What advice would you give to a child abuse victim?
Your girlfriend or boyfriend was abused as a child at age 5 by a biological grandparent. This alongside living in poverty left the victim with a deep anger inside them, sometimes crying and hitting the wall when remembering it. At 24, they consider seeking retaliation against them and other biological relatives who supported them and hurt your boyfriend or girlfriend. They are very, very shy and gentle. They keep to themselves and avoid human interaction if they can. But they love and care for Animals because they see Animals as abuse victims like them. They are an english major with good grades. They don't plan on doing it but consider it. You love them very much, what would you do to talk them out of it and remind them you love him/her, that we should try to let the horrible times in our past go and look at the future ?
Am I a pedophile? Victim of child sexual abuse?
My question is: Is it possible that because of child sexual abuse that I went though... that I could be a pedophile? I am a 22 year old female and everything (And I mean EVERYTHING) makes me aroused. It doesn't matter what it is. If I see any sort of genitals or suggestion of sex (Even in movies where they dont SHOW you the sex, but they insinuate it) I start to feel the sensations. If you asked me if having sex with a child or an animal is wrong, I would say 100% YES and I personally have not, nor would I do it. But if you ask my body's reaction, sensation and behaviors... it would tell you yes. It goes against my own personal morals. I don't sit on public transit undressing children... but when I've accidently come across something on the internet (Shotacon, hentia suggestive & so forth) the feelings just... come up. When images in my head produce of what I was put through... ontop of the feeling of disgust... is the feeling of arousal. It's all confusing. The abuse started when I was 5. I only started to talk about it in the past month. and everything is so intense right now. Am I a pedophile?
Should known victims of sexual abuse be montoired through their lives?
When you treat someone as a criminal eventually they will believe they are as flawed as you think they are. They will become a criminal. Why shouldn't they if we already consider them to be one that simply hasn't been caught yet? There is a flawed philosophy that says everyone is a criminal given the right circumstances. A persons guilt is assumed it is only a matter of time and opportunity. When you profile people who haven't committed a crime and you just assume they simply will at some point then you fulfill your own prophesy. You end up making criminals of honest people. maybe your statistics are correct. I don't doubt them. But, we have a obligation to treat people as innocent until they actually commit a crime. Thats simply a part of civilization. sometimes they fail our trust but most of the time they don't. Start treating people as criminals without reason and you will see more crime not less. Thats inevitable.
Why do victims of child molestation feel its their fault?
i was molested at a young age. alot i was unable to rember for a long time, but as i got older my mind let me rember. i was not his first he molested his mentaly retarded sister for a long while. he feeded on the frears. if i tell my family would be hurt, i would be in trouble for causeing them to get hurt. but he also said that everything would be ok. as a child all you know is people get mad. when my mother found out she was very mad. not at me but at what happened. but her first reaction was yelled at me to go away from the area. you are told by telling bad things will happen people will be mad over and over again. you begin to belive what that person is telling you. and being a young child as i was it dont take much for a child to belive them. after people find out i had people i didnt know pokeing and checking me out asking me question after question some days i now rember it like it was yesterday and other times i dont think about it at all. adults done always clearfy things for kids also they tell you dont let people touch you it is bad. but who is bad are you bad for letting them touch you or are they the bad ones. the guy that hurt me got 7 months in a camp for under age sex offenders. he turned 19 his file was wiped clean when i turned 18 i wanted to access that file of my case but there was no record of it. it took me a long time to know that i did nothing wrong. a sick man played a mind game with me. and still to this day the name i have in my head is the name of a person i want to look face to face as an adult and get my own closer. what he did took part of my childhood away but also gave me strength to let others who ave been through what i have know that it is not their fault and that life doesnt end.
Am i a victim of rape or sexual abuse at 11? I MUST KNOW ASAP.?
If what you described was all that happened then a rape did not occur he did cross the line when he had you watching porn and sitting on his lap but if he did not touch your privates it would not be molestation, however you should tell your mother and she can either talk to him or contact the authorities in your area to deal with it. What he was doing was very inappropriate and he was working his way into molesting you. Stay away from him and tell your mother.~
Are survivors of psychopathic abuse more likely to become sociopaths than people who have never experienced psychopathic abuse?
I completely understand your question. I just don't think there a perfect or appropriate answer. There's too many variables. Just be careful listening to the answers you get to the question. There are notable differences between sociopaths and psychopaths. Some people have a hard time keeping them straight. A victim to a psychopath cannot become a psychopath; that's nature. People who are victims could become sociopaths. It depends on what motivates you and if you live as if there is a higher law to listen and abide to. If you come to justify its okay to take advantage of people and use them for your own purposes and reasons you could over time turn into a sociopathic individual. To become such you would have to begin to only think outwardly and no longer look inwardly and question your own actions. Mind over matter is a very strong thing so a victim potentially could push away feelings of remorse or regret because they suffered a lot of abuse in their own life. I tend to think children of psychopaths who were born normal could turn into sociopaths over lots of time and abuse. You learn from your parents more than anyone. You could develop similar habitats and become more and more like them. Your parent could even be very successful so you start thinking to be successful, I have to be more like my parent.If you just so happened to be a middle-aged victim to a psychopath, I think you will turn out alright. A lot more has shaped you and your perceptions in life. You'll be able to endure the abuse and recover better. You've had a good life so you are less likely to take out anger on other people for the things you have had to deal with. As long as you respect yourself for your morals and for being humble, you have a low risk of transforming into a sociopath. Everyone likes a black and white label but so many things are subjective. Some traits doesn't mean you are a sociopath. Besides, sociopath is an imperfect label because they have the potential to change, to care, to care to change under the right circumstances. A psychopath however is not curable, treatable etc. Hope this helps!