My boyfriend is controlling but i love him?
You can talk to this guy until you're blue in the face. He's not going to change. Guys like this do not change unless they get professional help. Your boyfriend needs it. He has no control in his own life, and he's extremely insecure. Combine those two traits, and you get the kind of person he is. The kind that restricts, holds back, controls, manipulates and tries to rule the life of their significant other. I know you think you love this guy, but this is not love. And you need to open your eyes as to what love really is. Love makes you a better person. Love supports. Love cares. Love encourages. If theater was your life, you should NEVER have quit that for him! Are you kidding me? You are going to look back on your life with so much sadness and regret. Is this guy REALLY worth giving up your passions for? Your interests? You doing theater, or running cross country has NOTHING to do with him and he has no right trying to tell you to quit. No guy can MAKE you do anything. You're ALLOWING him to control you. Is he holding a gun to your head? No? I'm willing to bet he's emotionally manipulating you. Threatening to dump you if you don't quit running. I'm telling you right now he won't change, so please don't be naive and think he will. The fact that he only gets angry when you bring it up shows this. He's in denial, and he doesn't think what he's doing is wrong. HUGE PROBLEM. You're not going to be with him forever. Believe me. One day you're going to wake up, the fog is going to lift from your head, and you're going to question what it is you're exactly doing. One day you're going to wake up with no hobbies. Not passions. No friends. He's going to isolate you from everything. He's slowly killing you as a person. That is not love. Break free. You need to be the person you're meant to be, and a guy is out there who's going to love you and all of you. He's going to love that you're in theater, he'll sit front row for all your performances! He'll cheer you on from the side lines when you run in competitions. He'll get along with all of your guy friends, and he'll make you a well rounded, happy person.
Is my boyfriend too controlling?
I've been with my boyfriend for just over 6 years and most the time our relationship is great. I know he is thinking of proposing as we have been looking for engagement rings recently. However, the one thing that worries me is that he seems to want me to spend all my free time with him. He has recently taken a new job which means he travels a lot during the week and wants us to keep weekends free to do things together, which I understand. However, he doesn't seem to appreciate that this is also the only time I have to see my friends and family too as I also work long hours. A friend's hen do is coming up soon and he has indicated that I should not go as it is at the weekend. I have every intention of going but I know there will be a big argument about it. He also expects me to do what he says with question or reasoning and I have said several times that I am not a child and I don't blindly follow orders. My worry is that if we end up getting married and having kids he will become more and more controlling. Am I being unreasonable?
Why is my boyfriend controlling?
Because simply put, he doesn’t trust you. Or he’s insecure and scared because he doesn’t have enough dating/relationship experience but either way it means that your relationship is not strong enough as long as he keeps up with this bad habit.Confront him and tell him that you’re a person, not an object and most importantly, you’re not his property.He may not be doing this on purpose and he’s probably not even aware of it so don’t go too hard on him but make your intentions known. Communication is vital in all relationships, lack of it breeds only negativity. Go easy on him if he gets the message but if he doesn’t and insists with this behavior, then cut him loose and find someone who values you as a human being. You’re not a pet.Thanks for A2A.
Is my boyfriend controlling me or does he just care?
That is not what love looks like.It seems that if he could, he'd keep you in a locked basement forever. With no Wi-Fi!You know what your situation looks like? It looks like possession, and I don't mean devil like possession. I mean that he not only thinks he OWNS you, but is literally trying to OWN you. Like property. Or like a pet cat that is always locked in the house.So is your boyfriend controlling you or does he just care? It's neither. It's worse than controlling.He clearly doesn't care about YOU enough to let you live like a normal person. He just wants to have you all to himself. Like a helpless cat. Like property.If your boyfriend really cares (future boyfriend I hope), he'd not only let you live like a normal person, but let you love him so much that you'd want nobody else. A good boyfriend is one that makes you give up the bad things by your own choices, and not force anything on you. And I mean he won't force ANYTHING on you.
My boyfriend is very controlling but I love him so much, What should I do?
You guys should sit and talk.Internal/External factors are responsible for this.Internal -His life before you might be empty/faced any difficulties.You actions when you are/not around with him.Your obsession of feeling it that way.External -Influenced by others ( he learnt from someone or someone put this thought into you )Introvert/extrovert differences.These things needs to be discussed and resolved at the earliest. You will feel a lot better and I hope the ‘controlling' word doesn't interfere anymore.“Mutual understanding is invisible.” Hope you get this.Follow liberal arts, it helps.
It feels like my boyfriend is controlling me?
Lately my boyfriend and I have been having some problems. He goes through my facebook messages daily and questions me about all the guys I talk too. He doesn't let me broadcast videos on sites like youtube cause he doesn't want guys watching me. He always wants to hang out with me everyday and when I say I have other plans he makes me feel bad by saying that I never want to hang out with him. I never hang out with my friends anymore. And I gave up my best friend(whole other story) to be with him. When I told him one time that I already had plans to hang out with friends and that I couldn't come over to his house the one day his parents are gone and he had it al to himself he got all angry. But then when he's angry he'll add these little "Well, I want to make you happy so you can go hang out with your friends." But then he still puts me on the spot about how I never want to hang out with him even though I just did yesterday which I said I was still busy but he just showed up at my house and made the excuse that his house was locked and he couldn't go back home. Sometimes he'll tell me that I'm mean to him and controlling but then he'll say he was kidding and that I'm perfect. He'll fake little fights with me and be like I was joking an run after me hug me and tell me I'm perfect. But I wondering if what he says in his fake fights is really what he thinks. I don't really feel the same about him anymore but I can't bring myself to end the relationship. Is there a way to mend this relationship?
Should I leave my boyfriend because of his controlling nature?
Run, don't walk, away from this relationship.This is very, very bad. I was in your shoes. I felt guilty and sorry for my man, too. I got an ultimatum, too, to marry him. And I didn't pay attention to the nagging feeling that something wasn't right. I focused on his good qualities, just as you did. You wouldn't have written this question if you didn't have the feeling that something wasn't right.Your bf is abusive at times, blames you for his unhappiness, cheats. And you apologize, feel guilty, be a better girl next time. This is not a recipe for a good future. You need to learn how to put yourself first. Until you are number one in your life, and meet a man who knows how to be number one in his life, you're never going to have a truly mature and sustainable relationship.I know several other women who married men like ours. They spent decades with these selfish and controlling man, raised children with them, took more and more abuse over the years until finally they couldn't take it anymore. They wasted decades putting up with their husbands' ridiculous emotional demands. it takes a few years at least to get over a long relationship like that. Do you want that to be you? Because he's only going to get worse.Read Codependent No More by Melody Beatty. Immediately.Good luck.
Why is my boyfriend so jealous and controlling?
GET OUT NOW. I've been in the same situation and honestly it's just going to get worse. He's not worth your time AT ALL. Please don't feel like you have to prove anything because you really don't. You're clearly not happy any honestly that's all that matters. Break up with him before things get worse. He might even become physically abusive and then it will be even harder to leave him. I'll tell you what happened to me. I was 17 and I was dating this guy for about a year and everything was fine. Then he slowly started to become controlling, little things like "oh I don't like when you talk to that guy...he's so flirty with you" until I had NO friends, and I was completely alone except him. I stopped seeing my family, he would tell me how to dress, he would hit me if a guy checked me out, and honestly it was so hard to get out. I really don't want that to happen to you and that's where it seems it's going. You need to leave him and find a guy that knows how to make you happy. If you need to talk then you can always email me. Good luck hun
Is my boyfriend controlling and manipulative? And what should I do?
There's a lot wrong with you too. You give in way too easily, you always do what he says, agree to what he says or does, and you don't have a backbone at all to defend or speak up for yourself. So, in that case, the relationship has become one-sided and it's all about HIM and his needs and wants. There's no room for you. Nobody is thinking about you, except how you can please him. You have given him all power over you. He knows how to manipulate and draw your strings and give in every single time. Therefore, he doesn't have to take you seriously. How you're able to stay with him after his repeated behavior is beyond me. I do NOT get women like you, who insist in staying in relationships only to be mistreated when there are men out there waiting to treat you like queens. He doesn't love you. If he did, he'd never allow you to feel such a powerful weight of feeling guilty or bearing false fault from an argument or just anything that will require you to apologize so he can talk to you again. He wouldn't want you to feel that way. He'd be willing to sit you down and discuss ways to mend the problems. He would also apologize for anything he's done to upset you. You're dating a big BABY, a manchild. This is not an adult He's also not very wise and very immature. Relationship requires both sides to put forth effort, honest, and respect. Playing these pouting and ignore games with you until he gets his way will only make things worse. Communication is to ALWAYS be constant in a relationship.