Am I being oversensitive or is my wife a rude, disrespectful, and narcissistic woman?
I have never been married, but I have been in numerous long term relationships. I would advice that you write down all the cons of your wife. Do them on separate days and when you are in a neutral state of mind. Do not assume that just because the cons or pros outweigh each other that you should stay/leave, but really pay close attention to what you wrote down. I read that your wife has a lot of debt, but if you truly love her that should not really be considered a con. You should want to help, not feel like you have to. Get my point? Also, overtime couples go through the cupcake/honeymoon/Goldilocks stage. Most think this lasts for a few months with which they are wrong. The stage may last many years, putting and delaying feelings for decades even. I know from experience, where I dated a girl and in the beginning everything was great. Even after 3 years, we were happy, strong, and had sex often. All the sudden, she randomly drew back, and got upset all the time. My point is, you will never have a relationship where it's perfect and you treat each other great every part of each day. But you can bring back these emotions you once had, and it's simple. I would advice first that you tow go on a really romantic date. Do not just see a movie, go somewhere she always wanted, or see something she always wanted to see. If going somewhere far is out of the question, then go somewhere where you two first starting going on dates. Reminisce about old times, and see if this sparks interest (I'm sure it will, always has worked for me). Be creative, and do not give up because it is hard. Best of luck to you man.
Is my wife lazy, rude, and disrespectful?
WOW!! Unbelievable... I'm a wife,my husband works hard,but not as hard as you,when he comes home,dinner is served,house is clean,kids are taken care of,and well since we don't have washer and dryer we go to a laundry mat and do it together,but before I used to do it myself... He complains because the house is not clean,The house everyday is not sparkle clean,but my house is never nasty or disgusting... He doesn't give me money,he does pay for every thing,but I don't have access to bank account or his debit card,he says that the internet is my drug,and sometimes(when we fights) he takes is from me,I mean not internet!!! Its unbelievable how ungrateful she is! and how others(including me) do things and not being appreciate... I really don't know what you could do...But I can tell you that is not gonna change,she is a materialistic Bit*h and theres no Christian Solution that could help you,especially because if you tell her about it,I don't think she would wanna go....You need to put ur foot down and tell her she needs to start taking care of responsibilities as you do,maybe share chores, or something make up a plan that she is willing to do so; If she doesn't agree,I'm sorry to tell you that you'll have to leave her...About the kids...start taking pictures of the house(how dirty is) take picture of everything you can,when she goes out twice a week w/o you,the kids that are always under ur responsibility because for some reason she doesn't like to deal with it...take every prove you may think it'll help you...and I'm sure if you have a good lawyer,with the good money(that thank God you earn) you could win custody of the kids...after all is like they only yours since she's not doing nothing....maybe in the future you can find some body responsible of her duties as a mom-wife-and housewives- and be happy!!!! Good luck! and I hope it gets better for you!
How do you deal with a disrespectful wife?
When my wife acts in a way that seems disrespectful of me, it is often because I have acted in a way that seems unloving toward her.When I feel like she is belittling me or treating me with little regard, the best thing I can do is ask her if I have done something unloving. If I correct my own behavior she is so grateful that she automatically treats me with more respect.In general terms, women crave love from their husbands and when they don’t get that love, they react in ways that are designed to encourage loving behavior. (Or would if they were dealing with other women)Oftentimes we men perceive these behaviors as disrespectful and react in a way designed to earn more respect.Unfortunately, our wives perceive our behavior as being unloving and it continues to spiral down until one person decides to stop it. Since you are the one that has noticed it, it is up to you to stop the spiral.
My son is 13, has ADHD, and is rude and disrespectful. My sister can't stand being around him. What do I do?
I was diagnosed with ADD (without hyperactivity) when I was 8 years old. I was always a good kid and was very respectful to all the adults in my life. I have been known to have slight anger issues, however I have an EXTREMELY long fuse for that anger. I am also former military and believe firmly that respect is something that must be taught by parents/adults in the childs life. I do not believe that ADD is the cause for this. Parents and adults in the child's life are responsible for teaching and guiding their children and saying that his attention problems are the cause of that is first of all offensive and more importantly an EXCUSE. EDIT: As I am sitting here reading other answers I am becoming more and more offended and upset by all these "parents of add/adhd" children who say that this is related. If you haven't lived with it YOU DON'T KNOW, I dont care how many kids you have. My mom and dad blamed my add FOR EVERYTHING about my life and STILL do, even though I am successful, married, and happy. ADD/ADHD is a serious issue that millions face and live with every day and to use it as an excuse in this manner is unacceptable. Maybe instead of blaming your child's disrespect on his attention issues, you should look in the mirror and evaluate the level of education and responsibility you take for your children and stop making excuses for them. That's just my opinion though, wth do I know, I have ADD.
My wife says that I'm an @sshole, a jerk, disrespectful, mean, rude and selfish.?
It's one thing to be late for a party, it's another to be late for a plane flight. Although I agree with you that it's rude and inconsiderate to take too long to get ready, this is her habit and this is who she is. My husband is ALWAYS late unless it's a flight. Then he's early . I accept the tardiness for unimportant events like b-day parties, etc. I confess. It's partly because I don't give a flying fig about it. However, he always drops off the kids late at school. He insists on doing it but is never on time. I love him for it though. I've been getting allergies lately so I've had to take Benadryl the night before. So I'm groggy in the mornings. As for scheduled flights and other equally important appointments, can't you assume she'll be late (she will) and take Uber instead? Let her drive herself to the airport instead of ditching her and leave her without a way to get there? If you divorce your wife because this minor flaw (believe me, there are worse things that are coming up-including from you), you'll never be happy. This is easily solvable. Not ideal, but there really is an easy solution. The bad thing about doing what you did is your wife will hold a grudge. Grudges are like bricks to build a house with. Which is losing your house in the divorce settlement. I would find a different solution and accept her for her faults and all. Because when it's your turn to screw up, she'll be more forgiving if you do the same to her. Just my two cents' from being married for two decades.
How do I handle my wife's disrespectful behavior?
I have to find a way to improve our marriage because I'm losing hope. I'm tired of my wife's mood swings and lack of affection. It's like I can't say anything to her, but she can get angry and cuss at me and even hit me once a few years back. She's always super happy around holidays or big trips, but always crashes for some weird reason the following day after a holiday or returning home. She thought I was being a "Debby downer" during the Christmas holidays, but I was only down because I knew hell always follow her happiness. What do I do?!!! Last night she got mad at me for me getting mad at her for her running all my gas out truck. I just asked her nicely because I'm the one always resorting to credit card use because of her out of control spending. We then get to church and she gets out of the truck and just leave me and my 2 year old son in the truck. Had I done some petty mess like that, it would be WW3!!! I'm tired of the lack of affection, mood swings, selfishness and other things. I just don't want to be apart from my son, but I'll surely die young because of stress if I stay with her. I looked at her family and ALL the men married to women in her family died of heart attacks young!!! And EVERYBODY has been divorced and married 2-3 times. How in the hell did I fall for this?!!! I don't know what to do, but I love my son so much!
My little brother is very rude and disrespectful to my mom. What can we do about this?
Unfortunately, if your mother is allowing it, there’s not much you can do to rectify the situation. Unless there is buy-in by at least your mom (and in a perfect world, your dad too), there may not be a real effective way to correct the behavior, especially if he’s learning it from his father, one of the most dominant influences in his life.It’s easier said than done, but perhaps opening the conversation up with your parents to start off with. They may hate the idea, or get defensive, or xyz reaction, but the idea is to let them know you’ve noticed the behavior and are not going to stand for it. From there, I’d say lead by example. It sounds like you may be the oldest (?); you can step in an be the example that he is not seeing from your parents. That way, when they see you correcting your siblings, or coaching them on better behavior, they’ll at least have some context. Whether they participate will be out of your hands, but stay positive regardless. Your brother is 8, and still very teachable! Don’t lose faith. Be firm in your corrections and consistent with your own actions, even over-exaggerate being thoughtful and polite and kind, etc., and praise him and show him you notice when he shows kindness and more gentle behaviors. It’ll be slow to start, but hopefully with enough reinforcement and consistency, you can enforce and influence all the younger siblings to treat each other better until it comes naturally for them to do so.
My stepdaughter is very rude and disrespectful to me. How do I handle this?
Its totally normal for her to have bad feelings towards you, nothing personal, she has a mother and might feel as if you are replacing her, you say that you have been with her father for 8 years but you cant expect her to like you, her mother left and you took her place. Think, “Did I do anything wrong to make her act this way towards me”Also, I don't know her and I don't know you, I don't know what either of you are like. Obviously what I wrote above is rarely the case, you sound nice but if she has been acting this way her whole like there if not much chance in changing her.Have you tried telling your husband, he maybe able to talk to her and make her respect you. Has he noticed ?I do hope this helped, please reply and tell me what you thought and some more extra detain that could be incorporated if its not a fussgood luck with your step daughter
My little sister is really disrespectful to me. How do I handle this?
The answer is within your question; you have said “ My little sister” this shows your affection over her and you still believe she is the same one whom your mom had brought when she was born( Glad about it…..), but the aspect of being disrespectful towards you may take too many options….like at certain cases you might have been more dominant which could have suppressed her feelings ( crazily you even don’t know when you are dominating her) ….secondly there might have been places where you had made fun of her in front of your relatives or friends which could relatively induce anger among younger ones . Deliberately these sort of incidents might push her toward the state of anger( where she lacks respect from you).. This could sound crazy but she needs respect from you along with priority ,caring and spending a quality of time. You should accept her as a personality rather than a person after all she is your lovable sister who will become a strong woman a day. So when scenarios turn up like a family dinner or some sort of get together where you are about to discuss something just with charming face “do ask for her opinion on the relevant topic”…..even if you know diary milk is far better than five star … “ do ask her what she prefers”…..even if u get a bad tea/ coffee from her instead of criticizing “ do appreciate for her efforts”….. if you know you gonna be little late for home “ do inform her rather than your mom”..It is always the priority my friend ..the state what she is now it isn’t the hatred over you…. but it is you who have given little priority to her…It always fine having little secrets with your sister, and some momentary fights, crazy night walks …for she is always the little who needs you concern, respect, love and warmth … have a great sibling relationship …for the least cause it will be the sweetest memory even when you are upto baby sit your grandchild :)
I have a provocative, rude, and disrespectful girlfriend. How should I handle it?
The fact that she’s a narcissist is only a symptom. Same goes for her anger issues. I don’t know what to say except that you can’t change people, she has to overcome her own issues by accepting the past and letting it go.Just stop pressuring her and showing her how “clean” you are. This is probably one of the main things and the only thing that you’re doing wrong.When you’re in a relationship, your partner has to accept you as a whole, regardless of your past encounters. You’re not the same person as you were before meeting her.The fact that you’ve progressed from telling small, innocent, white lies ( which are still lies) to being completely honest as you state is a huge step in personal improvement but it takes two to tango. You can’t alter the past.What you can do however is build a better future, not only for yourself, but for your girlfriend too ( assuming you’re still committed to her).If she can’t see these things, then it’s best to part ways. Marriage is a long shot if you can’t handle these small, insignificant issues.She’s to blame for her irrational thinking and maniacal tendencies, pilling up anger can only lead to long term resentment, and where will that go?Hating each other for the rest of your lives? Trapped in an unhealthy relationship?You also mentioned that she trusts you but the fact that she still has a hidden fear and can’t express her real feelings can’t convince me of what you’ve stated. If anything, it’s quite the opposite of trust.You can’t trust someone and fear that person in the same time. Either you trust the person and you share everything together or you don’t. It’s simple.I don’t know about you and your next action but if you can’t have a firm, open talk to her then let her go.It would be wise regardless of your relationship status up to this point that she seeks a therapist because she sounds really psychotic from the way you’ve described her ( no offence).That would save her a lot of pain from any future relationship that she might have * assuming things don’t work out between you two*.Best of luck.