How can I get my aunt and my mom to stop fighting?
My aunt is very hard-headed and she's held a grudge on my mom for 6 years now, just because my mom and dad got divorced, she was mad. She just won't let it go. And since my aunt doesn't like my mom, my mom goes along w/ her and is mean just as much. my aunt pretty much hates the world, she talks about everyone. I just don't know what to do. She flips my mom off when she's driving down the highway & she talks about my mom to me & I just don't know what to do. I'm so confused..please help me.
My parents are constantly fighting and Im scared my dad will hurt my mom again?
Coming from child hood where my parents were always fighting I can relate to you. I have been studying psychology now for several years and am finishing it up. I know that adults have many layers and that the layers will peel back depending on what is going on in their lives. I would sit with your patents if this is possible and I would talk with them. I would tell them how this makes you feel and how you love BOTH of your parents and how much you hate to see them unhappy. Ask them if it is something you have done. Sometimes this will spark the ears of a father like nothing else will. I promise you that your father does love you. I am willing to bet that he has many problems that stem from his childhood that have never been resolved. I would tell them that how much your family means to you and how much they both mean to you. Explain that all you want is a family that is happy and that is willing to work together to work through what ever problems you might have. There is nothing so serious that it can't be worked out. As for your mom each and every day I would compliment her. Tell her how blessed you are to have such a wonderful mother. Tell her how much you love her and love to see her smile. Don't get in the habit of talking bad about your father, no matter how true it is. Any negative talking will only breed negative feelings. Those are the feelings you want to avoid at all costs. I wish I could help more. I hope that the advice I have given you will help. I will also add that you pray for guidance. Keep your head up and remember to smile. I will help when and where I can. Drop me a line if there is anything more I can do.------------------------- The Help Doctor
How do i stop fighting with my mom everyday?
As a mom myself, as much as it hurts and bothers you, it bothers and hurts her too, even if it dont seem like it, it does! As mothers, we love our kids more than life itself, there is no way to describe a mothers love. As midnight beauty said, there is always love there, no matter what! Try to do something for her that you know she likes, make her her favorite food to eat (if your old enough to cook) try to make an effort to get along with her. Talk to her, tell her " mom it hurts me when we fight like this and I want us to be close, Im thankful I have you mom, I love you". Your gonna hve to compromise when it comes to problems...she is your mom, she is giving you a place to call home, she is feeding you and Im sure she trys to give you most of what you want. It takes two babe....dont give up, one day you'll regret if you dont. Hang in there!
My parents never stop fighting!?
Dear Hannah: I don't have the book of answers but I can not understand the terms under your mom thinks that both you and brother would be taken away from her, now listen up, I am a male ( of course) and reality is that I have had some issues with my wife and she has always been told by me that our children will never be missing a meal if she and I divorce. Also mothers most of the times have the legal right of keeping the children and the material things (such as the house and cars) to support the children until age of 18).I suggest to you since I don't know your age nor your brother's that send me another description of your problem and please never choose to run away, I will do my best to come back to you since I am in a foreign location and I have 2 daughters, a son and a wife and don't get to see them that much anymore. Also, you are very right about parents arguing but not to the extend that you describe it, I have being a husband for almost 20 years to the same woman and truly, that does not make me the perfect husband but I try to be ( at least a responsible one). Hang in there ANGEL, something positive and wonderful will turn out for you by being brave about your concern. Look up, he is watching,even for the ones who don't believe in him.
Mom and stepdad always fighting?
My mom and stepdad have been fighting a lot lately. They're always arguing about dumb things. I asked my mom if they're getting a divorce and she said she doesn't know. If they got a divorce then we would have to move out of our house and into an apartment. My stepdad can be mean sometimes but I don't think I would be super upset if we didn't live with him. My biggest concern is my stepbrother. I love him like he's my actual brother, and when I talk about him I always refer to him as 'my brother.' If they got a divorce it would be like leaving my own brother and I would be so upset. How do I get them to stop fighting?
My dad and stepmom are always fighting, is there anything I can do?
I'm about to be 17, and my dad and stepmom are always fighting. My dad's mentally unstable due to two car accidents when I was young that left him with slight brain damage, and my stepmom takes everything personally. I know they're not going to last, but I'm worried about my 3-year old half-sister. I love her to death, but I realize that she's old enough to start having memories now. I don't want her first memory to be of her mommy and daddy fighting. It was the same way with my parents, and yelling at them doesn't work. I once yelled myself hoarse trying to get somewhere with them, to get them to stop fighting, and we just ended up going backwards. They can't stand to be in the same room, and if they are, they begin yelling at each other. My dad's never laid a hand on anyone, though he's pushed my stepmom a few times. They're starting to pin their friends against each other, and that's just another source of friction. My question is, who can I contact for help with this? Do I need to get in contact with a marriage counselor, or the police, or what? I can't do this alone, I've tried and failed horribly. I'm just worried about my sister. Please help me out.
How do I cope with my mom who starts fights with me and then play the victim?
If indeed your mom starts fights without any reason or provocation, and that she was not like that before in your relationship, I would think she should be undergoing some kind of changes in her system..like hormonal imbalance or other worrisome things that she could not let out in her system.I would avoid the situation where you subject yourself to a fight. If she starts to be nasty, politely excuse yourself. Anytime you think she is in the “mood to fight” make excuses and “disappear” from her sight. She is just venting out and let her vent out to herself and to the wall and say, “I am sorry, Mom that you are feeling this way, but I need to….”While you understandably love your mother, it is not healthy for you to be in that negative environment. Hope this helps.
My mom and dad are fighting and I'm getting a silent treatment by my mother for "picking my dad's side", what should I do?
This is abusive behavior, but on a scale minor enough that you can’t do much about it.I’ll share a similar story I have from my own childhood. My mother and stepdad used to fight a lot. I mean a lot. Screaming, throwing things- police sometimes for noise complaints etc. My mom always would force me to call him if he left the house or didn’t answer her calls. She’d cry or scream or ignore me and give me these disgusting death glares. But outside of that, she was an amazing mother strange enough. It was just when they fought- I was always forced in the middle.I ended up just doing what she said because she’d threaten to punish me and I didn’t really care that much so I just did it because my step dad was a dick.One day, when I was 18 visiting home again she tried to make me do the same thing. She yelled at me and said I didn’t love her and that I HAD to call him. So I didn’t. I said she didn’t own me anymore and I wasn’t going to get in the middle of their shit. And I’ve always looked fondly on that day.In your shoes though, I’d tell your mother ( if you can get the guts to do it) that you’re not choosing sides and that you want to be left out of it. You’re a child and not responsible for their crumbling marriage. Ignore her back and see how she feels. Or even better sit both of them down and explain to your father what she wanted you to do and have a family discussion about it. She’s going to be embarrassed and both of them will have to settle this as adults.You need to remind your mother that you’re not responsible for her fights and you love both your parents and refuse to play head games like this. If she’s going to ignore you because of it then she’ll probably lose you once you turn 18 because you’ll resent her for it. I know I still resent my mother for putting me in the middle of things and I’m nearly 21 now.
My mom and my grandma are always fighting.?
dmy daughter and i disagree about everything and sometimes it gets loud and my grandchildren thought we hated each other, but i explained to them that just because we argue doesn't mean that we don't love each other. just know that they are probably so much alike they can't get along. i don't agree with a lot of things my daughter does but i still love her! try to just ignore them when they are fighting and you might want to ask them why they hate each other like my grandkids did me, because that made me think and i don't argue with her in front of the kids anymore.