My mom puts her boyfriend before me?
My parents got divorced in the beginning of the year and my mom started dating this guy. I live with my dad mostly but every other weekend I'm suppose to go to my moms. But she always makes plans with her boyfriend and puts me last. On my weekend she will make plans with her boyfriend. I haven't seen her in 6 weeks because she is too busy. And I don't like her boyfriend since he yelled at me for getting in an arguement with my mom and I only knew him for 3 weeks. Ever since then I refuse to go over her house when he's there. My mom won't give me anytime with her alone unless her boyfriend is there. I've tried talking to her about it and she just doesn't care. I also tried shutting the door for awhile and stopped chasing her around but that didn't help. I'm 16 and a girl and I want a mom in my life. I'm holding all this anger inside of me because of what is happening and I'm afraid one day I'm just going to explode.
My boyfriend always puts his mother in front of me!?
We have been dating for almost 3 years and he still puts his mom in front of me. Everytime we go somewhere we have to rush back so he can pick up his 14 year old brother and he always rushing to get things done for her and doing whatever she asks of him. I tried to talk to him about it and all he says is that I'm jealous. I'm not jealous. I just want not have to rush when we go places and for me to be put first for once in his life. He also said his mom will always be first until he is married. I'm out of things to do and I keep getting hurt along the way. Any ideas?
Boyfriend puts his mom before me...?
I would say something, understand that his mother and possibly his family might be a big part of his life, but a relationship is compromise and without it you'll surely fail. Good Luck!
How come my mom puts her other kids and boyfriend before me? I’m the oldest and I haven’t felt loved in a long time, maybe since I was 6.
I'm sorry. your mother is wrong. it could be that she trusts you and thinks you're so wonderful, which you are, that she doesn't ned to praise or worry about you. she might be so bothered and troubled/ preoccupied she forget syou need her too. you should talk to her, and the whole family. tell them what you need. If nothing changes, I'm afraid you need to look for that love inside you, and find it. It will make you strong and beautiful.
My mother is choosing her boyfriend over me. What do I do?
I can’t tell if you are a minor, or a girl or a boy a minor but I would assume that you are over 18 if your mother is leaving you where you are. It sounds like you are trying to tell your mother why you don’t feel safe and she doesn't believe you. I have not listened to my gut before and it’s not a good idea so you are wiser than I was as an adult and it cost me a lot of years and more.It sounds like there is more involved but not sure if you want to say. Make sure he is not on a sexual offender list if that is a reason that you don’t feel safe. You can go to http://crimereports.com and type in your home address and his address to see if he is on a registered sex offender,You might want to talk to a trusted friend or relative so that they can put you in touch with the proper agency so that you can figure out your options which would depend upon your age. Do you have to pay rent? Do you have a job? Are you a minor? If you could provide this information someone with experience in this area could direct you. Do you live in the United States for one would be good to know.Whatever is going on it is clear that you feel really bad about it and hopefully you have someone you can trust to help guide you particularly if you are a minor under 18.
My mom always puts her boyfriend first!?
I don't get it she has always picked her boyfriend over my brother and I.We moved to live with him for like 2yrs and he like dumped her or something and we moved out and as soon as we moved to our old house they got back together.. It's starting to get ridiculous because now she's pissed whenever she isn't with him or if she has to come home early from his house. I'm left at home basically every weekend and she doesn't come home on sunday usually till at least 6pm. While she's gone for the most part she never calls or anything. And if i ever say anything about any of that or talk about him she goes psycho. All she ever says is thats my buisness. Also he never goes to see her ever only if its convient for him. Like if they go on a trip and the airport is closer to our house. It seems to me like he just uses her because she will do anything so they don't break up. He has our brand new refridgerator, washing machine and dryer and alot more. I guess the funniest part i don't get is why she acts so fake and like she loves us when were around other people. They have dated 5 yrs and hes only been to like 3 family functions. Everyone knows that she puts him first but she tries to act like were number 1. idk she just always makes excuse. I guess what i'm wondering is why does she put him first? Unlike my brother I am not going to put up with this. You know boyfriends come and go your children and family will always be there but after all this happening for so long idk if i'm going to want to be there later when he ditches her... Am I wrong for that?
Why does my mum put her boyfriend before me?
Your mom is a messed up person who happened to have kids. It really has nothing to do with you. Some people just shouldn't have kids because they aren't ready to care about someone other then themselves. Some people are naturally selfish and having children can't change that. You are almost an adult and as an adult you can't let her make you feel a certain way. If she doesn't want to be in your life then so be it. Surround yourself with people who make you happy and feel an immense amount of joy. Remember you are in control of your own emotions not her. Just because she is your mom doesn't mean she has to be in your life. Do yourself a favor and stay away from her and her boyfriend. Don't let them bring you down and ruin your life. You will be much happier. Just remember how she is making you feel now and to never treat your children the way she treated you. Never put your boyfriend before your children either. When you have to see your mom just don't. She will realize what she has done after she grows the hell up. If she isn't listening to you now she never will until she is ready. You are the child not the adult if isn't your fault but it will be your fault if you let her dictate your happiness.
Why does my mom puts her boyfriend first and why does he hate me?
Hey, okay so my mom and her boyfriend have been together for like 6 years every thing went fine at the beginning but now that they are going to get married he spanks my sister in the butt not in the disgusting way any who and he wanted to slap my face and he grabed my hand really hard because i put the rugs that where cold to the basket and put my clothes in the dryer then he went down stairs put my wet clothes on top of the dryer and put the rugs in the dryer my mom came up to me and slapped my face 3 times and after that happened him and mom were fight and i heared him say f**** all of u to my mom but of course my mom made him feel better, when i was crying quietly and today we all went shopping and my mom told me that i should go to a store i like so i was like okay i am going with my Little sister cause she wanted to come with me and so i went and i tryed clothes on she came up to me and slap my face in front of people and she was talking to her boyfriend like next me well kinda and he said good she dissevered that hit, her again and after that he acted like i was died and he made my mom act like that too and my Little sister and he was happy that my mom and i were fighting.how do i know that's its because he smiles every time my mom says something rude to me
Why does my mom puts her boyfriends first before me?
Sorry if it's long so my parents separated a year ago due to my mom cheating on him with her current boyfriend now.Not even a week later that they separated when my mom asked me if I was ok with the guy moving in I said no because I wasn't ready plus I have two little brothers I didn't know who he was.This guy treats my mom like **** sometimes.One time my mom try to kick him out and he choked her and left her bruises she didn't do nothing he apologized to her I think and then everything was back to normal.This guy hasn't been working for two months my mom saids he's doing some jobs here and there but doesn't make much.Ive been working since my parents separated because I received no financial support from either of my parents I'm 19 right now I understand I should be working now but what gets me mad is that I live in the hood and I was walking at midnight to get home from work my mom never called to check on me or offer to pick me up she only called once to asked me If I was going home and if I got paid but that was the only time but she picks up her boyfriend all the time from places.Now we only have 3 weeks to move out of the house because my moms owns rent her boyfriend wasn't nice enough to go with her at court he stayed home and slept.I recently lost my job I still have to pay school debt to get my high diploma because my parents are not paying for it.I tried talking to her about this guy not being good for us but all she does is get mad.I feel she prefers him over me
Is it normal for my mom to put her boyfriend before me?
currently I'm seventeen, and I feel as if my mom has been putting her boyfriends before me. Is that a normal thing? when I was 16 I noticed it first. She had a boyfriend who was was very inconsiderate of her feelings. Yet when it came to day to day life she put him before me. sometimes I would need to be picked up from school or a friend's house and she would end up being 2 or 3 hours late. It was usauly cause she was texting or hanging out with her boyfriend. and every time I brought it up she would say something like "I'm not your chauffeur. I don't have to pick you up". sometimes I try to just chat with her and she would ignore me or she would blindly nod to whatever I said because she was texting her guy. She just kind of quit spending time with me when it came to this guy. Now she has a new boyfriend and he's a pretty decent guy, but starting all over again. Only worse. every time she's on her phone its as if the world around her doesn't exist and she will ignore everything I say. on my 17th birthday I needed a car ride to my friends house which is only about 6 miles away, but instead of taking me when I asked her to she waited about 3 hours to take me. that's 3 hours was time that she talk with her boyfriend on the phone. I mean she spends ridiculous amounts of money on putting minutes on her phone. she also says things like "don't screw this up for me" like I'm intentionally going to ruin her relationship. she also wants me to change for this new boyfriend.