My boyfriend died in a car accident 2 months ago, i am very sad.?
I am very sorry to hear your sadness.I too lost a boyfriend(June of 2005)from a motorcycle accident while on vacation in Greece,visiting his son.Although we had broken up many years before,we had a special bond.we were the very best of friends for over 18 yrs.I cried alot the first year when i smelled the cologne he wore,heard songs on the radio that we used to sing on the top of our lungs,going into places that i used to go with him.seeing his family out in the neighborhood. As time goes on,it will heal your pain somewhat.I still talk to him alot when driving in my car.When i hear a song that reminds me of him i no longer cry,i smile now.I am just very grateful that he was a part of my life and i know he is there watching over me from above. I would recommend writing in a journal or diary about your feelings about him,or if in a very painful state,maybe seek some grief counseling.Let the memory of him keep you positive in your future,i am sure he would want nothing but the best for you.Good luck in all you do,my prayers are with you!
Do underage drunk drivers deserve sympathy?
Recently someone I know got into an accident because he was driving drunk and lost his life. I wasn't very close to him, but at the same time seeing the situation, does he deserve any sympathy for his action? He was 18 years old.
My friend Leo Galina Just died! What cani say to comfort his family?
There's usually nothing you can actually say to comfort people who are grieving. Offering condolences is a formality. His family will come to terms with their grief on their own. Just remember, while his family will be much sadder, Leo Galina was still your friend, and you are allowed to mourn him too.
How can I say father passed away in an interview?
Hello anonymous..I can give you example of mine in interview I faced..After the death of papa(father),I have faced five interviews.. the best way..I think.. is to just keep this thing with the flow..As usual.. the interviewer starts with your introduction.So,while speaking about your family.. do speak for ur father's occupation,mother and siblings.. and obviously,you will use the word “was” for your father.Then,may the next question be “now, what he is doing?”..Then you can say “ he passed away xxxx years back”Or, if during your interview,there will be some question which can be directed to your telling this information..You can tell them in between the conversation..Hope this way works.. Regards..EDITS:One thing more, please stay strong while mentioning your father,his name, his job,or some other details. Don’t carry away emotionally. Show your strong self.I actually faced this emotional outburst twice in my telephonic interviews. Kindly try to control these feelings gracefully..Thanks..
Why do we find it easy to feel sympathy for strangers but not for people known to us?
This is a conundrum I’ve thought for quite some time too! In my case it doesn’t come from self-defense; I don’t have a lot of problems with reciprocation or getting hurt (in tolerable levels) because I feel my good intentions is what matters most. I’ve had only few cases of betrayal and I trust and forgive my friends easily. But for some reason I still give way more freely to strangers than familiar people.In my case, I’ve come to a conclusion that it’s because of idealization. A stranger is an idealized version of a human in my mind, because I know them so little. I can only judge them from their outward appearance and basic traits, which are often very rough sketches.An old lady selling trinkets will immediately foster sympathy (and spare change) from me. In my mind, she’s the idealized symbol of a person who struggles with poverty and the injustices of the world. I make out a fictional life story in which she lives alone in a small house working hard from day to night tirelessly and with endless patience. I start to imagine how happy she would be if I were to help her and how it may help her rather poor life or buy her something nicer to eat today. In my mind she’s stereotypical, ideal, two-dimensional.I fail to see her as human- with all her faults- because I don’t know her. I have no idea of her temperament or her flaws, her family or exact life story, her selfishness or selflessness or ethic and all the other things that make her a living breathing person and not just an idea.Just like it’s easier to crush on our idea of someone, rather than to love them for who they truly are; it’s easier for me to feel sympathy to my idea of her, not to who she truly is.
My co-worker's father died. Should I go to the wake or is a mass card enough?
What I would suggest is getting her a card if your company isn't doing an office-wide card and showing up to the wake to pay your condolences. However, please wear the traditional color of black. I have been absolutely horrified to see people arrive at wakes and/or funerals in bright busy prints as though they were about to go to a fantastic dinner or party afterward. While you may not have known her father, it is still imperative to wear the traditional color of mourning as a showing of respect to she and her family and close friends/relatives. I'm not certain about the exact etiquette, but I have known some people who did not know the deceased but did know the family, who have bypassed the coffin and gone right to the receiving line. On the other hand, I have been to other wakes where even if the attendees who didn't know the deceased, still went to the coffin to pay their respects (to both the deceased and also to the family). Either way, be sure to go to the receiving line to offer the condolences being certain to introduce yourself as working with the coworker (be sure to add her name) and then excuse yourself. Some people stay no more than 15 minutes (which is perfectly acceptable) while others stay the entire time. Also, I have known of companies and offices who have set aside a specified time where they will all arrive at the same time to show a combined offer of sympathy and support. Perhaps also make a freezer meal for your coworker's mom in the days prior to the wake and funeral as she will probably be very busy with family-related business and check in on both she (via your coworker) and your coworker in the days/weeks after the funeral to see how she's holding up. Try to avoid using the terms: "I know what you must be going through." "At least ________" (fill in the blank). "How are you doing?" (Big DUH! right there)
What should I do if I have lost a loved one in a motorcycle accident?
I wish I had a magic solution for you you can believe that I have tears in my eyes having read your post and mostly don't want you to feel as if the world is entirely dead to you and unfeeling. So here I am, someone, somewhere, Who has had the experience you're having. For a while you will weep; at first for long periods, after a while just in the moments when one of so many things reminds you of him. And after a much longer time the memory will blend tenderness and grief into an unforgettable loss but one that is still connected to some very precious moments and memories. Feeling like you're in shock, alone, that the world is unreal, and this can't possibly have happened, are pretty normal in situations like yours. Take your time, know that you will be okay, and there what you're feeling is real and deserves to be honored. For many there is no one in their lives who is in either trying to fix them were unable to listen because the discussion is so painful. If there is someone in your life you can talk to try to share when and as you can. I wish you comfort in the love of those who care for you as a human being who is struggling. I count myself among them. Keep breathing in six months you will look back and realize that you have survived and you have more of a life to live. The pain will not be gone but I believe you will find a purpose in the things that happen in your life and that some good things are waiting for you.