My parents are acting REALLY weird...?
Your right. They are so WIERD! maybe you should just go talk to them and ask wierd to.
I'm so fed up with my family, my parents treat me unfairly but spoil my siblings, could you help me?
Been there, done that.It sounds as though you’re the family scapegoat, and so was I.As others have said:think about moving out and being independent as soon as you can. Plan for it;things will never change. That’s a given. You have to make up your mind to deal with it as soon as you independently can rather than waste decades of your life being obedient, like I was, and trying hopelessly to please, like I did. Religion, social pressures about ‘mothers,’ all the rest, kept me from acting until I was 38, and I so wish now that I’d done it when I was 20. I truly felt God reached a hand to me during the miserable years; I truly feel He helped me get out of there.like you, I had the insults running in my head all the time; by my 30s, these translated to challenges over the ridiculous things said or the ridiculous accusations or the ridiculous excuses for the hurts.and yes, you will have to go to war, however you do it:low contact, not answering texts or calls or being at home if they visit or demand your help (yet again) when your help is never good enough, never giving any personal information about your life (no matter how much you long for a family to rejoice or commiserate with you because they never will), being as boring as you can, as non-reactive as you can, and as close to silent as you can be with them, only answering in monosyllables;no contact at all, which is bliss.Meantime, all you can do is hang in there and understand it’s their problem, though it’s become yours by being left out. And that, usually, people like you and me end up in a far healthier state than the spoiled siblings; we see the situation for what it is, the reality, not the manufactured stuff our parents wanted us to believe.
Are my parents being unfair, or am I just overreacting?
I'm very sorry that you're under so much stress. Your parents sound like they love you very much and want to protect you, even if it seems overwhelming to you. They also sound like a typical European or foreign family in the USA...they want their children to be over-achievers and great students so they can make it in this new country and have more than they did. Just try to take it all in stride. Do your best, know your family loves you, and recognize that you are doing GREAT! All A's except for a B+ in English is FANTASTIC...I went to a very good highschool and college and earned A's, B's, and C's my whole life. Try not to stress out..you're doing great. Your parents are just worried about you because even if you live in a small town, people will ill-intentions can be anywhere and your parents don't want you to get robbed, raped, or kidnapped. Keep up the good work, try to level with your parents for a little more leniency with the curfew or constantly calling...but if not, just accept that that's the way your family is. Try to enjoy life, it looks like you'll go very far successfully!
Why is my mom unfair towards me compared to my other siblings?
I have two thought processes here....Thought A. You make straight A's, your siblings do not. My dad was raised in a family of 12. He was next to the last. If anything of any value came to the family the older ones got it. They were often lazy, non workers, under achievers. The younger set, worked hard. Finally my dad asked his dad, why...he said, "Son, you are strong and will survive no matter what...the others won't. I am taking care of them the best I know how" It sounds like quite the opposite of what one should do, just as in your case, you should be rewarded for your straight A's, they should be made to study hard, but hey, kids do not come with manuals, and as parents we do the best we can do in the minute we have to deal with it. Maybe your mom thinks she messed up with them, she is NOT messing up with you. Even though it seems she has time to make things better for the others...maybe she doesn't have the time, the money, I don't know. Thought BMy mom, seemed to be harder on me. I have a sister 4 yrs older, and a younger brother. 10 yrs younger than me, he could do no wrong, with any of us...so we will take him out of our equazion. I was prettier than my sister, not saying my sister was not pretty she was...she was thinner, but anyway, I got a lot of attention from Uncles, later boys, guys. Now my mom thrives on attention for her looks, since she was grew up poor with not very much education, but she had a lot of common sense. And she was well read, but she still never considered herself very smart. I made decent grades, but she seemed to not like me after I turned about 13. She was very hard to get along with, and she was always harder on me. It took years for this to come to me, but I believe she was jealous. She was very thin, I was not, she reminded me all she could. Even years after I married had kids. She is still capable of that, except since my dad passed she needs my husband to help her at times. So she is a little better. I sort of digressed, anyway, I wonder if your mom knows you are probably going to have a great life, and she is a bit jealous. Not that she doesn't want you ti have it, but she is sorry she does not. I am guessing, I mean I am not there, and I have no idea what is really going on, its just a little food for thought. Try to not let your mom get under your skin, try to obey and look forward to making a good life for yourself. Good grades and education goes a long way at obtaining that. Good luck...
My parents wont let me date, Im 14!!!!!?
You're 14 and to young to date. Listen to your parents. At least they are not letting you run around and sleep with half of the town! It's a different world out there now than when your mother grew up. There are kids out there now that will gang rape you just so they have something to post on the internet and show off to friends.
I'm 21 and my parents are still controlling?
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years. We are both 21. My parents seem to not want to get used to me being 21 and I feel the rules they have with me are unfair, considering how old I am. My dad is very weird with having my boyfriend come on vacations with us. He says unless me and my boyfriend are married he doesn't believe in having his daughter bring her boyfriend on vacation. I go on vacation almost every year with my boyfriends family, my mom seems to have to convince my dad every year to let me go. I've gone to AC with my boyfriend and my friends a few times already and both my parents question me every time if it's just going to be me and my boyfriend alone, even if I already told them a million times my friends would be there. Unless someone is taking me home, my parents are strict about me driving home at night past midnight. The farthest I go is a half hour away from my house if I'm out that late, and where I live is super safe, ALSO I just bought my first car so my car is brand new. I'm constantly getting the phones calls and texts about them threatening me to come home, when all my friends are having a good time, I feel like I constantly have to worry about my parents being on my case, it's hard to have fun because of it. Overall my parents are so loving, and of course I love them. I'm just frustrated with the constant babying and worry. I'm responsible and always was independent. I just need some advice on what to do!