How do you deal with constant disappointments?
Thanks Mabel Esther for the A2ALooking at the question, I have jolted down a 3 step process ( yes , you read it right, just 3 steps) to overcome dissapointment.Acknowledge your Feelings About Situation:Firstly acknowledge your personal feelings about the situation and circumstances. If you are disappointed, then you admit it openly and honestly. Hiding your disappointment will just prevent you from moving forward.Retrospect on the situation and the disappointment and ask yourself the following questions:What really happened here?What should have happened?Why am I feeling disappointed about this?If you can get answers for all these questions move onto step 2.2. Question your expectations:Always know “With great expectations come great disappointments.”Expecting stuff isn't bad , but try to keep your expectations to a realistic limit so that your degree of disapointment would be lesser.Your unrealistic expectations are going to prevent you from learning and growing from this experience. Again self reflect and ask these questions to yourself.What were my expectations about these circumstances?Overall, were my expectations about all these things realistic?How could I potentially adjust them for next time?If you could answer these questions, then go to step 3.3. Find the silver lining from your situation: Probably the most important virtue to learn from any life experiences but most humans tend to overlook the fact that they learn something from their disapointments so ask yourself this:What did I learn from this experience ?What skills do I have that can help me make the most of this situation?What knowledge do I have that I might be able to use here?What support can I potentially garner from others?What are my strengths, and how can I make the best use of them in this situation?Bonus hack :Accept that not everything is in your control: Always remember that no matter what you do , things can go wrong and it's not in your control. But you can always try harder next time and something good will come out of it.Lastly remember this amazing law so that you can save yourself from dissapointment and live a happy life.Whatever can go wrong, will go wrong, at the worst possible time, all at once, when you least expect it- Murphy's Law.Hope this helps.source:Murphy's law - Wikipedia
How many people have had gender disappointment?
I do. I have two boy's and a third on the way. What really bothers me is everyone I know saying I thought for sure this was a girl your carring like it's a girl. I even took one of those chinese gender perdictions and it said it was a girl and when I took the old wive's tale quiz it said it was 90 percent chance of being a girl. I dream the babiy is a girl. I can't get myself to go shopping for the baby. Now I would say that's pretty bad, I even doubted the ultrasound pic. Sure I cried for a few day's and I blamed my husband but then I relized who the hell am I to be so selfish. Atleast I have children when so many others can't have any and can't afford to adopt one. Just take it day by day as I am and eventually we shall proval. Don't let other people get you down because you have GD. I don't know why we got it and we certainly can't help what we honestly feel but having someone to talk to that relates to you and knowing your not the only one help's.
Am I wrong to be disappointed about my christmas presents? help?
So my bf is 25, I'm 20. We live together and have been together for 2 years. This is our first Christmas together since last year he was on deployment. I work at Starbucks and go to school fulltime. He makes about 5 or 6 times what I do. Yet, I'm paying nearly half of our rent. Anyways, so tonight we opened Christmas presents early since we're leaving to go on vacation tomorrow. He had been bugging me to make a wish list so I did with stuff like new running shoes, Victoria's Secret, jewelry, candles, massage, etc. Not like I want anything but just ideas ya know. I spent probably $350 total on him, I got him a Go Pro camera that he really wanted for his surfboard along with a mount for it, rainbow flip flops that he wanted, and a nice sweater. So I open my presents and he got me a buddha for my room and a candle to go with it (cool i wanted one) and this weird blender thing to make smoothies. and that's it. Now I know I sound like a selfish *****, but seriously? He could tell I was disappointed even though I tried to hide it and he literally doesn't see anything wrong with the fact that he makes so much more than I do but I want to make him happy. I just feel like the effort isn't there on his part. I love him and he loves me and we've had problems in the past but are trying to work through things. I guess my question is am I wrong to be disappointed? Should I just not worry about the money? I just feel like I should have spent the money on myself, like I had to put it on my credit card and pay it off over the next 2 months even. Yet he spends $100s on guns and surfboards. Help? Also my parents sent him a bunch of stuff too from across the country... and he hasn't even sent them a christmas card. i don't understand why he's so selfish but he doesn't get it