I feel so bad for my brother, what should i do?!?
My brother is 26 years old, and i'm 17 years old if it matters. I'll be 18 soon and i always planned on moving out around 18 or 19 years old. But i just feel so bad for my brother that sometimes i lose sleep over it. He's unemployed and he just gave up on life. He tried committing suicide last year twice in a really horrible way. Well anyway, i would ask him why he doesn't wanna get a job, he just tells me that no one wants to hire him, that every time he looks for a job people always reject him. But i just feel so horrible because he's capable of so much more. I'm just afraid he'll be like this forever, and this is hurting me so bad that i'm literally tearing writing this. I feel as if no one cares about him. And i don't wanna move out and he's gonna be all alone by himself. Last night my parents were having financial problems, and i yelled at my brother. I said he needs to grow a pair and get up and get a job. And now i just feel so horrible. He's totally isolated, he never gets out the house. From the minute he wakes up, he's always playing video games and he doesn't have any friends outside the game world. This is hurting me and bothering me soooo much. What should i do?
Called brother a fagoo* i feel bad idk what to do ?
below the first paragraph or so is a follow up to my last question the second half is my new question i'm 13 he's 16 and i walked home from school and came home and i guess they didn't hear me i walked into the living room and i saw having gay sex with another guy i was so freaked out i dropped my bag and ran to my room i'm really freaked out my parents don't get home till late what should i do ?? ok a few hours before our parents got home he tried to knock on my door luckily my door was locked and yes i was still upset and confused so i yelled some pretty means things and now i feel bad i called him a fag*ot and told him to go fu*k ihis man whor* which i now reget now all he is doing is ingoreing me pretending i'm not home and i know he's upset just a hour ago he locked his door and i can hear him crying through the walls i feel like poo* i don't wanna fight with him anymore what should i do other than apolgize ?
I stole money from my brother and I feel really bad?
you should tell him and see how takes it or you should just tell him and return the money at the same time."ex.i took your money and i'm very sorry for that i will pay you back as soon as possible".or "i took your money and im here to return it because i feel bad and im sorry for that"
I knocked my brother out,should i feel bad?
My brother went out to the club with his girlfriend,they where out for about 5 hours,so when he finally came back home he was drunk.He came knocking on my door loud i thought it was the police,when i answered i yelled at him.Then he came in and went in the kitchen and made some food,when he came out he started getting in my face saying that their was barely any food,and that i eat all the food up.I told him i buy the food,so it's not his bussiness,so he got really mad and tried to argue,i told him to shut up,then he swung and hit me in my face,I then got really pissed and hit him as hard as i could and now his laying on the ground knocked out.Should i feel bad?
I feel bad my brother got caught smoking weed?
Idk why but I feel so bad right now. Recently my brother moved back in with us (he s 18) he was only gone for a year. And me and my stepmom knew he smoked weed and she was cool with it and everything, and I sometimes do it myself and she knows but not my dad. Just like 10 mins ago he was on the back porch smoking weed and my dad came down and started going off on him and saying he doesn t need to do that and blah blah blah and he s going to influence me, and how if he doesn t stop he can find somewhere else to live. I felt so bad because he was calling him stupid and all these names, and I still do i dont know why. And my stepmom was like "how can you do this when you know how much we ve been through with your sister, you know your a big influence to her" when he s really not I just enjoy spending time with him, but she knew way before he smoked? And she would always crack jokes with him about it to, and she knows I do sometimes too, so I don t get why she was upset with him. And I feel guilty and bad. And it s not like he got caught he s 18, but then again It is his house but he didn t have to be so mean about it.
Why is my brother so mean? He makes me feel bad about myself everyday, and because of him, I have depression that I have to hide. He always yells at me and calls me stupid. He thinks my dream job is idiotic, and always swears. What do I do?
When I read your question, I look at it totally different than you do. What I’m seeing is, a brother who is jealous of you. He knows that he can say things to you that will upset you and make you feel bad about yourself. That is his way of making himself feel better. His issue is not your dream job, it’s his own deep-seeded feelings of inadequacy about himself. He yells and calls you stupid because he is projecting what he feels about himself. As cruel as it sounds, I believe that sometimes when a person knows that he or she has the ability to cause you to second-guess yourself, that person will deliberately try to dampen your mood and your confidence. See, it’s not about you at all, it’s about your brother.As far as him making you feel bad about yourself, he doesn’t have the power to do that unless you give it to him. If you are confident in who you are, nothing he says can shake you. You are depressed because he hurts your feelings and it causes you to feel down and confused about who you are. I would like to know how old you are and how old your brother is, and who is the oldest? I’m willing to bet that if he is the oldest, he sees something in you that he may not have been able to accomplish yet, and is resentful. Again, it’s not your fault or your responsibility to cause your brother to soar. He has to figure out for himself what he wants and how far he is willing to go to get there. If he had a plan for himself, he wouldn’t have time to belittle your hopes and dreams.
Should I feel bad about not communicating with my brother?
I have to admit, I couldn't even finish reading your details (I will, maybe), because this reminded me of such similar struggle of my own with a family member.I hate to speak ill, so I'm not going to give details about my situation.But I had to learn, through counseling, friends, life, and a degree in psychology from Harvard, that it's okay to distance yourself, even from family, if they are harmful.I tried and tried, and gave chance after chance, because "family" is so engrained in American culture. I wish I had accepted earlier, that family doesn't have to be defined by blood. Though I have to admit, I'd probably still go running to help if I really thought I could help. I myself have been desperate enough to make the mistake of trying to reach out, only to get burned.Yes, family and friends will piss you off from time to time, and vice verse. But if you know, you can feel, that the relationship is just eating away at you...... find better people to spend your time with.I don't think it's necessary to point out that you are cutting someone out of your life. In fact this seems to leave lingering conflict that you may feel the need to address later. So I don't recommend any dramatic, "I'm never talking to you again!"Just gently, give yourself permission to find the people who feed you life for the better, and spend your time with them. Those people can become your family, and you can share holidays, and life experiences, and grow your lives together. Send a greeting card to your brother, but let his calls go to VM. It took me some time, but I can actually delete emails and texts from my person without being tempted to read them.If you have other family and can't avoid him for things like family gatherings, just prep yourself, set you boundaries, and stick to them. This may mean you have to politely leave early, or end a call, "mom, I'll call back later, when we don't talk about him..." And after only a few times of them seeing you are serious, they will ease up. If not, and they can't honor your boundaries, then maybe they are toxic too, and you should add a little distance.You can have a rich and wonderful life with family, just don't think you have no choice in who and how you interact with family.It's a glorious way to live. I highly recommend it.