I want to leave my husband because?
I'm just not attracted to him anymore, but I have it really good at home and I don't know that I could make it on my own so I'm scared to leave. He's good to me and takes good care of me and our son. Am I being selfish? I just want to be happy.
I want to leave my husband but have nowhere that I can go with my children.?
We have been married for ten years and the first half of the marriage was periodically physically abusive towards me. He has always been emotionally and financially abusive. I have very few friends, and the few that I do have aren't in a position to be able to offer any help. Any time I have ever had a job he makes sure not to come home so I can't make it to work. I had a lot of friends before but he can't ever watch the boys so I can get a little break. I have no help from him. We live with his parents and I think he is perfectly content that way. His parents dont like me. We are different races and they dont like me because I'm white. I want to go to school and do something with my life before its too late. Im 28 years old. I also have severe depression. I tried to commit suicide once to escape it all. He is always telling me I should just finish the job. The way he treats me and my boys is like night and day. He is a good father to them just not a good husband. It's at the point that I can't take anymore. I can't take him and his parents anymore. Im scared I could do something stupid soon if I dont change my surroundings. The only problem is that the only relative who might be able to let me stay with her has a tiny place and her circumstances just wont allow for kids right now. Its also like 500 miles away from my boys. If I were to leave temporarily and leave the boys with their dad only long enough to get a place and get things together and a place to live do you think it would ruin my chances of getting custody of my boys? As long as I have my own house it would be a better environment for them. His mother plays favorites with my kids and favors the oldest only because he looks hispanic and ignores my younger lighter skinned sons. Thats one of my main problems with her. I just want to give my kids a normal home life. Not living with parents, grandparents and aunts and uncles. I just cant take it anymore. ANY advice would be appreciated. One more thing I have a job offer that I could make enough money to have a house and things set up in no more than 2 months maybe less. so i wouldnt have th leave them for that long
I wanna leave my husband but he wont let me take our son.?
under these circumstances, you must leave what I want you to do is when he leaves for work - get packing - then you're going to go to the police station and file a protection order out on him that you fear for your life, then you're going to get into the car and drive as fast as you can to your parents house Call your parents and ask them to start calling attorney's in their area - you're going to have to file for divorce and custody of your son, the day you arrive at your parents house (or the very next day) = so he can't come and try to take him - if you don't do this step he has every right to come into the home and take his son at any time if there wasn't abuse, I'd tell you to go to a homeless shelter - there they will help you file for divorce and get yourself back on your feet again, without moving 8 hours away from his dad good luck dear
Wanting to leave my husband but have nowhere to go and no money. Please help?
I'm 24 years old. I have 3 children all under 4. My husband of 6 years has been cheating on me and i want out so bad but i have nowhere to go. I have no family where I live and no money to get to the family that I do have. I haven't had a job the whole 6 years we've been together and no one to watch my kids so that i can get a job. I have no one or nothing. Please somebody help me figure out what to do without leaving remarks about stupid crap. I really need advice right now. Please.
I want to leave my husband, but I'm afraid my kids will hate me for it?
My husband and I have been married 14 years (we married young) and have two children together (12 & 10). The last two years or so, my husband has changed. He snaps at me for talking, won't listen when I say anything and I suspect he might be sleeping with others when he goes out at the weekend. I ignored everything at first because I thought it might be stress due to working more. But it's definitely not. I've tried talking to him, suggested marriage counseling and even asked him if there was anything I could do to make life easier. He either snaps or tells me to f*ck off. My kids are my whole world. I love them and I have always wanted the best for them. They are the reason I have stuck it out this long. Pretty much all of their friends parents have divorced or they have a stepparent and my kids have always said how happy they are that we never divorced because their friends hate it. I've heard it myself. My sons best friend is being raised by his mom and her husband of four years and I've heard him tell my son how left out he feels, especially since his mom had a baby. I feel so bad for him because he's a great kid and he's almost like a son to me, too, because he spends so much time here. The worse things get the more I want to leave. But I am so afraid the kids will hate me for it. Does anyone have any advice? Has anyone ever regretted divorcing while their kids were still home?
I want to leave my husband but I have nowhere to go..?
You need to find out the nearest womens shelter call them tell them your situation...at first they may say they are "full" be persistent because they are just testing you to see if you really need a place to go. So call back if you have to. Please go they will help you. Once you go do NOT go back to your husband they WILL help you. Once you are in a womens shelter he will not be able to get your daughter. Because you are to tell them of how he hits you and the womens shelter will protect you and your daughter. Dont know what state you are in but try to phone book or better yet google womens shelter in ___(whatever city and state you are in) and if that doesnt work then call the police dept. and get the number from them. The womens shelter will help you get home or whatever it is you want to do.Your husband sounds dangerous you need to do this. Good luck and dont go out trying to find another man......... thats not the answer right now you need to stabilize yourself first ...then maybe find another man. But going to find another man without stabilizing yourself first puts you in the same situation as now
I want to leave my husband but I can't imagine being in an apartment alone with my kids without that male protection. How can I feel safe by myself?
Is your husband actually protecting you now?Choose your apartment wisely. Some are gated or have on campus security. You can choose apartments close to a police station to naturally reduce response time. You can get training and licensure to have guns in your home. You can install better security systems. You can utilize the locks on your door and ensure you choose apartments with a deadbolt.
Should I leave my husband because of his parents? I love my husband but his parents are mean to me.
It’s nice to hear that you Love your husband.This situation(his mean parents) is not very uncommon(i.e. you are not alone), and some women very well handles this situation. Because they very well know their men.Whats correct - You must always be in good communication lines with your husband, which means he listens to you. Then you must address this issue positively(not quarrel) only a the right time, when he’s relaxed and actively listening to you. If you have a daughter, make him understand how she would feel if she lives in the same circumstances as you are living now.What’s not correct - Some women never takes an effort to make their husband realize her feelings, but ends relationship (or) will remain living a tough life throughout(a strained relationship).There are 3 Types of men (as Husbands)Men who realize right and wrong after few advises.Men who understands value of relationships only after facing Tough times.Men who never changes - they don’t care about their wives and are very coward when it comes to handling their parents.Never give up, never quarrel - try to positively address this situation. Try to know what type of men you are living with.If your husband loves you, then you are already close to solving it. GOOD LUCK
How do I leave my husband when I have no money to leave with two kids?
When you say that you "can't work", what do you mean exactly? Are you crippled?, you have no arms?, are you mentally unstabled?, you can't hold any job at all? If the answer is yes to any of the above, things might be harder but not impossible. Whose idea was to stay at home and be a mom 100% of the time? Both or yours? The government can help you with housing and food that's not the issue in here, even with daycare too. I think you're afraid of being on your own and not having him to rely on for everything around the house. Why is it that some women think they can't survive without a partner? You only live once and you better be living to the fullest, otherwise you're wasting your time on this planet. Child support will help you a lot in the transition, if he doesn't wanna work things out. Where do you see yourself in 10 years? Miserable like you feel now or happier? Act now, don't hesitate. Have courage and stand out for you and your kids, they deserave better. Best of luck.
I need to leave my husband but have nowhere to go?
I've been with my husband 5 years and it used to be so good. But since I was pregnant with our now 11month old he turned weird.he took my phone away and wouldn't let me have friends.he made me Change the way I dress no jeans or leggings only long dresses to my ankles and my top has to be near my Neck I cant show skin.I MUST wear a jacket when I leave the house even in summer on the hottest days(I live in Australia)I'm not allowed near my cousins male or female.I can't go to my sisters incase her husband is home.he doesn't help me with our baby he's never changed a nappy EVER.he wont feed her cereal or a yoghurt.he didn't come to the birth or even visit in hospital.he's ALWAYS in a bad mood from work I just asked him if he wants a drink and he bit ny head off.I'm so over it.he wont go anywhere public with me because 3 years ago I embarrassed him by laughing in a movie.he always puts me down n tells me he can do better than me.he's only kissed me twice since we had our baby 11months ago.the list goes on and on.Ive tried talking to him plenty if times he just says if I don't like it the doors there.and points to it.I don't have any friends I can stay with because he isolated me.I cant stay with my mum because she only has 1bedroom.I have probably $2000 saved up so I can pay rent and bond.Im still on maternity leave from my job but if I'm with him I'm not allowed to return there.getting a house is not easy I have good credit but real estates never approve me.I'm 26 and very responsible.ive always been very independent always paid my bills on time.just since I've had a baby I had to use my husbands help.he pays the mortgage I pay groceries nappies anything our daughter needs and we split electricity bills.I really need to get out of this marriage he brings me down every day I can't deal with it anymore.I'm taking it out on my little girl when its not her fault.he treats me so badly.he wont even let my mum or dad come over the house :(