How to get over losing your best friend?
We'd been best friends since we were 7 or 8. We always did everything together. We were so close. When we were 15 something really bad happened to me, and I tried to talk to her about it, but she just turned her back on me and called me a liar. She was so selfish and kept hurting me from that day on. I'm now 18 and I still can't 'get over it'. She's moved on, very clearly. She has a new best friend, who I know and she's a good friend of mine too. I've got a new best friend and he's amazing, far more than she ever was. Is it normal that I'm still not over it?
I am a 15 year old guy.I love my best friend who is a guy. Should I pursue if im not sure hes gay.?
i have known him for almost three years now. we have been always close friends and i come over to his place often. its easy for me because he lives in the same apartment complex as me. anyway i have always lovedgoing over to his place and playing xbox 360 or playstation 3 but never would take it further. i never spent the night but he did at my place one time. then in the past 1 year, i have fallen in love with him and have been spending the night at his house frequently. i would usually sleep on a matress next to him and nothing further would happen. then i asked if i could sleep in his bed with him and he said sure. in the middle of the night he will put his leg around me and place his body right up to mine and cuddle. this all happened more than once. we will also look into each others eyes and smile. we will also sit real close to eachother legs touching and he wont mind. and on more thing to add. so does he like me and should i tell him my feelings. i havent felt this way to any other guy and generally like girls. i just cant stop thinking about him.help please.
My parents won't let my older friends drive me around?
I have a lot of friends who are older then me by a year or two and have their drivers license. Whenever they ask me to come along with them or offer to give me a ride, i have to decline, because my parents won't let me ride with them. I understand they care about my safety, but I really don't know how to convince them that it's okay. How do i convince them to let me get rides and go places with my older friends? Oh, I'm going to be 16 in a few months & am going into my sophomore year.
What's a good curfew for my 18 year-old son who is living at home while going to college and working a part-time job? His friends had their curfews taken away once they started college, and my son thinks it’s unfair.
Um, are you serious? Your son should not have a curfew.He's 18. That means he's a grown-up. He can go out and do whatever he wants to. You can't stop him anymore. It's time that you start realizing you now have a different role to play in your son's life. You are no longer his "parents" who are going to "raise him" and "take care of him."You are not going to be able to control him any longer. And, if you try to, you will only decrease the amount of influence that you currently have over him. (And my guess is that your level of influence you have over your son is quite small... seeing as how you're even thinking about setting rules on your grown-up son's life.)Your role now with your son is simply to support him. To love him unconditionally. That's what is important. It's important that your son feels he has a safe place in the world to return to. He needs a rock at this turbulent point in his life. You need to be that rock. (Not a judge or jail keeper.)Just someone to support your son. Don't give him advice. Sorry, but he doesn't want to hear it right now. ONLY IF ONE ASKS, should you ever give him advice.The truth—that most people don't understanding—is that you have to EARN THE RIGHT to give advice. He should be asking you for advice because he respects you and loves you so much.And how is THAT going to happen?It's going to happen when you give him enough freedom and room to grow. It's going to happen when you support him and tell him that you love him no matter what. It's NOT going to happen if you try to tell him to come home at 4am.He's 18. It's his life.Let him go. Only by letting him go, will he ever come closer.— Eric EarleDirector of Youth Developmentwww.mentorportland.com
My brother drives me to the point of suicidal thoughts. Help!!?
Okay i'll try to keep this short the best i can... but its hard to sum up 15 years of your life in a short summary... I'm a 14 yr old girl, I have an older brother who is constantly picking on me and driving me insane. He has a temper and can't keep his cool. He likes to let his anger out on me - he trashes my room, damages my best clothes, swears at me and always sends humiliating pictures of me to his friends. He does more than just this... He always swears at me and calls me names that really put me down. He drives me to the point where I think "I just wanna kill myself, that way I won't have to put up with him any longer..." I tried everything... I spoke to my parents and friends about this and all they say is 'stay strong. you can pull through this' Seriously it's hard to do that when there's some psychotic idiotic as your brother without a brain who constantly abuses you at everything you do. One time I was putting on some makeup and he just goes into my room and says "You're an ugly little b*tch. You wear too much makeup. Stupid cakeface. You're a Slut!" He said right to my face and I didn't even do anything I swear! He always rages over the littlest things.. like who gets the remote control, etc. He always takes photos of me whenever we have arguments and always threatens to show his friends if I don't shut up. Seriously I'm the one who is always quiet, HE is the one who starts every fight we have and is the one with the temper here - NOT me. He always records my voice on his phone and says 'Keep talking'. Whenever he does this, I just shut up immediately cause he would always show his friends and it would leave me embarrassed. I really need help. My parents are fighting at the moment so it just makes things even worse. I can't live with that bastard any longer. He doesn't know how powerful his words have an impact on me. I cry most of the time, he physically and verbally abuses me, he tells me to go kill myself and it makes me want to, he always ruins my happiness and gets away with it, he ruins my chances of having a happy day - he can't even let me have a single day without making me upset. I am depressed, he is my absolute worst nightmare. I just want to kill myself NOW to avoid anymore drama. Please help.. Anybody?? :'(
My friend thinks I'm a sociopath :(?
I have ADD too and as you said its the main reason for your creativity so deal with ADD as its your friend, not something bad. you're not actually suffering from it, you're lucky to have it. creative musicians & scientists have ADD/ADHD... people with ADD have the ability to "hyper-focus" on things of interest, and as people said... it's not holding you back Now...for your friend ignore him, tell him that you're happy with the way you are.. if he can't deal with that, and keep coming on how stupid "you are" then tell him to cut it out, you still young... you'll grow old, learn and improve and he shouldn't change YOU into HIM you're a grown dude, you know what's good for you or at least you'll... by YOURSELF. and no, you're not a sociopath otherwise you'd be moping all alone but instead, you're asking people to see if you're wrong or right, and if your he's wrong or right live your life by your own rules, don't let anyone change you if you believe you have to change something you're not good at, you're the one who should be taking these steps you, NOT anyone else you're not perfect and you don't live to be. embarrassing you in front of people is unacceptable and its not considered as an advice. only people with paranoia would do that. he believes that he has the right to take actions on peoples life being a public figure will give him the confidence and then he'll start to believe he's mentally higher then a lot of people, and that's wrong for a 19 year old rising person and that shows a huge lack of experience. at the end, tell him that he must stop before he drive you to something that you both will regret.