What Do I Do When Life Is Too Hard For Me

What do you do when you feel like life is too hard?

10 years ago my life was hard.With my salary I could only ride my late Dad’s motorbike, eat, rent a place with 5 other guys, and probably save a little.I told myself all this will be over. Perhaps one day I could afford a car.I prayed to God for things to get better.Things didn’t get better. He didn’t come down to assure me things going to be alright. Was he hiding behind the clouds?I recited Quran. Didn’t feel anything. Sometimes I stumbled upon verses on the Resurrection Day. Or the Infidels.Here I am living from day to day surviving. Man, I can’t think about the Resurrection Day yet. The Infidels? They can do whatever they want. I just want to live.I went to the mosque. Nobody cared. I was too introvert. Felt good for a while during prayers since it’s meditation.But after that life was still hard.After prayers the middle class Muslims go back to their families in nice cars. To their big homes.I went back to the crummy place with 4 other guys.Probably I did’t need to pray if praying will only make me feel sad.I went to see friends. They’re all getting married and buying houses and driving cars. Living the high life. They asked when I am going to be like them.I ended up feeling like crap.I went to see my relatives. They asked me why am I still on my late Dad’s motorbike and when I’m going to get married.I ended up feeling like crap.No matter whers I look where I go, everything reminded me how I was failing big time.I ended up isolating myself.I only do what I could do. I kept working hard.Now I think my life is better. Probably because I earn more now.Probably because I have achieved my lifelong dream.But probably because I learnt how to deal with my own feelings.And perceive my surroundings.Looking back, man, I have wasted so much time and energy feeling sad about myself and entertaining negative environment.If your life is hard, well dear, keep going.Disregard things you have no control over.Concentrate on what you can do, and take it one step at a time.Hope you will get through.And when you get through at the end of the tunnel, probably you could say to yourself, damn, that was one helluva ride.

What should I do now when my life has become very hard for me?

I shall ask you to do just one thing. Think of all those issues you are facing right now and Smile at them heart fully.Yeah, do it. Laugh at them loudly. So loudly that your sound should push them out of your brain.You said you have won 40% of prizes for your school. Don't you want to win prizes for your college after your school? What about winning prizes for life by winning against these petty issues you are facing now?You mentioned about your friends. Do you think those are your only friends? You still have life ahead of you. You are a champ of your life my friend. Lower the sails and steady the ship of life. You also mentioned about losing hope of becoming a great physicist and mathematics like Isaac Newton who's your role model.  Why should you lose hope? Sir Isaac Newton is dead. How about assuming that he has put his hopes on you before dying?We live in hope of a better tomorrow. Its what keeps us alive and running. Run for it my friend. Don't lose the spirit of the the dream.When I put on a shades with blue tint on them, world looks blue to my eyes. It does't mean the world is blue in color for real. Its depends on how you look at the life. Life is beautiful and quite simple. Live it to the fullest. Don't make it complicated.These are the words from the Great Dr.A.P.J Abdul Kalam, former president of India and great scientist.Thanks for A2A

Why is life so hard?

The truth is, life isn't tough.  Nor is it easy.  It's just your life.  Things seem tough when you're down.  Things seem easy when you're up.  I sympathise with some of the responses showing conditions that, were I in them, I would truly regard myself as being in a tough position.  But that's not really answering the question: it's showing you why the question seems unfair to those who suffer *relatively* greater than you.  Giving an objective answer to a subjective question isn't answering it.  This kind of response is a little unhelpful and it's also ignoring the fact that suffering is relative to your own experience.  If you go around comparing your life to other's then you'll develop either bitterness or vanity; both of which will increase your suffering.Everyone suffers.  Queens suffer when their hair won't behave, beggars suffer when they go hungry, I suffer when I don't get 8 hours sleep.  Just because it doesn't sound like suffering to you, doesn't make it any less tough for the person experiencing it.  Sometimes (like when I lost my job, girlfriend and home in a few weeks of each other) I've suffered greatly.  Sometimes beggars get beaten when they are hungry, sometimes Queens get sick and publicly humiliated on TV.Now, take these points together and we're seeing something like the truth of the situation:Changes for the worse in anyone's situation increases suffering.  Changes for the better decrease it.  We become acclimatised to almost any situation in time and suffering decreases as we approach that equilibrium.  The opposite is also true.  We can become desensitised to happiness and comfort to the point where minor things like straightness of hair or that extra hour of sleep mean the difference between happiness and suffering (subjectively).What can we learn from this?We can remember that happiness or suffering is an experience that gives our past and our future context.  We cannot have ups without downs, nor downs without ups.  We must experience change and must accept it when it comes.  There are no straight lines in nature. The best way to handle this is like a big swing or a roller-coaster.  Let go and enjoy the lightness (and the view) from the top.  But draw in, grit your teeth and keep your core strong when you are at the bottom (everything feels heavy when you're there).Ride your life.

Why do I feel like life is too hard for me?

Life has never been easy. When they say “It’s a jungle out there” you know they mean it’s “dog-eat-dog” “kill-or-be-killed” “eat-or-be-eaten” and like that. Even though we’re not part of the animal kingdom’s food chain, in recent times, anyway, and the jungle is just a metaphor for human life in the concrete jungle of the City or the hard scrap life in small towns with no more factories and warehouses to work at, or the unsustainable farms with Big Agribusiness buying up the land…it’s still just as frightening and forbidding to us as the real Jungles of Africa or the Amazon.Human suffering due to life’s hardships is as old as man, himself. The Buddha started out as a protected and pampered prince who lived inside the walls that separated him and his perfect life from the reality of life on the other side of the wall. When he stole away to discover what was “out there” he was appalled at the suffering he witnessed and his empathy was so overwhelming that he decided to spend his entire life roaming the land until he found a way to help man rise above his immense suffering. I tell you this to help you see how ancient and widespread suffering is.What the Buddha discovered is that while our physical suffering of pain and hunger is bad enough, what makes it so horribly intolerable are the thoughts in our minds. The weight of our thoughts about our misery is so massive that we are laid out flat by them, paralyzed, the pain worsened with every living breath.Thus was born the Buddha’s gift to the world, the end of suffering: The Fourfold Noble Truths and the Eightfold Noble Path.It’s not necessary for you to become a Buddhist in order to become wise in the ways of suffering and freedom from suffering. You can read about it, if you care to—or not.But what you need to understand is the role your thoughts play in determining just how hard your life seems to be for you and the depth of your suffering. They are paramount. They can be your worst enemies living right inside your own head with impunity.When your thoughts tell you that all you have in your life is difficulty and misery, and you believe it, then you will cling to your pain and sorrow like a man to a life raft. You will come to identify with it as part of you or as ALL of you. This attachment to your suffering can and must be broken. By You.This is why you “feel life is too hard for” you.

Why do people feel like life is too hard and want to end it all?

Someone described to me how it felt to be suicidal. He said it was like standing in a burning building, and there's no way out. You can either jump, knowing you're going to die quickly. Or you can stay in the building and slowly burn to death.I thought that was a pretty good analogy.I disagree with the other answer that it is selfish and inconsiderate of others. There was a point in my life when I was so depressed that I believed to my core that everyone's life would be better if I just died and they didn't have to put up with my problems anymore. I hated myself so much that I assumed everyone else hated me just as much. I could absolutely not fathom that anybody cared at all. The good news is I stayed in that burning building, and fought and fought with years of therapy and medication and rehab to find a way out. And from experience, I can say that depression is just not "feeling sad," it is physical thing as well. I literally feel like a fog cleared away from my brain and a 100 lb weight has been lifted off of me. Depression feels like that, like each limb is made of lead, every waking moment it feels like people do at the end of the day when they want to go to sleep. THEN there's the sadness, the non-existent self-esteem. Then add to that any and all difficulties all of us experience on a day to day basis -- a flat tire, getting fired, the death of a loved one. Its not being selfish; its wanting the pain to end. But that being said, help is available to those who seek it. When I finally got stabilized, I told my therapist I thought something was wrong because I was so happy. He said, "there's nothing wrong. This is just how it feels not to be depressed."