I'm 13 help!!! my parents got divorced!?
Im a boy, I live with my mom. and my mom and dad got divorced But I hate every guy that tries to out with my mom. and if she meets someone I freak out and start yellign at him and swearing at him. I feal really jealous and mad that my mom is trying to go out with guys. but why? and should I let my mom go out with guys again?
Divorced parents having sex???..?
My parents got divorced not too long ago because my dad is a coward and leaves in the middle of tough times. This has happened before but this last time they decided to get divorced. Now were having problems with my brother so my dad comes over to sleep in our house to watch over him, and now today I find out they're having sex and kissing... THIS WAS NOT SUPPOSED TO HAPPEN..... They belong desperate they can't get along and I don't look up to either of my parents or my brother! My dad went to Cuba and had sex with women over there and on his phone he's talking to women and he's having sex with my mother? My mom is too stupid to realize anything... I wish they would stop because they don't belong together he's just gonna break my moms heart again and my mother will get depressed again... I feel like having a breakdown.. This shouldn't be happening
My parents are getting divorced and I don't care?
My parents have been fighting for years now. My mom has come into my room time and time again to tell me how upset she is and that they are probably getting divorced. It never actually happens though. This time, they both called me into the room to say that they are getting divorced and were going to discuss what they would do tomorrow. It seemed more serious. My dad slept in the guest room. My mom refused to go to work today. When they told me and my sister, my sister got all upset and started crying. I just said okay and walked out of the room. I don't really care if they get divorced. It will probably be good, since they will be happier. Later that night, my dad came down and asked me why I am so heartless. It's like he expected me to cry and he wanted me to be upset about it. I just told him that I don't care if they get divorced because it's what they want and I don't want me to stand in the way of that decision. Is something wrong with me? Should I be more upset? And why would my dad want me to be upset about it?
My parents are getting divorced! Help!!?
You wouldn't be the first by a long shot, hon. You are going to be okay. It takes a while to adjust, but your friends won't think of you any different (and if they do then they weren't real friends anyway). You need to remember that your mom deserves a chance at happiness and falling out of love happens a lot, it doesn't mean she didn't try or that she's just trying to ruin your life. I know it hurts like hell, but, ask your mom if you could go to a counselor, or just go in to school and talk to the school counselor. Those people can be your greatest advocates, BTW. Please don't isolate yourself, talk to your friends, let your little sister know you're just as scared as she is and give her a hug. You'll both need it, just ask your parents to at least be civil with each other. That's the least they can do for you.
How has the divorce of your parents affected you?
It was awesome.Honestly. My parents had us young (23). They realized they still had a ton they wanted to do as individuals and they weren’t as well suited as they thought.Instead of staying together and being bitter and angry at each other about this for 25 years like other members of my family, they called it quits and stayed great friends.My dad went back to Australia, my mom stayed in California, and they agreed to travel together with us. They went to work on their own projects.I got dual citizenship, an example of what it means to hustle from both of them, and a good understanding of what being yourself before marriage means. They are now both remarried.I’m sorry, I cannot understand what good people see in “staying together for the kids”. So your kids can see what an unhappy, dysfunctional, miserable existence is? What is the benefit of that?I would much rather pack a bag, say bye to a happy mom, and go see a happy dad.Since growing older, I’ve watched other kids suffer as a result of “staying together for the kids.” Girls who witness this learn that being a woman means being a miserable martyr and often their mothers were resentful of them as a result. Boys learned you find a woman who will stay, you do what you want, and you come home miserable.I could not thank my parents enough for getting a amicable divorce.
Im 19 and my parents are getting a divorce.?
im 19 and still live at home for school. my parents have decided to get a divorce and im not sure how i should feel. on hand it makes me angry because they have spent 22 years togeather and it makes no sense why they are getting divorced. im not sure who i should live with because i dont want to make either of them mad at me.
My parents got divorced, but I feel nothing. Is this normal?
My parents announced to both me and my younger brother today my father was moving out, and they were getting divorced. I know I should feel devastated, but I sincerely feel nothing. I don't know, perhaps their fighting prepared me for their break-up? Actually, feeling nothing wouldn't be describing my current state. I feel like a hole that has been there for a while just opened. It doesn't feel painful, just empty. Maybe it'll take some time for the whole realization of it to settle in. I don't know, anyone have experience with this?
Does divorce screw up kids or does living with parents that do not love each other screw up kids?
Both have the potential to screw up kids. (In fact, living in an intact home has the potential to screw up kids.) The question is: what are the risks?Risks of two people living together who don't love each other: - Living in a house that is tense causes everyone stress - If parents had loved each other but fallen out of love, they are probably sad or angry and continuing to live together can make that worse - If parents "fake it," children will think what their parents have is what love is, or what a "normal marriage" is. - If parents divorce once children move away, children will still have to cope with divorce, but now as adults without the safety net of knowing their parents will try to put them first.Risk of divorce: - Alienation from one parent - Political lobbying by a step-parent or lover - Stupid decisions of the newly-divorced in their gleeful freedom - Disastrous choice of step-parent - Standard of living falls (in at least one household)Personally, I think the divorce risks are far more manageable. The parenting rules of divorce are: - Never ever ever ever talk about the ex- with the kids. The only exception is if they bring it up, and even then it's best to coach them in how to address the ex- directly or to get the child into a therapist if they have questions. This includes logistics: talk directly to the other parent. - Work on building a new type of relationship with the ex- that is about the job of co-parenting and nothing else. You don't need to be friends, you just need to be mutually respectful of the role you play in the child's life. - Involve older children in "custody" decisions, being sure they know that parents wanting time alone is normal, and that you respect that some time they might want to be with one parent or the other. My only other hint: - Go through mediation, not divorce attorneys, when possible. Consider mediation or even couples' therapy post-divorce if any problems arise. Do everything you can not to turn this into a combative situation.