My Exhusband Treats My Son Badly

Why does my husband treat my son (his stepson) differently than our daughter?

well just like you said wrong is wrong regardless of which child it is. to be honest sadly this is normal. because your daughter is his ACTUAL FIRST CHILD and your son isn't thats why he acts that way. you can sit and talk about it with him and let him know that this is what you feel and if it sounds true to him. and he might just say no way! i dont do that, but inside he def. knows he does do that. and after the first talk he might just change it up a bit. and if he doesnt then he needs a serious talk after that, because thats also putting your son down, and affecting him in a bad way. and he's YOUR first child. stick up for him.

Why are step mothers treated so badly?

First of all, these are things you should have hashed out before you married a man with children. But it's a little too late to do that now...so let's focus on the situation at hand.

I am a stepmom and I speak from my own personal experience. My husband tends to his children's specific needs when they are visiting us for the weekend. I take care of meals and general duties. But when it comes to administering medicine, setting limits, or settling an argument between siblings....if it's his kids...it's his problem. He deals with his kids, I deal with mine.

It's called "being disengaged". Your husband is going to hate it at first. But he will get over it and figure out what exactly he needs to do to be a dad.

My husband is so jealous of my son's father?

Perhaps at one point during the relationship you crossed boundaries...maybe in the beginning and now he is sensitive to it? Even if it's not happening now, maybe when you met him you were more comfortable with your ex and do things he may not have liked? I'm just trying to relate cause sometimes I act like this about my husband's ex (they have a kid together) I can't ever forgive him for sharing personal information about our relationship with her at some point. And she would feel too comfortable like calling at all hours, etc. She'd want to discuss things that didn't pertain to their child. Anyway, now it doesn't happen anymore cause I told him to nip it in the bud and he did, but the thought of it happening can still get me riled up. I'm not saying your husband is acting right, I'm not proud to feel this way. But I can understand it if the circumstance is similar. He really cares about you and your loyalties mean a lot to him. Don't worry, it will get better with time. As long as you are consistent, he will be cool. There are certain things in my relationship that he can't live down...not yet. Anyway, there might be something that's really bugging him that you're not even aware of.

My Mom keeps going back to her ex-husband, who's a bad person.?

One of the saddest phenomenoms of our race is exhibited when mothers do not protect their children. =/ OF course some DO!!! But yours did not protect you. She is choosing this. She's already in his trap hook, line, and sinker, and something about that crappy relationship works for her and it's hers to make (sadly). I think your sister is taking a brave tough love course and perhaps you should consider it. If this man works, perhaps you can meet her for lunch when he cannot be there...but I would not allow any of your off spring (you don't mention having any...but in the future....) near someone who is proven to be mentally abusive and cruel.

Be the strong woman you wish your mom had been and don't waiver or apologize for being strong! It's sad that the parent child relationship was messed up for you but you can do soo much to insure that your parent child relationship of the future is SOOO much better by making sure you marry a good man. Just let her know that you love her and that you'll miss her.

She is making this choice again. VALUE yourself enough to stay away from the insanity. Bouy and strengthen your siblings and lean on their strength and make good memories with them. Keep a distant eye on her...but know that this really is her choice. YOu should get strong so you can give a happy life to the future generation. In the meantime support your sister and do all you can to build up your niece (and any other nieces and nephews). Spend your life energy in good ways. Keep your mom in your prayers and perhaps check in once a month via email or something...but don't get sucked into the whirlwind of abuse...YOU DESERVE BETTER and at 21 you have every right to choose it!

My new husband teaches my kids bad manners! What do I do?

He seems quite immature and follows his own set of guidelines.

You are absolutely right. Not only is he teaching them bad manners, but they could get themselves hurt... or worse. My neighbour's kid was once playing with fireworks (his young immature dad had not taught him how dangerous that can be) and he ended up losing an entire hand.

Being rude to people is never a good thing. Kids should be taught to be kind to others. They don't have to like everyone, but respect is mandatory. The man you are with may be sweet, but if this continues, your children may suffer socially and physically. He is far too immature. Maybe he will change his mind when, God forbid, something serious happens to your kids or your kids will get the idea that picking on others is funny. Their actions may hurt others in the future. People often don't learn until it's too late.

Your kids are #1. If he loves you I think if you are serious and show that you are serious then he should understand your concerns. If he doesn't, then you may need to find someone else as a partner.

My husband treats my kids differently..PLEASE HELP!?

husband and I met, he had one kid, i had two. He lost custody of his...mom took off with her and courts then did not want to remove her. I still have full costody of my two. We had a baby, together.
he treats my kids sooooooo differently than he ever did his . i miean worlds of difference. He punishes them for EVERYTHING, he is on thier case all of the time. He rarely ever shows them any affection. I am very affectionate mom, and raised my kids that way. He dosn't listen to them, he is irritated by thier mere existance.
He was NOT like this when we met, quite different, actually. He does NOT see that he treats them so differently. He is VERY defensive when I bring it up. I can't get him to own up to it. once in a while, after hours of me being angry, he will agree that he needs to change. A day will go by-and back to the same old way.
my kids are 7,5,and 1.
His was the same age as my oldest.
Our marriage is suffering, so are the kids.

please no rude comments, just honest help

Good husband, not so good step father?

I think that all the answerers that just say leave immediately don't understand that it isn't just that simple. You are married to this man...that used to mean something. I'm sure he doesn't treat your son the way he does out of any type of malice toward the boy...if I did I would also say leave him immediately. It sounds to me that there are some emotional issues that need to be resolved. Perhaps subconsciously your husband resents your son because he is what he would like his own son to be. I'm not sure what his relationship is with his own son, but perhaps he feels guilty acting as a father toward your son, when he didn't do such a great job with his own.

Whatever the reason, you should all seek some family therapy and try to sort it out. You obviously feel your husband is a good man, or else you wouldn't have married him. At least give it a chance of working itself out.

Ex husband going to my grandma's funeral?

30 year old son, john, wants to bring his dad, the ex husband of john's mom whom she hasn't seen since they split 20 years ago, to her grandma's funeral. when they were married the dad was cheating nonstop, doing drugs, etc. and they divorced on bad terms. the guy was not much of a father and treats john badly. john thinks the dad should go to pay his respects to the grandma since he was once part of the family for 10 years.

is this appropriate for the dad to go?