Should I change myself to fit in?
That totally sucks that you even feel like you have to ask that question. No way. I don't know how old you are, but I was totally that girl in High school...i was one of the guys, had a dirtbike, a drum set, and my own way of doing things. Didn't quite fit in with the chicks, and none of the guys wanted to date me... Now that i'm out of school, years later, I'm so glad that I held onto myself and who I really was and didn't sell out for anyone. Those chicks all look and act the same because they're SCARED to break the mold and be their own person...they're way too insecure. It's true! I can almost promise you that at least a few of them look at you every day and WISH they had the balls to express themselves the way that you do. A couple of them probably listen to the type of music you do, too...they just don't advertise it because they don't want to make waves. Stay true to yourself, always. If you're in school, i can tell you right now that these years are gonna FLY by so fast, it wont even matter in the long run. You know what happened with me? I work for myself, I live the life I want to live and I'm happy, confident, and secure. Most of the chicks I went to school with PEAKED in high school, and most of them are fat, ugly, and popping out kids every other year now, wishing they had the life i do. Seriously! Don't sell out. you'll be miserable! Throw a few red streaks in your hair and grab a new concert tee and wear the hell out of it. Even if you can't tell right now, you're inspiring someone to be themselves. you really are!
Why can't I change myself?
You're already passed the first two steps hun. The first step is realizing there's a problem. The second step is wanting to change. You can't change who you are over night, but you can do small things to make it better. Baby steps. I'm a lot like you - I tend to ignore the small stuff and try to keep everyone happy. But like you, it all builds up eventually. Something you could try is instead of automatically dismissing something you dislike, why not addressing it? Tell her that what she said hurt you, even if she 'didn't mean it'. If you don't say anything, people will think it's alright to say whatever they want to you until you "randomly and unexpectedly burst" (even though you saw it coming a mile away). Be more truthful to yourself too. If you're upset and depressed, don't try to avoid it - try to make it better. I know this is way easier said than done, but I believe you can do it. I don't even KNOW you and I believe you can. But like I said, the first step to getting through this is to figure out what the problem is. Then you can go from there. The fact that you're wanting to help, put your life on the line and be a "hero", already makes you more of a hero than most. But it's time to put your money where your mouth is. Start doing some charity work. Take some classes and see if you can get into a firefighting career. The world could really use some well-meaning ambitious people like you. Lastly, don't try to be someone because someone else expects you to. Be yourself. You sound like an amazing person with a fantastic future ahead of you. Don't give that up because people criticize you or don't recognize the good things you do. Life is an amazing gift. The hard parts in it teach us how to become stronger and make us better people today. Show how strong you are by plowing through this tough time and being the best you can be. I'm rooting for you.
How do I change myself so that people like me?
Practice. You say you're a nice guy, so you obviously believe that you've got some pretty good qualities. The rest is just social skills, and I'm sorry, but that takes time.Most importantly, work on your introduction. There is no secret "line" here, no magic bullet. Just introduce yourself. To everyone. Shake hands, give your name, and that's it.Dating, friendship, they're all really just a numbers game. Ninety eight percent of the people you meet/introduce yourself to, you'll never speak with again. So don't worry about awkward moments, or if the conversation drops off. Just move on and talk to someone else.The other big thing is dropping anti-social habits. Excessive drinking, not drinking, playing too many video games or watching too much TV - these things isolate you. They may be fun - hell, I LOVE a good video game or two like Skyrim. But don't overdo it, and if there are social events to attend instead, don't skip them.And don't be afraid to be alone in public. Many find this scary. If you need some training, go hang out at your local bar/coffee shop, and do the same things you do at home - homework, taxes, reading, etc. You'll eventually get used to the ambiance, to not being alone, and start to feel at home in that environment. That feeling will give you the confidence you need.
I'm an introvert, How can I change myself?
Introvert are those who find it difficult to interact with others out of shame, fear, hesitation, or any other mental weakness. General cause of such unability is suffering from inferiority complex. What others will think of me? How they will react? How I look before them? These are few questions of suspecion and anxiety, which hinder someone from mixing freely and normally with others. Naturally, such people have very few or no friends. They cannot share their problems with others. They even fail miserably in interviews. In fact,they live a lonely miserable life. Now what is the way out? Ofcourse, there is solution. Only strong will power and determination is necesary to solve the problem. Just try the tips I share below. 1) Forcefully mix/ interect with others. It will be little difficult to act against your nature. Before-hand practise/ reharsh dialogues before mirrior and with friends. Repeat the process of mixing with others again and again with wide range of people of different sex. Slowly you will find your progress and one day you will be resolved of the curse. 2) Side by side, action should be taken to facilate the process. Have physical exercise, yoga, prayanams, and meditation. All these will make you more self confident and positive. 3) Pray to God daily. Prayers have positive influence on life. 4) Take recourse to nature. Nature like mother refresh you for any initiative. Carry on. Good luck.