How to deal with a cheap friend?
You do realize that the most obvious question anyone reading this will have is: Why on earth are you calling someone like this a "friend"? I'm sure she has redeeming features you didn't mention, but at some point people need to look at friendships and figure out if the cost outweighs the benefits. I'm saying this because you don't give your age. And I'd imagine most of us have been guilty of hanging on to friendships too long as we pass into our early-mid 20's and the dynamics that worked so well in high school or college no longer apply. You look at her and see the fun buddy from past years, not the crass adult she's grown into! Anyway, if you want to continue with this person, on the restaurant behavior you need to call her out on it, privately if possible. When she doesn't pay her way, she's expecting others to subsidize her entertainment. Figure out what she owes and if she balks, tell her outright that if she ever wants to dine with you again, she's to pay her fair share. The questions are more annoying, but I'm a big fan of replying with questions. "Why do you ask" is my favorite, because if you keep asking ""why" questions, you'll corner her. She might say "that's so expensive" and you reply "but why does that matter"? Just keep pushing with questions.
How to deal with a cheap friend?
we dealt with it like this seperate bills we each had our own and he was left with his own bill and the fool even tried to take tip money left on the table
How to deal with a cheap girlfriend?
O.k. first off all let me start by saying that I never ask my gf for anything. We have been dating for 3 years and living together for 1 and she has never had to pay for a thing anywhere we would go the entire three years (movies, dinner, etc) we've been together. She's recently started talking about marriage so I have been working to pay down some debt I have in perparation for buying a house etc. It's not a ton of debt but I told her I have to buckle down until at least October 2011 (95% of my debt is on a schedule to be paid off by then). So now...when she suggests going out or buying something we don't need, I have been telling her that I don't have the money. Instead of being supportive she gets angry at times and then she tells me I need to make more money. Now mind you...I pay all my bills, I have excellent credit, some money in the bank and I never let my half of our household bills slip - I pay them on time every month. In addition to our individual savings, we both save a bit of money in a couple of joint accounts we have (one is a fun account I set up for us to have money to enjoy ourselves with - which we deplete all the time) the other is for longer term goals which we don't touch. Since I have been trying to pay down my debt she has picked up the tab a couple of times but I still buy all the drinks if we go out somewhere. Together we make a decent amount of money - plenty to live comfortably on but her fathers parents had money = mercedes / beach house etc and her parents paid for her and her siblings to take expensive trips when they were younger, cars, college education etc. They have since hit hard times and have cut way back. My family could not even afford to take a vacation that we could not drive to in our station wagon so her idea of comfortable and mine are two different things. All in all she makes about 15k more than me but you'd think she's supporting me the way she complains about my salary all the time. When she buys something she throws it in my face or if I go to eat something she bought she'll say 'that's mine I paid for it" and I just want to shove it down her throat. I am looking to part time job to shut her up but I am also considering leaving her because of this. What do you think?
Do you think my friend is cheap?
Whenever my friend and I go out to eat, we always split the bill. But the thing is...even if we're just gonna share a $3 order of fries, he tells me to pay for half of it. Today he wanted to go to McDonalds to get some chicken nuggets, and he told me to get $2 for it so that we could share. I don't know...I just think it's odd that he focusses so much on splitting the cost exactly in half for things that are only a few bucks. And if I don't have a couple bucks to pitch in...he doesn't share. Am I the only one who finds this weird? Do you think he's cheap? Also it's not like he's low on money...he has a job and he spends most of his money on clothes and video games.
How can I deal with friends that use me?
This may not be entirely relevant to your situation but I wanted to mention a quote from John Green’s novel The faults in our stars which is “The truth is everyone in this world is going to hurt you. You just need to find the ones worth suffering for.”Now coming back to your question it really depends on, in what way are your friends using you. What I mean is if a friend of yours is say not financially accomplished and he uses you to get him food, drives etc but is a loyal friend and has genuine feelings towards you and you dont have an issue spending a bit extra of ur time or resources on him, then I guess its fine to just avoid the using thing.But if you do have a problem with him and you think he really is a good friend then talk to him about it or just stop being used by him.
Why are my friends so cheap?
What about a better choice of friends?One can deal with a person who is cheap, because some people have circumstances that explain it. I have one friend like that, I am patient because he is generous with everything except money.But if you deal with a crowd of them, then there is something wrong with your choice of friends.Look for friends that are better than you in some ways, not just friends like you, pick them up better than you at sport, or more intelligent, or more successful, or more anything: it helps. The proportion of cheaters miraculously goes down. I don’t know why. Pick up people you admire in the first place.
How to deal with braggy friends?
My friend got a new phone and I KNOW she's gonna start bragging about it. She'll brag about everything and it gets on my nerves. I try to suck it up but she won't stop. I ignore her and she won't stop. I can't tell her to stop because she's gonna cry. Help on what to do?
How do I deal with a very cheap friend who suddenly makes a lot more money?
If you feel like she’s not paying her share, you can either request separate checks or just meet for coffee. Before you see her, make sure she understands that you only intend to pay for what you order and that she’ll have to cover her own expenses.“I’d love to get lunch with you on Thursday, but we’ll have to ask for separate checks because I’ve only got enough money to cover my own meal” will make it clear in plenty of time.It’s about fairness, not her salary nor how satisfied she says she is with the rest of her life.