My mom makes me feel like crap all the time?
I'm sorry to hear that, it sucks when a parent is like that...I had a horrible childhood growing up with my foster mother always demeaning me, blaming me, ridiculing me and generally verbally abusing me and much more. The time did come though that I turned 18 and graduated then immediately moved out. My life has changed greatly over the years and I have come to realize I am in control of what my life is, how I feel and what I do...it will be that w ay for you too. It may help to do this exercise...lay down in your room and breath deeply to relax with your eyes closed...then immagine her saying something she has said to you that was horrible and then immagine yourself telling her off and making her think twice...do this daily or every two or three days and after awhile it will help you to feel more in control. Hope that helps.
My mom's food makes me feel sick?
IDK why but whenever I eat my mom's mom cooking I feel like I'm going to throw up! When I eat else wear I feel fine but when I try to eat what my mom's make I feel sick. A couple times I even DO throw up. I try talking to her about it, but I get the same old answers, "IDK what you're talking about the rest of the family feels fine!" What is going on?
My mom makes me feel like a burden to her?
Ever since I was little, my mom always told me I was in the way for some reason, like when the back of my foot had been bleeding, so I went to get a plaster and she was being really moody with me and saying 'can you get out of my way', so I just went upstairs and she didn't even see me for the rest of the evening. She also never really took me out after my parents divorced when I was 5, and if I asked to go to the movies or something she'd take me but it seemed like a huge inconvenience to her, so I never really ask. Im the youngest child and it just seems like my 2 older brothers fulfilled her dreams and I'm the leftover, because if they didn't wash their dishes or something she wouldn't really care but if I did it it was like I failed her and I wasn't good enough. She also told me that I was eating too much junk food, but my brother is way worse and she doesn't care, probably because he's really skinny and I'm not like that, despite me being very self conscious about it, so I spent my entire life trying to be slim. It also doesn't help that I have anxiety and depression because of other stuff, so that seems like another burden to her. I know this is s long rant and it's not really a question but I just want her to act like she really loves and cares about me.
My mom makes me feel like im never good enough?
A lot depends on your age. I have had severe depression and it is nothing short of hell, so I am very very proud of your progress, It is HARD. Have you tried telling your mom ? Sometimes if you write it in a letter it is easier. If your mom is critical , as many parents can be and not really know it, you need to get help because she could drive you back into a severe depression and no one, not even mom should be allowed to do that !!!!!!!!! Good luck, I will be praying for you.
My mom makes me feel really bad about myself?
just everything she says to me, i feel like crap. she is basically calling me fat all the time and saying that i'm not "fun to be around" and stuff like that. i'm just like WTF ARE YOU SERIOUS. it's just these random put downs. she is making me cry, even right before school so i go to school with a puffy red face and it's really embarassing. i'm wicked self conscious and i hate my body and my self esteem is crap, i havn't been eating like anything all week. i can't talk to anyone about it. thank you.
What should I do if my mom constantly makes me feel like crap?
Wow there is a lot going on. I would love to know if you are a teenager or are you an adult. In either case I feel that you should definitely seek some type of counseling. This will help you whatever the situation is.As far as your mom, she obviously has her own things going on emotionally that have nothing to do with you. Our parents come with their own baggage into our lives and we can’t take responsibility for it, nor can we fix it for them. They have to want to get the help and find out what their reasons are for doing the things they do.Her treatment of you is not okay. There should be more sensitivity and respect there. Go to counseling and work on yourself, and you can suggest to your mom to do the same thing but you can’t force anyone to do anything. The only person you can fix is yourself. I would like to suggest that if you can make your own appointments and scheduling , that you do it yourself for now, until things get a little better.You have to build up your self esteem, and become more confident, and you you will start to see a more positive change. Take it one day at a time.Deborah-Letsdishgirl
My mom makes me feel insecure about my body and that makes me really sad. If she wouldn't tell me I'm fat I wouldn't feel this way. I feel beautiful and sexy but then she makes me feel bad. What should I do?
My mom makes me feel insecure about my body and that makes me really sad. If she wouldn't tell me I'm fat I wouldn't feel this way. I feel beautiful and sexy but then she makes me feel bad. What should I do?Talking about my mom.She is my best critic. Whether I’m not doing well academically or getting fat, she won’t hesitate for a split second to spit it out and bash me.Suppose you are my friend. I really like you and appreciate the way you are. I will never tell you to change yourself, no matter how bad you are. You know why? - coz I don’t care that much about you.If you get fit and healthier:Its you who’ll live longer, not your mom.Its you who’ll feel more confident, not your mom.Its you who’ll look better, not your mom.I can feel extremely good about myself, no matter how fat I get. But does this “feeling” make any sense?When in reality:I am only gaining more fat.Will feel insecure while I stand with a bunch of friends who are all really fit.Inviting tons of diseases.And worst and as a result.. slowly and slowly, I’m cutting down my own life expectancy.When I came back from back home after my first year at college, I was in terrible shape. My mom got really, really mad.She put me in a tight diet control.Locked the fridge at night.Made me run hard on the treadmill and was there the entire time I used to run, to ensure I don’t cheat.Coming home after 8 months being away from her, I expected a lot of pampering, but it honestly felt like a fucking Navy seal training camp. I was disgusted and cried.But later I realized, how I actually did get a bit fat and none of my “friends” ever cared to tell me to stop eating unhealthy shit and how I would have gradually eaten myself to death if it wasn’t for my mom.Your mom is the only one who sincerely cares about you. The rest have 0 fucks to give. The earlier you understand it, the better.When I got back in shape, I was shocked how I allowed all those junky shit in my body. I felt significantly better and lighter. Also currently I take care of my body a lot and I feel extremely lively and energetic. Thanks mom!P.S - Dad on phone on the day I came back to college after summer:“Your mom cried the entire night, she felt really bad she locked the fridge at night and didn’t cook you your favourite snacks.”
How do I cope with how depressed my mom makes me feel?
Moms are tough! Even if you have a good mom, they represent a huge force in your life and to think that everything that comes from them is going to be good, or that if you are hurt by them it is all your fault (which some of the answers assume) is crazy. Of course, your mom makes you depressed. She programmed you! She is the architect of your personality. And being a human that is living in a society is technically SUpressing which we often experience as DEpressing. So even if your mom was Mary Poppins you would still associate depressed feelings with things that she impressed upon you. And most moms aren’t Mary Poppins. Some are even downright awful. What can you do?I’ll tell you what you can do! Write the meanest nastiest letter to your mom you can muster. Write down every complaint about her and the way she raised you that you can think of. Get mean. Get vicious. Don’t hold back. It doesn’t even matter if your complaints are fair. If you feel it, write it down.BUT DON’T SEND IT TO HER.She doesn’t deserve that. Even if she does deserve it, it won’t help anything to hurt her like that. Take that letter into your backyard (or an alley if you are in the city) and light it on fire. Do not throw it away. You need to destroy it. Watch the smoke swirl into the air. Feel your anger evaporate with it. And then it will be gone. All your complaints will be nothing but ash and smoke and then maybe, just maybe you can finally move on, accept responsibility for your own life and be a god damned adult.
My mom makes me feel useless and depressed?
Stop feeling sorry for yourself; look at all that you've accomplished despite your mom's behaviour. How do you think your sisters are going to get along in life? Not very well, one is married and she'll suck her poor husband dry with being used to getting everything she wants, and the other is babied into never leaving home. If you had a better relationship with your mom, you might be exactly like your sisters; that's not a good thing! You are so much stronger than they are, and have so much more to be proud of. Stand tall and stop giving a damn what she thinks. You're so concerned with how she makes you feel that you don't stop to consider what you think of yourself. ***Sadly, experience, I went through a lot of this same crap.
My mom makes me feel like I can't do anything right?
I'm 14 years old and an only child, and I feel like I can't do anything right. My parents are divorced and my dad doesn't give a ****, and my mom grew up being the youngest of 4 all girls with an abusive mother, and she has Lupus and R/A. Every time I do something, I always screw it up and get told about it, not told, yelled at. Just today I woke up and cleaned the house, vacuumed, mopped, and cleaned both of the bathrooms. And she woke up and told me she was proud. BUT apparently I didn't do it good enough. She spotted things out I couldn't see and told me how bad it was. She always says I do thing bad on purpose so that she never asks me to do it again. It happens on a weekly, no, daily bases. Mainly on Sunday. That's the day we clean the house. I get things done, clean the litter box, vacuum, etc. And I get yelled at about the little things I do wrong. Like forget to clean BEHIND the toilet. The thing is I do that kind of stuff all the time and I want to better, I've tried, but I can't. I try to say something and my mom always brings up her abusive mom, saying things like "Your lucky! I would've been slapped!" or "Do you realize what my mother would have done?" I get all A's and B's in school and I know she's proud of me for that and I know she loves me. But she makes me feel like I do EVERYTHING wrong, sometimes I cry myself to sleep thinking it'd be better if I wasn't born. I feel like I'm leaving out details but I can't exactly remember them. Don't tell me to talk to her because that doesn't work, she just gets mad and says I'm lucky I don't have a mom that beats me. and I tell her how I feel and I'm worried she'll get sad. Once when I was sad and crying about her yelling at me she made me look in the mirror at "How much I'm a whinny baby I am." She's right, I used to cry allot. When I say how I feel she goes off saying she's a terrible mother, yet she doesn't change. I feel like I'm just blaming her for my problems and how I feel. Other than these occasions It's alright. She's sweet and loving. Don't tell me to say anything to anyone. Just tell me how I can keep from crying myself to sleep...