How do I get my friend to stop being mean to me? She thinks it's a joke but it really hurts sometimes. She gives me a lot of anxiety. We have fun together sometimes, but a lot of times not so much.
You know… the truth is that she probably already knows she's being hurtful.Many insecure people do that, they project their insecurities on others. I myself have done it a few times in middle school, I wasn't extremely insecure about myself though, but if my friends had something I wanted I would jokingly bully them for it. For instance I had a very skinny friend, she had a thigh gap which was my ultimate goal back then, sooo I told her she was too skinny and that boys didn't like skinny girls. I didn't believe it and I knew it would hurt her but for some reason it made me happy to know she wouldn't enjoy having a thigh gap now. And mind you that girl was a good friend of mine! I liked her but it didn't stop me from doing it.Now back to your situation, you need to tell her once and for all that you do not like it when she's joking like that. Wait for her to say something mean once again then tell her “Why would you say that ? That's mean” and then proceed to explain to her that you don't find it funny when she says things like that and on the contrary that it hurts you. If she is a good friend she will stop doing it. If she says she won't do it again but still end up doing it, stop that friendship. And if she won't take you seriously then leave and don't ever talk to her, because clearly she's a waste of your time and your energy.Honestly if the amount of time you have fun with her doesn't balance out the amount of time you don't...I don't think I would even bother to try to save that “friendship”.
What should I do if my friends are being mean to me?
Discard them immediately. These people are not friends. They are enemies. You should not have to put up with these people because they feel better about themselves by making other people feel bad. By definition these people have low self-esteem and they bully people they are jealous of.People overcompensate because it is fundamental human nature. People try to impress people because they know they do not measure up and are not good enough compared to other people in their mindset.It is human nature for people to want to feel special and important. When people in their lives do not grant them these basic human needs, human instinct takes over and people seek them elsewhere.This is ultimately the underlying motivation for people to decide to change jobs, make new friends, end toxic relationships, cheat on their partners, rebel against parents and join religious cults.People will eventually realize they have options if their basic human needs, desires and rights are not fulfilled. The most vulnerable people in modern society are people who do not have basic human needs and rights fulfilled.These people are easy prey for religious, political and corporate brainwashing. Some people will go to extremes to overcompensate and hurt people and damage and fragment societies in the process.
My friends are mean to me?
u need to tell them how u feel and when they say mean things it hurts and if they keep doing it ur going to have to stay strong and say and say exactly this " u are super mean and u aren't good and our friendship is in a damn ditch u little sh**s and i dont need u ur the biggest Sh** i've ever seen u fatties and i hope thiss puts u into depression and trust me ur lost without me so try and well bye-bye and dont worry ill make better friends then u a**holes ever were" and by the way make sure u quote tht in my school EVERYONE wants to be my friend and im not mean about it and so what i do tho is i kick a$s and thts what u ned to do and ull have to many friends and u wont know what to do with all of them GOOD LUCK
Why is my friend so mean to me?
first, how old are you and your friends,not in a mean way though and what i think is maybe: she's jealous of you she got her period? she's having a bad time at home maybe one of those?
My friend is being mean to me all of the sudden?
my friend has been acting really mean to me lately i know her life at home is hard her mom is a young mother and she over heard her mom saying she is pregnant again she already has two other sibs and her step dad is leaving her mom she has it real hard but i dont have my dad either she is jealous of me she sometimes saya your life is sooo perfect and that im a blank blank and a jerk im trying to comfert her what should i do?
How do I tell my friend that she's being mean to me?
First, you should realize that the person might not even realize that she is mean to you. She might think that this is acceptable and doesn’t hurt you in any way.Second, you should realize that it’s you who doesn’t feel good about it somewhere deep inside. It is your feelings and you are the one who allow those kind of feelings hurt you.Finally, there are basically three simple solutions to that:Stop communication with that person. That’s not the greatest solution. It’s more like putting a wall between you and her. It’s only for situations where it hurts you so much that you don’t want to deal with it in any way.Stop reacting to those feelings. It’s not really healthy to be always worried about what somebody else talks about you. Just find a way to ignore it. Much better way, although, you might still feel bad at times. We all have feelings, after allTell this to her directly that you don’t want her to treat you this way. This is the preferred way, in my opinion. Just try to make in a non-aggressive, friendly way.Hope that helps. Good luck!
My friend is being mean to me all of sudden!?
I've had this problem before.. It was horrible..I would constantly ask her what her problem was but she always insisted that she didn't have a problem. With the whole 'sweetie' thing: I just think that she's changing.. Not all friendships can last forever; one or the other will eventually grow out of eachother, or just start changing intO a cOmpletly different person. If she keeps acting like a b**** then I would suggest distancing yourself little by little and start becOming better friends with other people. When she's calling you sweetie as pointing out every small flaw, she's thinking that she's better than you.
My friend is being mean to me for no reason?
Please answer, I need help! Okay... so I'm 13 years old and in 7th grade. I don't have any school friends because I'm really shy at school, but not at home or in my neighborhood. I have two neighborhood friends, I consider them my best friends because we see each other every day and make funny inside jokes. One of them acts like she's all cool for me and is mean to me a lot. Her birthday is coming up, and she's acting like she's so cool and she cusses now, always has gum, rolls her eyes at me, and she keeps talking about her birthday party and school friends. I can tell she thinks she's better and prettier than everyone because she's always wearing a bunch of fancy and stylish clothes, and she goes up the my car window and does her hair! She's really rude sometimes and she told me she doesn't care if I come to her birthday party, she thinks she's the leader and I'm the slave, whenever there's a third person, she totally ignores me, and whenever I call her, its like she doesn't want to be around me so she hangs up, yet she calls me and comes to my house all the time? Now, she's hanging up on me and ignoring me for no reason. I am tired of her acting like a preppy loser. Why is she acting like this, and should I still be her "friend"? Thanks.