I broke up with my ex and they won’t leave me alone. How do I tell them I want nothing to do with them without hurting their feelings?
Simple… tell them that you want nothing to do with them. Keep it short, keep it simple, and serve that dish ice cold! You did the breaking up and it is apparent that you have already moved on. Now do that person a favor by helping them do the same thing and try not to be so nice about it. Being nice just gives that person false hope; especially if they really care about you. There is no such thing as a nice way to go about handling a breakup; you can be respectful, but firm (don’t sugar coat anything). You may not understand this from your perspective at this time but the fact that this person is still insisting on not leaving you alone after you broke up with them tells me that they have very little self-respect and are thinking that they can convince you to come back by being a stubborn little zit in your life. You need to pop that zit and not look back! It's the only humane thing to do in order to help them make better choices and stop humiliating themselves further; this is especially if you are already hooking up with someone else. At the end of a relationship, some people that are broken up with feel that when the person they were with is still being nice to them and talking them afterwards, it’s because there may be hope that they are just confused and will get back together with them if they stay on the radar (rarely the case!). They will believe this even more if the breakup was not mutual and they still have strong feelings for that person.Your decision to breakup and move on did not happen overnight. Now help this person move on and encourage them to find someone who can really appreciate them by you being the coldest person you can be! He may be upset, hurt, and disappointed in you at first; however, later in life when he meets that right person that he was meant to be with and he realizes how happy he is with that person; he will thank you for it! He will thank you for that intervention you served him on an ice cold plate! :)Cheers!!!
What Does Leave me Alone mean to you?
Well, when there is an argument that is obviously NOT going anywhere... (no problems are being solved, no civil discussion is happening) then it is a GOOD sign for one partner or the other to be able to recognize when 'enough is enough' and to ask to STOP this dysfunctional behavior by saying "leave me alone" or "I need a cool-down walk." This is a VERY mature way of not letting a situation "blow out of control" and for things to not be said to one another that could be damaging. At this point, the other one HAS to respect the wishes of the one who is saying "leave me alone." They should both agree to stop, break, think and re-group things... then when all has calmed down, to try again but on a lower tone with more communication skills, ie; taking turns voicing, listening, etc.... You guys are on the right track, but when one calls a "time out" the other should HAVE to respect that!! Its like rules to a board game.... make sure you tell your partner that arguments are normal, but your communication skills will need some ground rules, and calling a time out is one of them in order to be able to come to good solutions!
What are ways to cope when people are harassing you and won't leave you alone?
Depending which people is harassing you I guess.Is it in a situation you have no other choice than to put up with it? e.g…. they’re in your class, and you have to go to school everyday?Are they your co-workers and you totally depend on that job to survive?Is there really no way to avoid them?And if you think or feel like you can’t avoid them at all…. just think that is you who gives them power with your thoughts and your reactions to their childish or jealous behaviour. If you suddenly show like you don’t care, or you don’t hear what they say they’ll soon give up. Another tool is to think why are you being the victim of such behaviour. Usually we’re unaware that we actually have something that other people wish or desire to have going on for themselves…. they’re too proud to admit it, or to acknowledge it, so they try to bully you into believing you’re crap and nothing so you don’t outshine them in any way. I know you may have low self esteem as a consequence of this harassing taking place but really, usually people only attack when they feel like they need to in order to compete or show off. E.g. a guy or a girl likes you… but they’re too insecure you won’t like them back, they actually would love to get to date you, but they feel you don’t like them back or you will never like them back. If someone kind of notices this and says “ohh you really like this girl or this guy”… they’ll feel threatened by the thought that you will know that they like you and instead they will prefer to say “oh no, I find that person rather ugly actually”… because that sounds cooler for them than to admit someone has caught or noticed their weak spot. So they will test that person by expecting them then to prove how little they care for you.Well that would be in the case of bullying in school or high school, perhaps also useful in the office with people who are still inmature or insecure about their own worth.If it’s sexual harassment and all that… then I guess there is a need to find a way to never be left alone or expose yourself to situations that could lead to further unpleasant situations.But given that I don’t know what type of harassment you’re suffering from it’s difficult to help.
This pervert wont leave me alone.?
you need to tell your parents about him. this one guy used to bug me too. at first i thought he was pretty nice and i didn't mind being his friend. later i found out he liked me and he just got gross and perverted. i wanted absolutely nothing to do with him...NOTHING. i didn't even wanna be his friend anymore becuz it got to the point where he was an obnoxious pervert. he wasn't friends with my parents or even knew them but i'm a good student (don't get in trouble...EVER) and i asked my teachers if i could be moved away from him. of course they agreed but also asked why i didn't wanna sit by him anymore. i told them that he was being a pervert and i wanted absolutely no part in it. he got in big trouble and i can't say i felt bad for him. i think he actually deserved it for not stopping when i told him to do so. he's left me alone and rarely says anything to me. i'm sure that if you tell your parents that his visits aren't becuz he's being friendly but becuz he's been bugging you with dating him then i'm sure they'll put a stop to it. okay so i saw that you're over 18 but this is a situation that you most likely need help in. when you get around your parents and he's around ...say out loud "i'm sorry _____ but i don't want to date you." say it in front of your parents so they know what's going on. tell him that you want nothing to do with him...dating...NOTHING. he might just get the hint. change your phone number if you can. next time that you're with your parents make sure that you tell them about his unwanted attention towards you and how numerous times you've been trying to make him leave you alone. good luck!
My "friend" won't leave me alone!! help.?
When she calls you don't pick up or say im wasting my minutes. That would tell her she isn't interested in talking. When she sits next to you put ur arm around ur food and face ur friends try not to look at her that will show her that you aren't interested in wat she has to say if she continues to do more things that piss you off just go and her you dont want her to hangout with you and jut be completely honest. i mean why would she wanna hangout with people who dont want her around.
If you deny a narcissist sex, will they permanently leave you alone?
The Narcissist feels (and thinks at an unconscious level) as if the person denied him sex must find him unattractive, or she think something is wrong with him. If this happens in a relationship he likely feels the same, but feels as if something about him must be worse since now his partner doesn’t want to have sex all the sudden.When he feels this way he will likely get upset and be unpleasant, mean, tell you how you are the problem and that he doesn't want to have sex with you anyways, and act in behaviors similar to what I described.He will behave this way because his false self that was developed at a young age tells him he is everything great and that he is never wrong, and that he is everything great that he deep down feels like he is not.The Narcissist truly believes the false-self to be who he is while not knowing that all the false self really is, is a false persona created to prevent him from feelings the horrible feelings that he felt as a child.He has lost his true identity and now is just a shell of a person who is nothing but a walking and talking person enslaved to a defense mechanism.After the Narcissistic abuse or manipulation ends you will either be manipulated into having sex with him, or say no and not have sex with him.If you hold your ground and deny sex the Narcissist will more than likely leave, and he probably will blow up your phone texting you, trying to get you to give in a have sex.If you continue to deny him he eventually will see that nothing he does work and give up and move onto someone else.This is one possible outcome. Another possibility (if you are both not serious) is that the Narcissist leaves you alone and that's that. If the Narcissist has more options that he finds equally or more appealing then he will probably move on with no issue as in his mind he is a Good, and you are an idiot who is denying sex from the worlds greatest person.In general of you deny sex and hold your ground, eventually the Narcissist will leave you alone and find someone else to abuse and manipulate to fuel his ego
Do Taurus men want you to beg and grovel or leave them alone?
I questioned my boyfriend about cheating after finding a post where he told another girl he loved her and offered to take her out to eat. He told me the girl is a good friend of his and had the girl text me in a group chat to explain the misunderstanding. He was upset that I became extremely angry and blew up. The next day I apologized but he still brought it up. I told him sorry a million times and told him I still loved him and will not do it anymore but he told me he doesn't know how he feels now. I asked him do he want me to just leave him alone and break it off and says no he didn't ask for space. The next day I text him asking how his day was and he asked about mine. Then I told him I miss him and he said he missed me until I blew up and he brought up the situation again so that's when I said "you're just going to keep holding this grudge, bringing this up and will never forget so I will just leave you alone for good" and he never responded. If a Taurus doesn't want anything to do with you do they still answer your calls and texts? Did he want me to leave him alone despite him saying he didn't ask for space? Or did he want me to constantly grovel at his feet and beg for forgiveness?
Clever comebacks to say to someone who won't leave you alone?
Pardon me, but you've obviously mistaken me for someone who gives a damn. I'm busy now. Can I ignore you some other time? I don't know what makes you so stupid, but it really works! Have you considered suing your brains for non-support? Don't you need a license to be that ugly? I see the wheel is spinning, but the hamster looks dead If you had another brain, it would be lonely.\ Or tell him to get lost and leave you the hell alone