I feel replaced by my best friend...?
I'm going through the exact same thing right now! I've talked to my best friend about it, too, and she said the same thing. She said she could never replace me. But I feel like she has. And she found a best friend at her new school and they hang out ALL the time and act as if they've been best friends forever and I don't get to see her that much anymore. So, trust me, I know how you feel. It really hurts. Really try talking to her more about it. Tell her that even if she says she hasn't replaced you it honestly feels like she has to you. Remind her about the promise. Tell her that you're not mad about it (you don't want her thinking that you're too possessive) but you're just really sad. And if talking to her about it and trying to hang out and trying to talk to her a lot doesn't work and you still feel replaced, hang out with other friends a lot. Maybe she might start to feel the same way. But, if she doesn't, just continue being friends with her and go on with your life and your other friends. I know it's hard but I think that it's what you (and I :( ) have to do.
I feel like my best friend replaced me?
I feel like my best friend replaced me? She was my best friend and I've known her, for like a really long time. I feel like she replaced me though. We used to talk and hang out a whole lot. I understand she has other friends too, but all I wanted is to talk to her and hang out with her. Now she only talks to her other friends, and she's ALWAYS with them. She told that she can't keep giving all her attention to me. But we haven't even talked in a long time! And I wasn't even asking for all her attention! I was asking for her to be friends again. But now she only hangs out with her other friends. One day, i asked her if she can come over one saturday and we had plans. The she called back and said she can't. I was fine of it because she said her mom had something planned or something. The next day at school, one of her other friends in the group she always hangs out with, tells me that she was over at her house for a sleepover. I was sad, because she stood me. And this happened more than once. She also said she doesn't have much time for me, oh and her group of friends isn't the nicest too. So basically, I feel like my best friend replaced me and I don't know what to do :( I've tried talking to her, but it doesn't help. We were best friends once but now its like, she doesn't want to be with me anymore :( What should i do?
I feel like my best friend is replacing me?
My friend moved away a few years ago.. but we've managed to keep touch with technology and all. But lately she's made a lot of new friends, and she's ignoring me for them. I feel so desperate.. because it's like I'm the one putting all the effort into keeping the friendship. I mean, I've literally never felt so close to someone - EVER. Even when I try to find a "new" best friend, they're never like her. I know I'll never meet anyone else who I can spill all my feelings to. I just don't want to loose my best friend. She said she might come down to see me this week, but now she's making plans with all her new friends, and I doubt she will. It's ALWAYS like this -- she says that she's going to come see me, so I clear my schedule (even going as far as cancelling plans with my friends..) and then she decides not to show up, because she had to go to a "last minute sleepover" or something, and I end up sitting on Yahoo! Answers on a Saturday night. I just feel so pathetic. She's ignoring me now.. and I know I sound obsessive, but that's because I am. Because I've lost so many people in my life.. I guess I just don't want to loose her. What should I do? BQ: Don't you hate that lump you get in your throat before you cry? - OCD
What should I do if my best friend replaced me?
Become self dependent, and only depend on yourself for happiness. Prepare for the worst case scenario, hope for the best case scenario. But seriously, the way your question is asked, it is something you must learn in life that friends and best friends will change and not always be your best friend. If they are replacing you, don’t take it personally. Do not change yourself to try and be like the new friend. Embrace yourself and your personality and find those people that are drawn to you. Don’t be that friend who is desperate and jealous and melo-dramatic. It will only make things worse.You cant force anyone to feel a certain way about you, so you basically should do nothing and let life play out.I can say i have personally experienced this sorta thing when a ex girlfriend of mine was my best friend and i felt like we were drifting apart and she dumped me in the end. Jealousy is such a miserable emotion, and the irony is that it makes the thing you fear get worse. It will make you act immature and childish and unpleasant to be around. On the flip side, when you finally get over it and feel the freedom of not caring about a former relationship, its like getting out of a cage and it feels so good. I don’t know your exact situation and im not saying you should just stop caring or burn bridges, i am just sharing this experience because i learned never to invest too much happiness in someone else’s control, because you are at their mercy.
I feel like I'm being replaced by my best friend, any advice?
I feel like my best friend is hanging out with and talking to someone else more. I don't want to say anything, because I'm afraid I'm overreacting, but what do you think? She always sits by her (and not me), and talks to her. She acts less enthusiastic when she enters a room than when I do. I really need some advice here.
What should I do when it feels like my best friend is replacing me with someone else?
Let the person do what he/she wants to . Just Make sure that the other person knows you care .It's not about replacing you , In life we meet many people and there are some with whom we just want to be friends ,maybe because we feel good with them and we overflow with emotions & all the care of the whole world .May be your best friend have found somebody this type . You can't stop them or force them to be in friendship with you bcz at such time that person can put everything else aside and focus just on that person who he admires. But what about us bcz we admire our friend who admires someone else ?The harsh truth you can't fit yourself into someone else's life just because you want to . That would similart to like you are trying to complete someone's puzzle by putting the pieces of your puzzle , may be it can complete it (which is very rare )but the beauty will fade away .SoFriendships Can Be Complicated .If nothing calms you down then just remember and follow the ruleLET IT ALL GO , SEE WHAT STAYSAnd the one Who stays is the one
I feel As if I'm being replaced by my bestfriend.does anyone have any advice?.thanks?
The exact thing happened to me. We had our arguments that ended up into not talking to each other from a day to months. We don't talk at all anymore. I kinda hate her. She's mad at me. I don't plan on having a friendship with her again. And this is relevant because it might end up this way with you. It's good to make new friends, which is/was hard for me but that's ok. That's normal. It's great to have more than one friend because if things like this happen you've got somebody to "lean on". Make new friends. I did, and things are turning out to seem great. Get closer with your friends. I know my old friend only has one actual friend, so if anything happens she'll be alone. I know what it's like I'm being for real when I say I went through the EXACT same thing. I'd get ditched all the time and get left out, don't let her do that, it isn't right. Tell her about what she's doing and how it bothers you and how important it is for you to see her. I don't know what she's actually like, but be careful because my old friend yelled at me when I said I had problems with her behaviour. She might not be nice about it. If this happens, I know it's really hard to, but try to move on, she's not worth it if she gets mad at you when you point out something you don't like. I know sometimes it seems hard to believe that it happened, and how it leaves invisible scars but try to get through it.
I feel like my best friend is replacing me...?
Hey. I just think you should begin, by not blaming yourself for any friendship that has panned out or is panning out. Understanding how friendships evolve and how they wane and operate, can help dispel all of your misunderstanding about what a real or true friendship is all about. There are stages in friendships, they either intensify, remain in the same way it was for centuries (not really--few years) or evolve or wane. You gotta to find your current friendship category, and be content with it, since not all friendships are developing to a deeper depth. One may have 10 friends in a group, and there are two who are tight, the dynamics being the key. I don't think your friend has consciously gone ahead and done this to hurt you, it just turns out that the fresh new one, makes you feel left behind. There is no guarantee that this friendship of hers will not fade, but for the time being this is the "phase" that both of you are in and she is in with this third wheel. I would evaluate this friendship, and make sure, I see where the blindspots were and is, and the misconceptions and imbalance of who invested more and put more or even less weight on it. This would help you to go forward, in that you would not put more weight on any friendship than is necessary and I am certain if you look back, there were chinks in this armor. Blaming yourself is not recommended, since you are not the one who cooled this down, it was her. She is the x factor and you are the constant in both cases. Based on my experience, there are few real friends, and do think that the term "best friend" is over rated. Sad to say, 90 percent of the time the word is over rated. I view a best friend as someone who can count on in any situation in life and this is usually standing the test of time over 20 or even 30 years. Quit the self blame and questioning yourself, if she comes back after her adventure, fine if not, do not expect best friend status to evolve or go deeper, the per centage is low, and only can be designated based on time and trials and tribulations and tested by these criteria. Hope this helps.
What is a good song about being replaced by your best friend?
I know the feeling well, it's happened to me enough times. I'm sorry you have to go through this, but keep your head up, try and find some new people to hang with (I should take my own advice). I think one of the best songs is: Over my head (cable car) by the fray Basically about everything turning on you, people leaving you, wanting to start over. Some others are: Welcome to my life by simple plan Losing grip, too much to ask, and everybody hurts by Avril Lavigne Iris by the goo goo dolls let me down, hazel eyes, catching my breath, and people like us by kelly clarkson What hurts the most by rascal flatts (also covered by many other artists) Echo by jason walker (my echo is the only voice coming back, my shadow is the only friend that I have) bleed by hot chelle rae here we go again and turn it off by paramore That's as much as I can come up with right now. It's hard to find songs for this situation because so many are about love, but I hope these help. I hope I helped some.