Does life just keep getting worse the older you get?
I got sober 8/4/01, just before my 47th birthday. I was also dealing with depression and PTSD. To be honest, things didn't start getting better for me until until early 2004, but then things got so much better so quickly it was scary. I got off of medication and found supplements that actually helped. I came into a little bit of money that I used for a car and a computer rather than partying. I reconnected with an old flame that I had lost due to alcoholism and depression and got married the following year. I went back to school. I picked up a volunteer job in mental health that led to my very rewarding present job working with people who have moderate to severe mental illness, primarily with those who have coexisting substance abuse issues. I found something that I'm passionate about. I also started running a few Yahoo groups that deal with recovery and/or mental health. I'm the happiest now that I've ever been in my life. I've been through the cycle of relapse and recovery many times, so I recognized when I was having selective recall. Sure, I had some good times drinking and I've got some pretty wild stories of those days, but I also had to remember all bad times too; the lost jobs, lost relationships, the legal problems. I look back on those days with a little fondness, but have no desire to try to revisit them; they went the way of my 29" waist and thick, full hair. Each time I tried drank in order to feel better, the trade-off was my life got just a little worse and sometimes, a whole lot worse. It's the difference of being a short term hedonist and a long term hedonist. There's a whole lot less drama and much more contentment in my life. Get involved with something, anything. There must be something you'd like to do. Get involved, take some classes, join a hobby club, just do something more than work and pay bills. For the first couple of years all I did was keep putting on foot in front of the other. Eventually, I got to where I wanted to be.
Anyone think being sober is boring?
hahaha i do! im more emotionless when im sober not as social not as happy more serious and not as friendly actually or approachable lol i love being buzzed and drunk i dont do drugs i just drink haha to get drunk! =]:) laughing uncontrollalby is so hard when sober but not when your tipsy or drunk lol i feel so much better once im in those states! i really hate being sober! i am a 20 year old male from Western Canada in the prairies and have been drunk and blacked out MANY times hahaha! =]:) yeah im hooked on alcohol and it does run on one side of my family to hahaha!
Why is modern life so damn boring?
You say you like books, so here is one that will explain why it is that we are bored. "Gospel Enigma" 10th free eBook here: http://newfreebooks.com Your observation is right on target. Buddha said the same thing about his life as part of a royal family... and Jesus said that the Prodigal Son was "dead" and is alive once again. So your reference to living a boring life for a while and then dying is EXACTLY right. And this is the state of mind that leads a person to seek that which is hidden... the divine eternal soul that we really are. Excellent, you said it perfectly... and don't take this as an attempt to convert anybody. It is just some assurance that those who have been respected for their thinking agree with you.
I want to die. Why is this life so boring?
Life doesn’t have to be boring. Bored is a state of mind that can be changed.I used to feel the same. The same patterns of life would be repeated day, after day. An endless cycle of the same dull, mundane activities and habits. I didn't feel like I wanted to die, but my life did certainly feel empty and useless. I wouldn't go as far as to say I was depressed, but I was getting closer and closer to that state every day that passed.This feeling that you're experiencing isn't permanent or irreversible. It can be easy to see the beauty and wonders of life again! I don't know your age or what makes you happy, so I cannot give you tailored recommendations for you specifically of things that might make you happier. So, because of the circumstances, I will share with you what I personally do when I am feeling like this.Sometimes it can be as easy as putting on upbeat music- or any music that makes YOU happy. Sometimes I put on classical music, happy rock, or anything that I love, really.Going for a walk in the park and taking in the beauty of nature almost always lifts my spirits, especially when you see other people enjoying themselves.Make a bucket list of things you want to do or accomplish in life and try.If you have work or school, take a sick day and do something out of the ordinary. Maybe spend the day volunteering for a cause that you support, or helping someone in need. When you do something nice for others, it will almost always make you feel better as well. Even in a small way, you affect the world, so why not make a positive difference?
I am literally never happy sober?
Hello... (The ONLY times im happy is when im not sober.) Is this because you like the feeling of having a buzz, or are you trying to cover up insecurities, you like the feeling of being a free spirit, you feel more bold to approach people? (doing something dangerous and exciting. And sex.) This is part of human nature, however it sounds like you might not value your life if you willing to consume alcohol to gain confidence, or doing dangerous activities - and fornication... (Other than that, i have a feeling of dread.) Do you have meaning in your life? Do you believe you have a purpose? Are you feeling guilty about something? Were you ever abused... (I want to be alone. Nothing can make me smile.) This is because you are overwhelmed with sadness. Many people want to run and hide in their thoughts when they are sad. Examine yourself and ask yourself "Why". Look in the mirror and ask yourself "Why". (Even going out to eat with friends is just boring and id rather be laying on my couch.) I think you need to find out who you are and you are probably analyzing your situation and surroundings. It sounds like you don't know where to fit in and you are having a personality conflict. One that you would rather be, and one you don't care to be... (the only thing that can make me happy are stimulants? Such as drugs and adrenaline rushes.) That is because that is the only way you think you can "feel" something. Many people who are addicts, or suffered some type of trauma feel this way. Examine your feelings to see if you can change your environment and your outlook. (I have no motivation for anything and dont care much for my future. ) Find your purpose and meaning in life. Examine the things you are good at. Help others. (I have also never been in a relationship and i dont have any friendships lasting over 2 years...) People are temporary and this is just part of our genetic make-up. However, God is not temporary. You can have a real relationship with Him, and His people. Go to www.jw.org. Click on the online library. Type in any subject and it will give you sound and practical advise.
Is returning to sobriety for recovered drug addicts extremely boring?
I think this definitely depends on the person, as well as the drug they’re addicted to.I’m a recovering heroin addict, and I’ve been clean for around 18 months. For me, yes, life has been boring for a few different reasons.I had to stop associating with all my friends, because they were still using. Not having that type of companionship anymore made me incredibly lonely.In addition to not having friends to have fun with, I wasn't able to find joy in activities I used to love. Quitting heroin wreaks havoc on the brains ability to make and regulate serotonin, the chemical that enables you to be happy and experience pleasure. The inability to experience happiness makes for a very dull and boring existence.The majority of drug addicts suffer from some sort of mental disorder, such as anxiety and/or depression. A lot of people are self-medicating with their drug of choice, often without consciously knowing. Since quitting heroin, I’ve been diagnosed with both depression and anxiety. I’ve since been treated by a psychiatrist with the right kind of medication, and I'm able to feel normal and happy again.While life may not be as exciting as it was when I was using heroin, I'm able to find joy in life without it now. It's a huge relief to no longer have to endure the stress and chaos of life with an addiction.
Fear of being boring. social anxiety?
Don't feel like that. I'm same as you but i don't drink you should start being more natural in the way if a guy text you just text him back. don't be shy. try not to .because life is short you never know also i ignore those ignorants who talk they r just jealous. and you seem like a nice person by contributing yourself try not to get sober is just looks bad for a guy and drink moderately u said your pretty and don't have problem many of girls wish were you! so believe me takes time but you can get though this luck!
My life gets dull and boring without drugs....?
I had the betest friends like you, and at first all we did was drink...then it turned to messing around with a couple drugs...The problem is some got really into it..and some still were chill. It took me till i turned 21 to realize, if none are willing to have your back and quit...they arent your friends anymore. You gotta look out for yourself...but i know what you mean, life is lonley and boring as hell when you give all that up. But hey, It doesn't last forever, and you will meet other kids just as cool. Its all up to you