated if you accept that he is an adult and that it's not your job to help him, he doesn't appear to want your help anyway, and no matter whether he can't or just won't keep up, you can't force him to succeed. To the extent that you enjoy spending time with him, enjoy it for the next 6 weeks. To the extent that you'd rather focus on other things, do them instead.
Umm, I'm in my first year of college and my roommate ditched me, now I feel bad?
So like, it's my first year and I was looking forward to it. My roommate's this nice girl. We've only been roommates for no more than a month, so we haven't had the time to get into fights or anything bad. She has a boyfriend and spends a lot of time with him. They have dinner and have dinner again, and then do it again. It seems like they're always having dinner. But anyway, she started sleeping over his dorm and then it became like every night and now it's all the time, I don't know how his roommate feels about it. In all fairness, she's not obligated to be with me and spend every waking moment with me and all, not saying that. But it's like her clothes are here, her pictures are up on the wall, and she comes to shower and all, but otherwise, it's like our double has become a single. And I guess I'm just feeling lonely that I don't have that roommate bond everyone else seems to have, for the most part, with their roommates. So I just feel bad. Is this okay? Like she ditched me as a roommate.
Fear of living with roommate in college?
This is a time to learn. and at college you end up learning more than just academics. What are you going to do at a job when you are in an office with other people. tell them all to be silent so you can get your work done? What are you going to do when you get married? have children? Or just need a room mate to pay the rent? YOU need to adapt and compromise My daughter's first room mate had OCD. Her roomie needed to learn that if my daughter's bed or desk was a mess it was no concern of theirs. My daughter needed to learn to keep the floor and common areas clean. You are not going to be able to tell co workers how to keep their own area/desk If you need silence while studying, go to the library. A dorm is always going to have some noise going on. Many dorms have study rooms you can reserve. You are going to have to be quiet for your room mate when up so late. and you can not expect your room mate to not use the room if you take a nap at 2pm. Know your room mate's schedule. nap while they are at class. Just make it clear the first week you do not want to share. My daughter and her first room mate didn't share anything. Last years roomie was wonderful. they shared many things. but always asked first. My daughter has allergies and bad asthma. actually living in the dorm was better for her. no carpet, no drapes, bath and hall cleaned daily. and many dorms have great air filtration systems. Many college kids get sick. stress, living away from home, and so many living together. Use Lysol wipes a lot. door handles, light switches. Many dorms have single rooms. Very few freshman get them. and it will cost you more money. send in your housing deposit and form as soon as you get it from the college and request a single Sorry but allergies and OCD is not going to get you a single room. And you are not going to be able to switch rooms just because you and your room mate are not getting along. I have two kids in college and a sister who is head of housing at an university. If you move out of your room, where does housing put you? There is not a bunch of empty rooms to use. dorms are usually filled to capacity. There is very little wiggle room to start moving students around. and talk to a doctor about your OCD. there are medications and therapy that helps