Should I Take My Future Mother In Law With Me Wedding Dress Shopping

Inviting future Mother In Law to wedding dress shopping?

So I'm planning on going wedding dress shopping in the next month or so. My plan was to take my mom, MOH, and FMIL. Well, we went to a Bridal Show this weekend and my mom, FMIL, MOH, and bridesmaids all went. Apparently while I had stepped away with my bridesmaids. The FMIL said to my mother. "I don't think the MOH or bridesmaids can come dress shopping, they will influence her (me) and I want to make sure the bride is in something we want to see her in and not what they want". So here lies my problem. I know what I want in a dress, nobody is "influencing" me. But is it ok for me not to invite her dress shopping simply because I would rather have my girls there and I really don't want her to be negative about my dress choices. Or do I just have to suck it up and invite her? Anybody else not invite future mom and regret it? Ideas?

My future mother-in-law doesn't like my choice of wedding dress?

Sara, first thing you need to do is have your fiance kindly tell his mom to stop calling you 3 times a day. She has things she's in charge of and that's quite enough. If she has questions, etc. she can send you an email once a day to keep up on details if necessary. This is something your fiance must take care of immediately to help you relieve some stress. I'm not planning a wedding and if my own mother were calling me 3 times a day, I would be pulling my hair out.

Next, understand you don't have to share any details with her at all about your dress or anything else you haven't put her in charge of. If she asks about your dress, just smile and tell her you want her to be surprised. Don't let her even have a glimpse of you before the ceremony starts. Again, it's your fiance's job to make sure she's busy with him, if necessary. It's your job to get the dress you want, that make you happy. It's not her dress, it's yours.

Hun, it's time you learn to grow a backbone and stand up for yourself. You can never please everyone (and you shouldn't) and it's always ok to say 'no' without giving excuses. Until you learn this, your MIL will see you as someone she can run all over. You don't want that to be the rest of your life.

Should I take my future mother in law with me wedding dress shopping?

More than likely there are one of two problems here. 1. Your fiances mom put him up to asking because she wants to come, and that's putting pressure on him. 2. He feels bad for his mom and wants her to be more included in the wedding. Either way I don't think he should be putting pressure on you to take his mom with you to pick out your gown.


It's your day, and I would do what's comfortable for you. This is supposed to be the biggest time in a girls life next to giving birth. I think being a bride and a mother are truly times where a woman is allowed to be selfish! You never get a chance to be a bride for the first time or a mother for the first time again! If you don't mind taking her then let her come. If you do mind, tell your fiance that this is something special you dreamed of doing with your mother, sister and aunt. Tell him it's an exciting but tedious experience and you want to be able to feel comfortable with your choices and dislikes with out offending anyone. Explain to him that the experience will be ruined if you feel like you have to walk around on eggshells because his mom is there, so you'll have to decline his invitation for her to come. Maybe you can offer to include her in something else to be nice.
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My future mother in law wants me to wear her wedding dress, but I do not like it?

I feel for you - my ex's mom was like this. You must be honest with her and stand your ground - this could be a sign of lots of pushiness to come so you need to learn how to deal with her now. Tell her you are flattered, and her dress is lovely, but ever since you were a little girl you dreamed of shopping for your perfect wedding gown. Invite her to shop with you only if you actually want her there. Tell her you'd like to keep her gown aside to be either 1. used as a christening gown for your child or 2. saved for your daughter in case she would like to wear it. (These things always come back in style, or you may never have a daughter! But it gives her something to think about and isn't a total rejection). If she persists after this polite rebuff then you must have your fiance step in and tell her no.

Is it bad luck for my mother-in-law to be to see my wedding dress?

i have picked my wedding dress and my mum and sister are comin to see me with it on i asked my future mother-in-law to come too and she wants to but we were unsure if it was bad luck???

Is it bad luck for your fiance to go wedding dress shopping with you.?

I don't think your finance will look back and think "that was a horrible choice for a wedding dress" if he does not go shopping with you. Take a few friends, you mom, your dad, an aunt, whomever. There are plenty of dress shop employees that also have a good eye for what looks good on a bride-to-be. Many are trained for that sort of thing. They can all help you choose a dress that looks awesome.

I don't think it's bad luck for him to help you find a dress, but your guy's eyes will pop out of his head when he sees you for the first time in that beautiful gown coming down the aisle. Well, my man's eyes did. I took his breath away. He was overcome with joy, pride, admiration, and love when I turned the corner to walk down the aisle. Everyone seated in the church said they knew the exact moment I entered the room because of the look on my man's face. They all said "his face just lit up". It just felt so good to get that response from him to see me so gorgeous. I hope every bride will want the same reaction and feeling from their man that I had from my man. If he helps you pick out the dress, I don't think the "surprise" effect will be there on your wedding day.

Wedding gown shopping & MIL problem.?

I am getting married in 8 months. I went dress shopping with my mother and mother in law. I found a $1700 dress, but I went home and decided I was not comfortable spending that much money on a dress.

So, I made an appointment at Davids Bridal kind of last minute. I was stressing about finding a dress (I m picky), but only my mother could come. My mother in law said she was busy, so I didn t tell her. I found THE ONE! It was $1100.

I was just going to make an appointement with my mother in law so I could try on dresses and pick the one I had picked. BUT I searched the number online and found a bride who was selling hers because she had canceled her wedding. It s my size, includes the veil, tiara, petticoat, jewelry, with tags still on everything all for only $700! I couldn t pass up the deal and bought it. But now I have to explain to my mother in law why I bought a dress without her seeing me in it. I know she will love the dress, but I don t want to hurt her feelings. How do I tell her without hurting her.

P.s: She has no daughters or any other daughter in laws. Which is why dress shopping was so important. She is a big part of my life and our wedding. HELP.

Should I go wedding gown shopping without my mom?

I'm trying to decide if I should go wedding gown shopping with or without my mom. My mom is a very negative person and she is constantly telling me that I need to lose weight. I've shown her some dresses that I really love and want to try on when I go shopping and she tells me I'm not thin enough to wear any of them. She's my mom and I want her to be there when I try on dresses because I value her opinion but she always makes me feel so crappy about myself! So I don't know what to do! Should I bring her along and deal with her negativity or leave her behind and just go shopping with my girlfriends and future mother-in-law? I really don't want to hurt my moms feelings but I also don't want to feel bad about my appearance when shopping for my wedding dress.