My boyfriend says I'm not feminine enough?
I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 30. It's my first real relationship. We've been together for a year and a half now. After about 6 months, he started making me feel bad about myself. He says things like he's not sure what is wrong with me and thinks I might be in the closet. I'm 100% attracted to only men, I'm just not very feminine. I prefer to look at the video games instead of clothes and that makes him mad. I'm simple. I don't do a lot of things with my hair and I'm not a huge fan of makeup. I wear it to make him happy. I'm a tshirt and jeans kind of girl. I'm pretty geeky. I love tv, movies, and video games. I hate clothes shopping and he thinks that something is wrong with me. He's constantly comparing me to other girls. Like "she wears tight jeans, why can't you?" "You look like a lesbian with your hands in your pockets." He says if I really loved him I'll change for him. I'm supposed to want to make him happy. He says stuff like "you're beautiful. Other girls wish they had your hair and eyes and you choose not to do anything." I love him so much. I changed a lot of things and everything was fine for about a year. Now he's starting again. He says he wants to marry me...
My boyfriend says I'm not feminine enough?
I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 30. We've been together for 6 months now. Only until recently, he started making me feel bad about myself. He says things like he's not sure what is wrong with me and thinks I might be in the closet. I'm 100% attracted to only men, I'm just not very feminine. I prefer to look at the video games instead of clothes and that makes him mad. I'm simple. I don't do a lot of things with my hair and I'm not a huge fan of makeup. I wear it to make him happy. I'm a tshirt and jeans kind of girl. I'm pretty geeky. I love tv, movies, and video games. I hate clothes shopping and he thinks that something is wrong with me. He's constantly comparing me to other girls. Like "she wears tight jeans, why can't you?" "You look like a lesbian with your hands in your pockets." He says if I really loved him I'll change for him. I'm supposed to want to make him happy. He says stuff like "you're beautiful. Other girls wish they had your hair and eyes and you choose not to do anything."
My boyfriend is too feminine.. what to do?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for around a year and a half. We live together in an apartment and our lease isn't up until the summer, so 'breaking it off' isn't that easy. In public, people always think my boyfriend is a girl. One time, he was going to the restroom and a man stopped and said: "This is the men's restroom." being completely serious. It was really awkward. I don't care what he looks like, and I don't think he looks like a girl, but in public he is always assumed to be a girl. This wasn't the only occasion. He is often called "ma'am" or "miss" by people, too. He has long black 'emo' hair, wears thick rim glasses/skinny jeans, is about five foot eleven and has an average build. He also has a feminine voice. I don't ever want to have sex with him anymore. He thinks by acting like a girl, it turns me on? He wears socks that goes to his knees, and will bend over (naked... eh). He does this at least once a day, but usually multiple times. I always respond negatively, but he keeps doing it. Another reason why I don't like to have sex with him is because he doesn't last long and it's boring. I feel like I am the man in the relationship a lot. He never does anything romantic or surprises me. He is nice guy when he isn't angry. I've tried breaking up with him before, but he has a mental breakdown and throws himself on the floor, like a child having a temper tantrum. He breaks things and has grabbed/hit me before. It doesn't happen a lot. This is another reason why I can't just 'break it off' easily. I enjoy being around him and going out to places with him. I feel like we should of stayed as friends though instead of boyfriend/girlfriend. I'm not sure what to do because talking to him doesn't help. Should I wait until the lease is up and move away from him? I DO love being around him as a companion/friend. But I don't have romantic/sexual feelings for him that is typical in a relationship anymore.
If a guy says he is in touch with his feminine side, does it mean he is gay?
No, it probably just means he's full of cr*p; that always sounds like a put-on. Its a silly, touchy-feely phrase that doesn't really GO anywhere. The real-world version of that is simply a man who realizes that no one's way of thinking is 100% right all the time and in this case, seriously listens to a woman's views and wants. Men tend to go at things in a 1-2-3, straight-line fashion. Women cut across lines more and think in terms of interrelationships. A man doesn't have a "feminine" side as such; if he's smart, what he HAS is a willingness to listen and not charge headlong into everything. "Macho" is usually a code-word for "rude and arrogant." That's not the same as being really masculine, which is more a case of focusing your strength in the right places at the right times. That can mean asking your wife or g/f what she thinks and sometimes changing what you finally do with regard for her input. It can also mean setting aside what you want part of the time or at a vital moment because you understand that masculinity includes picking your moments in a sensible, fair-minded fashion. Having some compassion doesn't make you a wuss; it makes you a fuller person. A smart woman who knows you will listen and bend for her sake, or even for the sake of your male counterparts, will think you're all that and a bag of big pecs. Its called Getting Along. Funny how well that works, AHEM. As for that "gay" silliness, let it go. People are born gay or straight. Some may choose to switch off in their physical sexuality, but you can no more make a person gay or straight than you can change the orbit of the Moon by glaring at it. I once knew a gay guy at a job who told me that if he'd had a choice, he would not have picked that, because it was hard and lonely. My ex-wife and I also have a gay pal who is one of the best people we know. He found a classy partner and lives a responsible life. Once you understand the simple reality of it, it becomes a non-issue. Live and let live, because you will interact with people on FAR more levels than sexual ones in your lifetime. Take them for who they present themselves to be and how they behave overall, not for some small, secondary aspect of their character, especially when it does not affect you. If someone tells you they're in touch with their feminine side, I'd be more concerned about them being a doofus with a runaway mouth than with their sexual nature. Sheesh!
How do I entertain my boyfriend who is Bi and who is feminine but still like a guy?
At least he did admit it after all. It's good you know now, and that he trusts you with it. Just do what you would normally do with other guys, seriously it's not that much different except he likes both sexes. He might be a great romantic ;) Do things anyone would do, go to dinner, spend nights at home, out somewhere special. If you don't know what he likes, ask him to choose somewhere to go. You might have a lot in common, and the relationship might work great. If you just don't let the 'bi' bit of him get to you, then you'll be fine. It doesn't matter if he's bi, as long as he likes you. There are some people who said to try straight guys...really it doesnt matter. He likes girls AND boys, yet that doesn't mean he's bad or going to cheat on you. If he does like girls, and he likes you, there's nothing wrong with the relationship. A straight guy could be worse. Goodluck =] And also, don't let any answers get to you. Honestly.No one else knows the situation, or who he is,, and for that fact neither do i, but just dont rely completely on someones answer saying 'get out of the relationship. Do what you want to.
My boyfriend likes me to play his nipples, does it mean he is kinda gay or he more feminine?
my boyfriend told me he like me to pinch his nipples and it helps him to ***. i wonder if it means he is a bit feminine? although he is a tall muscular man, nothing else feminine about him, and he is definitely not gay