What should I do if I suspect my dad of cheating?
>> What should I do if I suspect my dad of cheating?Pretend you don't. The moment you say something to either of them, you've already taken sides whether you realize it or not .Don't go there; it's none of your business. Let them sort this out on their own. Everybody's going to end up getting involved and then getting hurt anyway…don't rush into anything ,, any sooner than you have to.
I just found out that my dad is cheating on my mom. What should I do?
I’ll start with my little story.I found out my dad was cheating on my mum and wondered the same thing. One night they’d had a fight and he’d walked out. She was worried about him and kept saying how if she knew he had somewhere to go[a mistress], she wouldn’t worry and would just go to bed. I wanted to sleep, you see, so, the idiot that I am, I told her. She instantly grabbed her phone, called him and asked him to come back. He told her to go meet him. Outside. In the middle of the night. In a rather dangerous place. As she was getting dressed and tell me how she “needs to see it with her own eyes”, I told her to go there, saying nothing, bring him home and wait until she can get his phone. Bring it to me and I’ll show her. Well, that didn’t work. The moment she’d met him, she told him what I’d said. Naturally, he denied it. When they got home, he bolted for the toilet with his phone. When he came out 20 minutes later, he handed it to her with a smug smile and told her she can look wherever she wanted to, there was nothing on it. I spent the next year in the dog house, they stayed married for another 6 years.Now, onto the general problems of that situation. Imo, it depends on how your father treats you and your mum(and any siblings you might have). If he’s gentle and caring, let it go. There’s nothing to gain from trying to ruin their marriage if he’s doing what he’s supposed to do. I’ve known plenty of women who were aware that their husbands were cheating but as the marriage was otherwise great, they just didn’t let it bother them and accepted it in much the same way as any other flaw. If, on the other hand, your mum is miserable and your dad is mistreating the family, consider telling her. Assuming she’ll believe you(you can offer any proof you might have) and that she’s looking for a reason to leave him, she should, at least in theory be glad to know. But keep in mind snitching on a parent can have consequences for you more so than for offender.
What should I do if my mom is cheating on my dad and he suspects it?
Honestly, I would stay out of it. I know that is hard. My dad died when I was 19. My parents were married til the day he got killed in a car accident. I never had any reason at all to think either of them was cheating but I know it would have been really disturbing for me if I had known or even suspected that one of them was. I don't think I would have told because I did know about things that both of my parents did that the other would have been upset about (No cheating or anything like that, has nothing to do with that…just things the other wouldn't have approved of) and I never told. I carried the guilt of knowing and keeping it from the other parent and it was difficult. But if I had it to do over again I still wouldn't have told. And I know I couldn't have if one was cheating.That is NOT to say I wouldn't try to set it up so that the other parent discovered what the cheating parent was doing. Cause that, I WOULD do. I think everyone deserves to know if they're being cheated on. I just don't know that it's my place to tell, especially if I were the child of the two people in question. Your dad would be very hurt to find out it is true. Your mom would probably be upset with you for outing her. Your dad is still going to be hurt, but you don't have to completely ruin your relationship with your mom. Maybe just kinda help her get caught and then try to help each parent as they both deal with the fallout.I'm sorry that I can't give you a better answer. It may NOT be what you're looking for. I just know I couldn't do it. I'm going through a lot right now that I could have prevented if I had told my mom the jerk she is married to is cheating on her. But I didn't want to see her hurt. I just sat back and hoped that she would figure him out sooner or later but she didn't and it cost me so much. I may have been able to tell her if I were able to go back but it would have still been hard. And this guy isn't my dad and my mom has only known him for 3 months and married him within like 3 weeks. It's going to be a much harder situation if you're dealing with your actual parents…
I think my dad is cheating on my mum. What do I do?
Nothing. You do nothing.You have these situations that could easily be explained by other things. For example, how do you know she wasn’t a computer engineer? Why do you suspect the phone call - my spouse and I both talk to folks on the phone. Even if it is pretty obvious that he’s cheating, you can’t do a lot about it. After all, it could be your mom knows about it. Yup. Sometimes that happens. You probably don’t know details about their sex life and they likely hide some details of their relationship and issues from you. Now, my own reservation would be that I wouldn’t want to see my mother hurt - but it still doesn’t mean that you have to be the one to tell her, especially if you’ve gotten the wrong idea. Can you imagine the strife the accusation would cause?If you really think you need to say something, say something to your father. You’ll have to explain why you were looking at his laptop and how you know he deletes all of his stuff on his phone . If you snuck around to do it, you’ll probably lose some of his trust because it was a privacy violation. But then what? What do you do if he denies it? Threaten to tell mom nevertheless? The best you could really do then is go to your mom with some concerns about your father’s behavior without making overt accusations.See, sticky situation that really isn’t your business. So long as your parents keep on good terms with you - and provide for you if you are younger - just stay back.
My mom thinks my dad is cheating on her????????
OK, this all started when my dad bought his first laptop around Christmas last year. It was his first laptop, and it cost over 1000 dollars (it was to be used for work. Hes a college professor). Anyway, he would spend a lot of his time on his laptop. I did think it was kinda strange, but I kinda understood why he was on it so much. I mean, it was a nice laptop. And it was his first one. When I got my computer in my room last summer, I was addicted to it too. But my mom had suspicion that he was cheating just because he was on his computer. But I thought he was just excited. Even though I didnt suspect anything, it still worried me that something would go out of control, like my mom would approach my dad and abig argument would break out. My suspicions went away about two months after he got the computer. My dad told me about how my mom was acting really weird, and that he didnt know why she was acting so paranoid about where he was and stuff. And I thought that if he was cheating, then he would have known why she was acting that way. Right after that, my dad wasnt on the computer nearly as often, and I thought nthat he was finally past his excitement phase of his laptop. About this time, my mom got her first laptop, and SHE BECAME ADDICTED TOO!!! Shes still addicted today. She almost always on Facebook playing Farmville. My dad only gets on his laptop late at night. Today, I was waiting on my dad so that we could ride bikes on a trail near our house. He was on his laptop. I told my mom, and she was like: "Do you know what he's doing?" I told her that I didnt, but he was prob just checking students emails. And I asked her what's wrong with him being on his laptop? Youre alkways on it. And she said But I'm playing games. Hes not playing games. I'm the type of person that gets a sick feeling if my mom says that. I'm nearly positive he's not cheating, but my moms sill suspicious? She outnumbers him 5 to 1 on the amount of time spent on the computer. But if hes on the computer for a few minutes she gets suspicious? Shes always on it! Whos in the right? Could my dad be cheating? Or is my mom being paranoid? I need to know so this sick feeling can go away. PS She doesnt have any proof that hes cheating because she would have confronted him if she did. Is my dad cheating and why or why not? Is my mom being paranoid? Why or why not? Thanks.
My dad is cheating on my stepmom?
Hi. Ok so, I love my dad unconditionally. I always will. but what he is doing is so wrong he is 40 yrs old and has three children i am the oldest and im 16 years old. The other two are 3yrs and 6 months old with my stepmom. I couldnt have asked for a better stepmom , i love her and i consider her a mom and everything. She has been the best to me. Now my dad has had this thing going on with this ***** for about a year. She is only 21 years old. ANd im 100%sure she is in it for the money. God I hate her so much. Ive spoken with my dad and he says that he doesnt want to leave my stepmom because she is his bestfriend and she is the mother of two of his children and that he doesnt want to leave this skank because she has been very good to him and that he no longer is satisfied with my stepmom. I told him that he could have it all but not at the same time. Its not fair to any of the women involved, its not fair to my siblings. This skank used to live in venezuela and he payed everything more than 10000 us$ to bring her to miami so she could be with him and study english. Everytime i see her i just want to snap her neck. Please help me i have no idea what to do. My dad is acting like an immature 20 year old and wont reason. Please i cant fathom being in the middle of this. Knowing this and not being able to tell anyone. My stepmom is being betrayed after all these years together. Please help me
Help!!! I think my dad is cheating on my mom!!!?
it all started on the christmas of 2007 and new years of 2008. Me and my little brother were decorating the garage for the christmas party we were having. when i got a call from my older brother saying that he saw someone who looked like my dad at the mall with a lady and a little kid. i really did not believe him at the time so i let it go. until around july of 2008 when i found condoms in my dads truck .... then my dad started asking me to teach him how to text on the phone so i did (and i really regret it ).i can tell when he is speaking to her because every time he speaks on the phone he always has this tone in his voice that sounds like he is talking to a woman one day i just decided to peak over while he was texting and i happened to see that the person he was texting someone named "meli" which i believe is short for melisa about 2 weeks ago we were in mexico (im mexican) and my dad has a friend who i guess he told him bout his girl friend because his friend told my brother out of no were that my dad was in really in love my dad is his own boss and runs a construction company he is partnered with his brother and the are constantly in fights about why my dad is spending too much money my brother says that everyone nows about the gurl i basicly know he is cheating but what my question is what should i do? me and my brother want to confront him about it but dont know how and he also want to tell my mom but we dont want her to get stressed about it she is very dependant on my dad should we tell her ? should we confront my dad? pls just give me advice