I'm 21 and still live with my parents?
i work full time and help with the bills, but i dont make enough to move out on my own and i feel like a complete loser being this age and being on my own. Should i feel this way is it quite common for a 21year to still live his parents?
How do i tell my parents im pregnant?
Sit them down and say, "Mom...Dad...I have something to tell you. I'm running off to join an Insight I Am/Silva Mind Control/Exegesis/Order of the Solar Temple cult and have the love child of the Great Leader, and you'll never see me again! Just kidding. I'm only pregnant." :-D
I'm 21 and my parents treat me like i'm 10?
I'm 21 years old, I've been working since I was 16, I pay for my own car, I pay for my own credit cards, I'm in school and my parents still feel like I don't know how to take care of myself. They will pour my food out for me thinking I don't know how much I should eat, they will text me checking up on me, I have to lie when I spend the night at my boyfriends house and say I'm somewhere else because they would freak out if they knew I was intimate with him even after being with him for almost 2 years, and if I'm not home by 2am my mom will start texting me "where are you? do you know what time it is?" I am so unbelievably sick of being treated like a child, and this has effected me so much that up until this year I have not been able to formulate my own opinions and judgements about anything and just went off of what they believed because I always felt as though I wasn't right and they were according to them. How can I get them to stop being like this and give me some freedom? I don't have the money to move out and I don't think I'm mentally ready but at the same time I honestly cannot take this anymore.
I'm going to be 21 and my parents are still strict?
I'm going to be 21 soon pretty much a month away and I still feel like I'm a child to my parents. I don't have my own car i use my parents "spare" and im under their insurance so I understand that part of it so I know what your going to say buy your own car and insurance. That solves the car issue now lets get to just buying things in general I need their permission to buy things yea you heard me their permission for me to buy things with my own money. For instance I recently bought a game for xbox and my parents are like you don't need another game you cant buy the one or ps4 they are too expensive. Like come on I barely have any freedom unless I get their approval on ANYTHING. I can even remember one time they even asked me where my 5 dollars in my wallet went after I spent it and I think my mom or dad was looking to borrow ones out of my wallet. Yea they go through my wallet and bank statements also! It feels like total lock down at my house sometimes makes me wonder how I will ever break free and get my own place. I recently got my associates degree planning on transferring to get my bachelors so thats really holding me back. I just want to be able to go out have fun without having to explain to them every little detail of where I am going, what im going to do when I go somewhere, etc.
I'm 21 and my parents are still controlling?
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years. We are both 21. My parents seem to not want to get used to me being 21 and I feel the rules they have with me are unfair, considering how old I am. My dad is very weird with having my boyfriend come on vacations with us. He says unless me and my boyfriend are married he doesn't believe in having his daughter bring her boyfriend on vacation. I go on vacation almost every year with my boyfriends family, my mom seems to have to convince my dad every year to let me go. I've gone to AC with my boyfriend and my friends a few times already and both my parents question me every time if it's just going to be me and my boyfriend alone, even if I already told them a million times my friends would be there. Unless someone is taking me home, my parents are strict about me driving home at night past midnight. The farthest I go is a half hour away from my house if I'm out that late, and where I live is super safe, ALSO I just bought my first car so my car is brand new. I'm constantly getting the phones calls and texts about them threatening me to come home, when all my friends are having a good time, I feel like I constantly have to worry about my parents being on my case, it's hard to have fun because of it. Overall my parents are so loving, and of course I love them. I'm just frustrated with the constant babying and worry. I'm responsible and always was independent. I just need some advice on what to do!
I am 21 and my parents are still treating me like a child. I am a univesity student living at home and I have a part time job, but they won't let me make a decision unless they approve it. How do I change that?
Kudos to you, first of all, for furthering your education and supporting yourself.I can identify with your parents, because I have kids about that age. It’s really hard to let go of them, and let them try things on their own, because you really don’t want them to get hurt. But that said, at some point, we parents need to let our kids go out on their own.Try approaching the situation logically, methodically, and respectfully. Acknowledge the fact that as long as you live at home, your parents may feel that they have some right to determine how you behave.You can think logically about any issues that have come up for you and your parents, and offer respectful, mature solutions to these.You can offer to pay your part of the bills and rent, if you aren’t already. If you already are, then you can include this in a list of responsible actions you are already taking.Make your requests simple and few. If there are multiple issues, pick an easy one to start off with, and focus on one primary issue per ‘meeting’. Present your requests calmly and maturely, and try not to be dragged into ‘old’ arguments.Plan on presenting your requests on multiple occasions, allowing time between for proposed ideas to work out or not, and for your parents to come to grips with the idea of your independence.Good luck, and kudos to you again for handling this like the responsible adult you are becoming!
I’m 25 years old and my parents won’t let me stay over at my boyfriends place, is this normal? How can I convince them it’s ok?
Let me guess, you’re Asian? Asian parents tends to think they can control their children’s life until the day they die.Now, like everyone else said, you’re 25. At that age, you should be financially independent enough to make your own decision. If you back off every time they try to control you, chances are you will still be under their control at age 60. It is best that you move out of their house. Your relationship with them will evolve to a higher level when they finally have to accept that you’re old enough to be on your own. If you don’t have any other choice but to live with them, make it clear that it’s your life and you’re old enough to be responsible for it. (I know a lot of people feels that they have to stay with their parents because of the cultural upbringing or you simply live in a city where rental price is just crazy high for newly grad salary so I don’t judge your reason for staying home).Believe it or not, I once came home to visit when I was 25. At that time I was married for 2 years already but my husband couldn’t come with me because he couldn’t get off work. I went out with my friends for some boardgame gathering one night, one of the guys (most of my friends are male and my husband has no problem with it, he knows them all) was picking me up and going to drop me off so there was no safety concern there. At 10pm my dad called me and asked why I was not home. I said someone is going to drop me off so I would be home late. At 10.30pm he called again. At 11pm he called again. And it went on until I lost it and screamed at the phone “FFS, I am 25. I’m already married. I’m not a kid anymore. I will be home when I want to. And btw, I am on my way already so stop calling.” Afterwards, they never question me when I would come home at night again for my whole stay there. From that time on, I wouldn’t visit home without my husband. He’s like a ticket to all my freedom.Do understand that your parents will always see you as a child so if you want to be an adult, set the boundaries and do not let your parents cross them.
I’m 21 years old and my parents don’t allow me to go out. Is that normal?
Your Mother and Father, these are the only two souls who really care for you no matter how bad or good you are to them. They always think of your betterment.Having said that, there are few people who do not grow up with change in the generation. They still want to carry the legacy of their ancestors. So if they are restricting us that doesn't mean that they are bad, it means that they are not used to the change in the present generation or the experiences that they had in their life makes them to do so.As a responsible child our duty is toTry and understand their version.Then try to remove any wrong notions that they have on the current society with good examples.Make them realize the importance of what we need in the present society.Educate them in the aspects, which they are not aware of.Give them that confidence that you will not do anything wrong, that would spoil the dignity of your parents.In short, understand them and let them understand you and your needs. They will definitely listen to us because they are our 'PARENTS'.
How did your parents take it when u told them u were pregnant for the 2nd time?
im 21 and im pregnant again, my baby is 2 years old and my parents hve been so proud of me cos i have gotten myself together, like im in college and i have my own place, i have my own car, and everything. im so scared to disapoint them, thats the only thing im worried about is disapointing them, also i dont have insurance but that can all get sorted out.
I am 21 and I have a 10pm curfew. My parents want me to stay home, I'm considering moving out?
My parents think it is unacceptable for me to come home after 10. I barely have a social life anyway so it did not really bother me at first. But every once in a while someone will ask me out to dinner or whatnot and I'll come home a little after 10. Even if I call and say I'm coming in a little later because I'm going out for a bit, my mom will call me over and over again demanding I come home immediately. Anyway I usually lie and say I can't make it when people invite me places because everyone seems to think it's crazy that someone my age has a curfew. So I was thinking about moving out and getting my own place. But I'm thinking about a few things. I don't have a lot of money I work part time and go to school full time. Right now I occasionaly pitch in for random things like groceries and whatnot but I live rent free. I help out around the house a lot and do most of the chores around the house. But I don't ask my parents for money (I give them money). I buy whatever I need and work for whatever I want. When my younger brother needs something I usually buy it. I don't mind living at home since I don't have to pay rent, cable... My parents made it pretty clear that I should stay home even after I graduate (hopefully this year). I would not mind staying home but it would be nice to be on my own. Also I'd feel kind of bad paying rent somewhere else when I could be helping them out. So thoughts everyone?