I Feel Very Hopeless About Life And I Don

I feel so hopeless and lost. I don't know where to start with this mess of a life I have. What should I do?

I know how you feel. But see if my perspective can make you feel better.If one feels lost, it’s mainly because he found more than one paths. Nobody goes lost on a straight road. So you are now being more observant to realise more than a few pathways you sought when you were younger.All you have to do is to be calm at first. Only when you are at peace you can decide which path to pick.Now if you see the pathways in front of you, there must be some subject you have in mind to call yourself lost, or the easy word ‘dilemma’. If it’s a job, you are considering many jobs because you are multitalented. If you are confused about a degree course, it might be because you have a litany of more than one interesting course. So you have to take your time, and see which one path will be the primary path which could possibly include the remaining choices/wanting.And forever, the only motivation that keeps one moving forward is love. It’s a force to call yourself off from being lost. If you’re lost, most probably you have no one to discuss your dilemma or you insist on being independent (but in long term, you’re deviated into silo.) If love is a positive force, it’s will either push you forward or pull you forward. That is why extroverts have better chance to move on.To love, the trick is very simple and that is the masterkey for you to not feel lost. For a start, you need to pick one person whom you love the most e.g. mum? When you studied her character out and about (which you definitely have done long time ago), you will have to see the fragments of that character of hers in as many people around you. That will make you feel the presence of the person you love around you at all times, and you will never feel lost again. And even if you feel such, it is only till you meet the next pseudo-loved one.Some people will be based on egocentrism (in a positive way) that their loved one is incomparable. But I have to let you know, every person is a complex of various characters that one of the character blocks is present in another person. So the uniqueness of a person is the complexity of his characters, thus never feel bad to equalize the one character present in the person you love with another person.I know, it’s way too far from the question you ask. But I’d suggest you to give it a try.

What should I do when I feel so hopeless about my life?

The most important thing to do is realize that you aren't in any condition to think clearly and rationally when you feel this way. It’s not because something is wrong with you. It’s just the way humans are.When we are at the low points of our life, we don't see clearly and accurately. When you are standing in a rainstorm, soaked, and shivering from the cold, it’s hard to think about anything but getting out of the rain, finding dry clothes, and getting warm. And that’s they way our mind functions.We are creatures of thought, and creatures of feelings. But both areas can get out of whack. The struggles of normal life can pile up and overpower us. We know something is wrong, but we are able to think our way past our emotions and negative thoughts.There are time when we need the help of others. People who aren’t at their low points. People who can help us get our thoughts together. People who can listen and help us through the hard times.I don't know much about you, such as where you live, if you have friends or family, or if you are religious. You can speak to someone you trust who is in the business of helping others—your medical doctor, a teacher, a counselor in school, or a minister. You can google “Mental health counseling” for your city. There are people who are educated and at trained in helping people. And they want to help.For myself, the first thing I do is turn to God. He is my hope. But you may not know God or believe in him. I don't know, but I will share more if you desire.It’s going to take some energy on your part to reach out. Sometimes its hard to admit that we need help. Sometimes we may even be ashamed. We have to get past that first barrier and take the chance. But I know that I and may other people can tell you that there are people that will help. And there are answers. You can make it through this. But you have to take the first step.

Why do I feel so hopeless?

Feeling worthless so hopeless can be due to low self-esteem which is developed over the period. This could be due to one or more of the following reasons:One.That you think too much but avoid taking necessary action. Too many ideas and very little action always breeds frustration.Two.That you try to do too many things which is not possible for one individual. The lack of focus on one thing that can please you scuttles you efforts which get dissipated and you feel awful.Three.That you may try to do many things at a time and leave them uncomleted. Completion of a job that you have undertaken is extremely important for realising the self worth.Four.That you keep on breeding jealousy with others who have grown and progressed. Jealousy is a normal emotion. But it should be kept under control.FiveThat you help others and expect that they should reciprocate. When they don’t you feel defeated and regret why you ate help in the first place.Six.That you lack assertiveness. Even when you don’t want to do I think simply because somebody has said and you do it. You tend to say yes when you want to say no.Seven.That you avoid working hard. Consider life as a straight line but it is not. There are vicissitudes which you should be prepared to face happily.Eight.That you lack willpower which does not allow you to sustain on a task which you have undertaken.Nine.Your communication is not up to the mark and you are not able to express yourself clearly whenever you want to. Even when you have answers you are not able to give them effectively.Ten.Last but not the least you harbour negative attitude but you find it difficult to accept. Here I would like to tell you that an old American who was in his 80s one said “my life has been full of misfortunes which never took place.” This should leave us with a lot of good common sense.All the best.

I am feeling really hopeless, what shall I do?

Pay close attention to it. Notice the thoughts exactly as much as you can. Notice the feelings, notice the body sensations.Stay in the moment — that’s important. Your job is to observe the experience as precisely as possible, not to try to “fix” it or change it. When you try to fix it, you get frustrated and you give it more meaning that it has earned.The goal is to make peace with “what is” — and when you’re sad, or angry, or hopeless, or shamed, or bitter… that’s what is. What is, is. Yes? Like Yoda, only without the special effects and corny plot line.You’re not defined by your feelings or your thoughts or your experience. It really is OK to just have whatever experience you have, you don’t have to rush in and change it. The idea that it should be some other way is just some preconception that you have.If you get that straight, then you sort of rise to the Zero point — you’re not trying to change things, you’re letting them be. It’s sort of like weightlessness… nothing makes you go in any particular direction when you’re floating in the space station, right?The pain is what it is. The thoughts are what they are.Now… if you just let things be as they are, why would anyone ever do anything?I’ll tell you the answer. You might not get it at first, but keep working the puzzle: true self does things because doing things is how it expresses itself. Self-expression comes naturally to true self. True self isn’t trying to “fix” reality, it’s just being itself, and being itself typically involves actions which have a richness and depth and creative freedom to them. The actions of true self enrich the world.And that’s different than “something’s wrong with my life and I have to figure it out and change it.” Because no, you don’t have to figure it out and change it. That kind of thinking is part of an endless tape loop that I call the “ego maintenance machine.” That kind of thinking never really solves anything with finality, because the way the machine works, there’s always something wrong, there’s always something to fix, and you just never get off that carousel.But if you get to ground zero, where you’re able to just acknowledge what is without having to “push it away” or cling to it, then you have a choice — your life can be about expressing yourself, or it can be an endless and fruitless struggle to fix an infinitely complex problem.Nice choice, huh?

I'm feeling very lost and hopeless at times, What's some advice for me?

Hi Michael,thanks for asking.I took a look at your 'activity' to have some impression about you, as this question would sound very different from a grandpa as from a teenager.I tell you what I think. I still don't know how old are you, but it seems that you would like to lead an adult life. You mention that you would like to start a business that doesn't need education. There are lot of things like that. But! You are still very young and I truly believe that people who found their passion in life and worked a bit to get the fruits, are facing your question fewer times in their lives. You mention Tupak as a sort of ideal for his knowledge. I don't know much about Tupak but you gave the impression of someone who appreciates knowledge. So why not study?I tell you a story of a person I know and appreciate a lot:This boy was born in a torn family and his parents gave all their attention to his smaller brother. While the small one went to a proper school, they sent this boy to become a skilled worker with zero education.But this guy saved up his pocket money and bought a bicycle. He loved that bicycle. He spent all his time repairing it. Than he went to a race where someone saw that bike and asked if he can buy it. Our boy sold the bike and bought an old rusty motorcycle. He loved that motorcycle and did the same like with the bike. Of course he soon sold that too and bought his first car. An old rusty wreck. Guess what? He spent all his time and energy on that car and soon he was the owner of a beautiful old-timer.  That was more than 25 years ago. He continued his studies till a university degree in mechanics while kept on working like a maniac. Now he has a huge company restoring the most expensive old-timers, running his business in different countries.He is one of my heroes.I am not saying that everybody can do what he did. But some can. And for the others there are smother ways to become who you want to be. So, if I can give you only one advise: Find anything that you would/could study and build your existence on your education.  best,p

I'm feeling very hopeless and worried about the future and I want to give up on life. What should I do?

Take a moment to yourself to think over a few common thoughts people normally have, and determine which ones you dwell on the most:"I'll never be happy""There's no use in trying.""My relationship can never get better""I'm too old (ugly, poor, boring, damaged)""Why bother? Nothing will work out."Life is about exploring everything that comes your way. It's trying different things and giving your attention to the ones that interest you the most. There's so much information in the world that it's difficult determining which ones are meant for you.Live in the Now Rather than the EndBe consciously aware that having a better life isn't going to be found watching television, being lazy, mindlessly browsing the internet, or playing on social media. It's exploring the world and testing the waters of each of your general interest. It's sharing your passion and interest with other people whether it's strangers, family, or friends. And if you're searching for what your passion, in Looking for Your Passion? How to Become Like Leonardo da Vinci, it goes about the way of searching for your overall passion in life.You can't expect to find the answer within one day, week, or even month. Never consume your thoughts about the future because it's an entity you can never truly control. Such as your past, the future is only a thought that can never be controlled.Read Books to Explore your mindNo man or woman truly know how to be successful until they read the lives and struggles of those who lived before them. As a person starting off in life, there's 25 Best Self Development Books to read in your 20s that will accelerate your life to reach the point you desire. You pick up ideas, tricks, and tips the longer you read the advice of those who suffered through the same lifestyle you currently have.It's tempting to believe you're the only one struggling with what you're going through, but the more books you read in regard to other people journey, the easier life seems. You start to realize that such as them, you too, can escape the darkness and be the person you want to be.If you'd like more information on what to do when you feel lost, check out:How to Find Yourself When Life Gets Tough