Is it wrong to criticize your parents?
It depends. Parents are expected to be smarter, understanding and wiser than you. If they have these qualities, then there isn't really much need to criticize them. HOWEVER If they lack these qualities I will not hesitate to show them. This is speaking from personal experience where I lived with my father and saw him consistently do things that would make an 15 year seem like a sage. Retire with a mere 100k when he had all sorts of bills, prioritizing going to the bar during a trip when we had one last bit of business to take care of, Mixing bleach and ammonia in the bathroom, and generally dismissing EVERYTHING i say even when I produce the proof or logic to back it up all on the grounds of "He always know what he's going" or "I've been doing this from before you were born" Both idiotic arguments. No amount of experience can justify doing stupid things like mixing dirty pans ("only the oil and flour I used to keep the cake from sticking in there" he says) with clean ones which resulted in a roach problem. Frankly, i have my father the barest minimum of respect because he consistently shows that he is not worthy of A lot of it.But even the most level headed of parents need to be criticized should the need arise. If they are not, they will just continue to make the same mistake or make you work harder than needed. The problem is that people tend to think that being criticized is disrespectful when it isn't. That is just the arrogance of older people who think that just because they've been on the earth longer younger people can't say anything to them. And that might be true to a point, but after someone reaches 18-20 years,they should at least be able to correct their parents when they are flat out wrong (like thinking ignorant (in the context of them not knowing about a particular subject) and stupid means the same thing). My outlook on this subject would be a bit different than most because i grew up around elders (not just my father) who honestly believe that what i say is worth less than dirt. These are situations where I know what they are doing is unneeded, or there is a better way, but is always ""I been doing this for years I know what i'm doing". Yet somehow my friend and i are able to produce better result than them in things like gardening and fixing cars.
Is it wrong to have sex in your parents bed?
My parents are mostly always out and I do often bring people back home to have sex, but my bed is a single bed so I was thinking of doing it in my parents bed as it is a king-size, but I worry it will seem weird!
Is it wrong to disobey your parents?
I'm 14 and my sisters 16 and occaisonally we like to disobey our parents. My mom and especially my dad monitor the clothes we wear since my sister is a D cup and i'm a C and sometimes when they say don't get this we'll like go online and buy it with our debit cards. And my mother told me that i can only get my doubles pierced but after that i'm going to go ahead and pierce the rest of my ear myself....without her knowing of course. Anyway is it wrong to disobey your parents or normal?
I'm a single parent, is it wrong for me to go into the US NAVY?
I haven't fully decided yet, but I'm leaning on the reserves to have more time to be with her. My mother and my daughter grandparents are all supoortive reguardless of what I decide. I just want a promising job to take care and support her. If I decide to go active, I'm going to try to get stationed as close to home as possible. Reguradless of where I'm station I'm going to have her with me. There is no way I could ever live without her in my life.
Is it wrong to speak against your parents?
Certainly not! You must tell your viewpoint for sure. As you can see, there’s a ‘but’ on the way……BUT, please be respectful about it no matter what.Make sure that you have thought about what you want to convey so that they can understand.Please don’t scream/shout/throw a tantrum/bring down the entire neighborhood down when doing so. There are ways, and then, there are ways. Your words will get drowned in all the screaming and shouting, if any.You know your parents best. Approach the issue in a manner that they can’t help but listen.
What is so wrong with being a "Helicopter Parent" these days?
There is nothing wrong with being a helicopter parent. Now, I did have those parents you are talking about. I had those who were on you like white on rice, and heard and saw everything you did, while they were downstairs in the kitchen. I said to myself,"when I get older, and have children, I am not going to do that to them." Guess what? I did what I said I would not do. Yes all children feel now as though you are in their private place, also, some parents might even tell you that. However, in the long run those same children will come back and tell you, thank you for checking up on me, even when I did not want you to. I do not care if you children are 75- 100 years old, you are always going to give them advice. Telling them do not wear that. Button up it is cold outside. I am 59 years old living in Southfield, Michigan and my mother lives in Pittsburgh, PA. When I call her she will reply back, " how are you doing baby?" There is nothing wrong with being in your children's life. It just shows the love, that they will do the same for their own children when they have them.
Why is it wrong to answer back to your parents?
Your parents have brought you up when you did not have any say i.e. you were totally helpless.Whatever best resources,capabilities,limitations they have nurtured you and brought you at this level that you can speak,express and do well in life.No parent will ever think ill of their children. A child will always remain a child to his/her parent.The mere fact you have asked a question which is in opposition of your parents is demeaning and shows your immaturity.If you were my child and I come to know my child has asked something about own parents that too on a NET AND A WEBSITE which has no feelings towards you and all sorts of TOMS/DICKENS/HARRIES are on NET these days to give you rotten adices, I would have felt that the society and humanity has come to an end.My dear child you should feel ashmed of yourself by asking such an ugly question in public i.e. about your own parents.The society may not like this answer but this is a fact about todays children.Therefore get up my child and confess before any GOD you believe in that you have sinned vy asking such an ugly question about your own parents.You will not like my proposal and so many a young boys and girls like you who are neither well read nor have any knowledge. By the way I am a HINDU and INDIAN and avery senior INDIAN ARMY OFFICER who has seen life from very close quaeters. REGARDS Your's etc WELL WISHER
Is it wrong that your parents force me to get a haircut, but i don't want one?
I beleive in parental rules however hair is personal and not something worth picking a battle over. Id rather you experimented with your hair now then say when your 18 and looking for a job and no one wants to hire you because your hair is so weird. The best time to go thru that stage is when your a kid. Why dont you try making some kind of deal with them. If they let you have your hair how you want you will agree to something like always getting your homework done on time. Something that shows maturity.
Is it wrong for parents to vent their stress from work onto their children or is it natural?
Wrong and natural are not antonyms. Natural does not equate good, better or healthy.Is it natural? I guess. If the child is older and the parent has no friends or therapist, it would be natural. It depends on how it is done and what specifically you mean, though.Most kids can handle hearing about a bad day at work now and then. I don't think that is wrong, even. Kids need to know that their parents are human beings and that life isn't always rosy.The problem comes when the parent is relying on their child to either fix their emotional health or to act as their therapist. If a parent comes home and complains about their coworkers every night, shares adult details, or expects a child to react in a particular way, that isn't healthy. Ithink would be natural for the parent to want someone to talk to, but still not healthy.On the other hand, if everyone sits down to dinner and a parent shares a story about why they had a bad day, I see no problem here. Families share each other's burdens to an extent. Children need to know their parents deal with stress outside of the home. Children do not need to be the person dealing with the stress outside of the home for the adult.Even in the most emotionally healthy homes, this boundary will get crossed from time to time. Emotional health is not something that is one and done. It requires ongoing maintenance and checking with each other to ensure everyone is doing ok. If you feel that maybe you are using your child as a therapist OR if you are a child being used as a therapist, it is your responsibility to communicate your needs. Depending on the age of a child, this may not be something they have learned yet, so it is up to the parent to be alert and watch for signs that their behavior is making their child uncomfortable.Good luck.