My boyfriends children are very disrespectful to me, what do I do?
We have a 1 year old together, and he has two teenagers from his ex-wife. They are so disrespectful to me, especially the daughter, who has called me every curse word in the book, a few times to my face. She name calls when her dad isnt around because the first two times I didnt do anything...I felt that I would be tattling and that I should suck it up. I sympathize for their situation, they want their parents back together, but I really dont feel that I should be treated like this. He has done nothing to fix the situation. I have tried to talk to him and he tells me that they are just teenagers and they will stop eventually. I dont want my daughter to be around this. I am tired of feeling this way. I feel like Im a little kid being bullied. I dread going over to his house, I want to take my little girl and not return. Any advice?
Do you think it's disrespectful for my boyfriend to go trick or treating with his ex and their son?
It's pretty insensitive but as a parent, I bet I know what happened. Once you have kids you get excited on the holidays they are excited about. Your husband probably was taking to his boy and his son asked him to go. If so, it's one of those "heart string moments," when all you think of is your baby and their feelings. He didn't think it through and thought you'd understand. I do think it's a tad weird that the mom doesn't sit this one out (if she has custody) and let then have father/son time. Welcome to the world of " baby mama drama!!!" Let it go for now.... DON'T POUT but tomorrow tell him that it wasn't handled very appropriately and in future you won't sit back for their family time. You have a baby coming and there's no way he will be able to leave that child to go with the other. Let him know that was his last HALL PASS where they go on an outing together. (with ex) Of course there will be future situations where the three of them must be together alone such as: operations, school conferences, etc.. You are going to need to be understanding of that. ( I am) but as far as fun activities or just hanging out ...,NOT!! Relax tonight and know he's not into her, he's into his son and sharing the memory with him. He's not thinking of the mom. Take care
Is it disrespectful for my boyfriend to flirt with other women in front of me?
It's absolutely disrespectful. Every time my boyfriend and I go out, he never looks at other women, and it's like they cease to exist. Women hit on him all the time, because he's very attractive. For example, when we went to this quaint little restaurant, a very attractive blonde tried to catch his eye and he acted as if she didn't exist. I love my boyfriend for that. He always makes me the center of his attention and because we're so perfect for each other, he doesn't feel the need to flirt with an attractive woman. Tell your boyfriend it bothers you that he does that or it's he'll think you don't mind his flirting when you're present. Do you think he's even considered how you feel when he flirts with a beautiful woman, right in front of you? Wow, that's a pretty inappropriate and sleazy thing to do.
Is it disrespectful to go on a spring break trip to Cancun with your girlfriends when you have a serious boyfriend?
The first question I would ask is what is he doing for Spring Break? Are the two of you in an exclusive relationship? Have there been trust issues in the past? Also I’m wondering about how old the both of you are. I grew up in FtLauderale in the 1970s and spring Btreak could get pretty crazy back then but nothing like it is today. Also several areas in Mexico are under travel advisories by the US State Department and quiet frankly are not places that are safe for teens or young college students to drink and party due to the increasing threats of violence and corruption.
Is it rude to ask friends if can I go to party with them ?
I hang with friends 2 years and they almost never invite me anywhere, but we always go outside at the same time and day, and I can see that I am not bothering or annoying anyone. Now I heard they are throwing party , and I don t know should I just ask them about the party or not. They even invite my friends that lives in different city and not me .
Should I break up with my boyfriend because of his disrespectful daughter?
Run, I agree I'm kinda going through the same thing, but my fiance's (yes we are supposed to get married) his daugther is 23. It doesn't get better, and you can't give them an ultimatum because you can't win, they won't leave their kids. My fiance's daugther is doing everything in her power to break us up and she's gonna win, because I can't bare the drama anymore either. It's better, in my opinion, to start fresh with someone who will respect me that when I say you spoil her too much you need to stop, he will stop. He's not taking your thoughts into consideration. And really when it all boils down to it, I feel as if they will get over us. I mean you know women come and go, it'll take (well let me just say for myself this is the way i think) my fiance will get over me eventually and find another girlfriend and it won't be difficult, but he will never find another daughter. But with the way that they act, he will probably never find another girlfriend because they won't be able to put up with what she is doing anyway. I tried but it didn't work out. I can't beat myself up over it, I did what he asked he told me to wait and have patience, she'll come around but it hasn't happened in 2 years I don't think it ever will, and to tell you the truth it shouldn't be this hard. There is another man out there for me and if not it's just not meant to be. I strongly believe that. God is moving in my life, not his daughter, not me not him, God knows what I need and he will give it to me. I don't worry about the human flesh anymore.
Why does my boyfriend fart around me constantly?
My partner has never done that in my company in 9 years.He knows that I would find it repulsive and disrespectful.I do believe that there should be boundaries in a relationship. It's difficult to find someone sexy who acts like a filthy pig.Yes, we all need to pass wind and use the toilet but until such time that our bodies fail us and we have no control (please no! Don't take my dignity) we shall pretend that we don't.Unless your boyfriend has a medical issue, he simply has no respect. I doubt he has a medical condition though. I'm pretty sure he would have told you.The first time my guy asks me to pull his finger, I hope he remembers the last time we had sex because it will have been the last time ever!
What would you do if your boyfriend didn't invite you to events with his guy friends and their wives?
Did he know the people as couples before he met you? If so, I wouldn't think too much of it. My husband goes out with his friends, who he has known since schooldays. He has known them and their partners for years. I am not excluded from the events, but sometimes is nice not to be with a group who have known each other such a long time!If I go out with my friends, my husband sometimes comes, but more often doesn't. With old work colleagues there is a tendency to 'talk shop', which bores him, and with most of the group being male, he finds he doesn't have much to say to their partners.If one of my friends invites me out, I don't automatically assume it includes my husband, so he would only come if it was an occasion of interest. I wouldn't really think about asking him if he wants to come along, just presume that he'd say something if he did! (And vice-versa). We have been together for six years and neither feels excluded from the other's social life. However, the fact that you ask this question indicates that you do feel excluded. It may be that he just hasn't really considered that you would like to go, or he thinks you'd be bored, or doesn't really think about it at all. Maybe you could offer to be the driver next time he mentions going out, so that he can have a drink, or ask if x-person will be there, as you enjoyed talking to him/her before. This gives him reasons to include you and may make him realise that you would like to come along. If he is deliberately excluding you, then that is more of a concern, and you need to ask him why he doesn't want you there. Have you argued with one of his friends in the past? Did you embarrass the group with something you did? Is one of the group very close to an ex-girlfriend of his? By talking about the reasons, perhaps you can work it out. It is unlikely to be that you are not 'cool' enough. Good luck in talking this through. I hope things improve.
If my ex boyfriend/friend invited me to a function, would it be wrong to exchange numbers with a really decent guy at that party he invited me to?
keeping my self in that position , i would not actually try to get number of any cute girl coz, if i had feeling for other girl that is also in that party then she would be keeping an eye over me, and i can think that it would break her heart to know that m moving forward n trying to get other girl(this should be normal but it does breaks the heart). also if your breakup was mutual and without any hatred feelings or a big fight etc, if it went sadly and very calmly then plz dont do that, currently its like you both are still in a relationship but without commitment.It will take alot of time to detach your feelings depending upon the kind of bond you both shared.
My boyfriend of 2 years is constantly on his phone. He gives his phone more attention than he gives to me. How can I handle this without seeming needy?
Someone else has said it.Leave his proximity. By whichever method available. Exit the room, the car, the house, the restaurant.He appears to be so confident you will be around waiting, or is bored enough with your companionship that he can ignore you.Whichever it is, when you have left where he is, find something else to do that you enjoy, and do it.Treat his behaviour like you should treat any behaviour from an adult or child or animal that you find unacceptable — NON VERBALLY. Nothing gets the point across that behaviour is unattractive than walking away from it.Walking away and saying nothing has other benefits too.It gets you away from the behaviour that annoys/upsets you so you don't lose your temper and get into a fight, during which the party ignoring you will often turn things around and blame your hurt feelings on you.It shows that you are not needy and dependent on him to give your life joy or meaning.You get to discover whether the other party actually notices and misses you, without having to admit you are hurt — it is a reality that showing you are hurt puts you in a weaker emotional position. Him pursuing puts YOU in some control.If the other person does pursue you and asks why you left, you have visible proof that you were missed.You don’t have to explain yourself, other than to say, “I decided to go do something to entertain myself. You were busy and I was bored”. You show you are not intentionally trying to hurt him or force him to pay attention to you, you were going off to do your own thing, as you are entitled to do.If he wants your company, he will change the behaviour with you not having to argue or place guilt on him. That helps neither of you.Now if the other person does NOT pursue or ask you why you left, you know just where you stand — they prefer the phone, and whatever/whomever is on it, to YOU.