Why is there such a stigma of U.S. men interested in foreign (Asian) brides?
Here's the thing. Where I live (northern Idaho) we have a fairly sizable Filipino community. The vast majority of them are female, "mail order brides" of a sort. The vast majority of those women were raised with the expectation that they would marry an American man, move over here, and send money home because of the ridiculous exchange rate. Up here, you can just outright ask them, they'll tell you all about how they have grown up with the expectation that they will marry decently, or even very well, and send money home. Life in the Philippines is nothing compared to life here. Wages suck, the jobs suck, it's pretty easy to talk your kid into marrying abroad and supporting their family. There's just a much bigger market for Asian women than men. But we've talked to many of them, we're good friends with many of these women, and they all say the same thing--the marriage is of convenience, a contractual obligation, and while they take measures to ensure they are COMPATIBLE with their future mate, the primary motivation is material. They aren't bad people, they were raised this way, they have children, they take care of their husbands, but their motivations are very often not the same as the man they married. The men they marry, on the other hand, often want an old-fashioned sort of woman to take care of them, a gender role still very prevalent in Asia. They want a replacement for their mother, not a partner. The woman IS using him. This is very common in the Philippines. A good friend of my husband's snagged her husband that way, they emailed each other, she played the marriage card, and he went for it. They got married over there, and moved over here. She works full time and sends her wages back home. Her husband's father did the same thing--his step mother is Filipino. The woman is not likely to divorce him, that's not how the game is played. He'll have is Filipino wife, but unless he makes a respectable income, can support her, AND send money to her family, she will probably get a job of her own to do so. That's the whole point. They don't marry for love over there, they don't marry Filipino men, they marry American men who can support them so they can work and send money home to support their own family. Unless he's abusive, neglectful, or otherwise a pretty poor husband, she isn't likely to divorce him. But she probably isn't in love with him, either.
Which country is paying immigrants to marry their single women?
There have been some online sources claiming that Iceland pays $5,000 per ponth to immigrants who marry Icelandic women. But Embassy of Denmark in Egypt which handles Visa requests for Iceland, and the Icelandic web site The Reykjavík Grapevine labeled the immigrant invite a hoax[1] .So, as far as I know, there is no country paying immigrants to marry their single women.Footnotes[1] FACT CHECK: Does Iceland Pay $5,000 Per Month to Immigrants Who Marry Icelandic Women?
Best country to adopt from?
My girlfriend and I are looking to adopt internationally. Please don't tell us to adopt from America; she was adopted domestically in an "open adoption" and she states that it was the worst thing that ever happened to her and she doesn't want to put another child through a relationship where they see their birthparents. She's not naive enough to say that an international adoptee wouldn't have emotional issues, but we both feel for children in 3rd world countries. A couple things to know: We're 28 and 29 so we know that excludes us from some countries. We want a healthy child, for the first one at least. I'd ideally like a younger child, no older than 2, but preferably less than one. We're willing to wait, but we don't want to wait for years and years. Since we want our child to still be connected to their culture, we'd preferably like somewhere in Europe or Asia, purely because of our demographic where we live. We're not married (for our own reasons) but cohabit so we know that excludes us from some countries. Also, my girlfriend's mother thinks children adopted from certain countries tend to have more emotional problems. Are there countries where the children seem to grow up and have more emotional problems? Have any of you adopted children that developed severe emotional problems? Are any of you adopted internationally? And by emotional issues, I don't mean the normal questioning of adoption and the issues with attachment and trust and such, I mean severe behavioral problems or incapable of forming attachments, like Oppositional Defiant Disorder and the like.
Are most American women gold diggers and emasculators?
I know this may offend some, but looking at divorce rates and alimony settlements doesnt it seem american woman have a higher propensity to look for men with wealth and power over anything else? I red in a psych class that women look for "partners with rescources", which is what i take to mean money. American woman seem only to care for money, is that really true? It also seems unique to our messed up materialistic corrupt american culture; that and bad dating experiences on my part. So often you see a woman marry or date a guy and then take all the money and leave them on the street (thanks to the pro-woman bias of our Judges). Who do you think? American woman seem to like to reverse gener roles; turning the man into a pansy and the wman into a kid hating work aholic pansy. P.S. You can tell i havent had good experiences with american women; it really is true i think if you want to be happy marry a woman from anywhere other than america
What's it like to get married for visa reasons?
NOT for reproduction (I might have revealed more if anonymous but I would rather acknowledge my actions) I married an Indian Malaysian man so he could come to my country. It was a huge mistake.Perhaps if it had been for money it would have been better, but we were friends. We were a couple in other's eyes though; his family and friends thought we were getting married for real and were so kind it was horrible. His mother told me how lazy he was at the same time she served a beautifully home cooked meal. Two days before the wedding she prepared a crab curry or chilli, I'm not even sure because it seemed so screwed up to be sitting in her house promising I "really" wanted to marry her son. She had no fridge or oven but had made the dinner specially for us and it was delicious. She loved her son and didn't want him to leave, but wanted the best for him too; she hoped he had finally found happiness with our coming marriage.His friends were so beautiful. One gave me the only necklace he had ever had - a silver horse - while telling me I was more "expensive" than his friend because of the gift I was giving. Another gave me a solid gold ring. There were six of them living in two rooms (this is not because it was Malaysia) but they gave us a room to ourselves which was really awkward.The night before the wedding we got stoned (pot) and drunk. We were late to our own wedding. We arrived on a motorbike with me in a gold wedding sari. This is not how you want to arrive at a real wedding. I don't really remember the wedding itself. (Well I do, but I don't want to get into it.)Things got worse very soon afterwards. He had hoped I would want more than just a visa marriage even though we had discussed it many many times and were not a couple. I felt guilty and he felt humiliated. I will always remember it both with fondness and shame. We have become friends and still communicate.This may not be the usual scenario but the other people involved are often forgotten. If you are going to fool the authorities you can't tell your family and friends - at least if you do it is basically the same as asking them to break the law. The future is often forgotten or treated naively too; divorces are not like pressing a button and it needs to be explained to future partners.Note: This was a particularly vulnerable time in my life and in his. Neither of us regret it, though we both know it was incredibly foolish.