He is ignoring our child because of a paternity test. What to do?
I made a horrible one time mistake three years ago and I slept with another man. I have been with my fiancee for 5 years and we were going to get marrried this summer. We have a two year old son that we both love to death. Some friends of my fiance kept telling him our son didn't look like him and he should get a DNA test. I begged him not to but he had a paternity test done behind my back. It said there as a 99.9% chance he is not the biological father to our child. He has been with our son since day 1 and our son loves him so much. He is his dad. Since the dna test he called off our engagement and moved out. He hasn't done anything with our child since the test and has disowned him completely. What should I do?
Should I get a paternity test for my adult children?
I think it depends on two things: (a) your motive, and (b) what impact the results would have on you and your children.MotiveIf you want to do a DNA test to prove your ex-wife was unfaithful, just stop. You’re exactly right: It’s water under the bridge. Don’t turn your children into weapons.On the other hand, if you’re concerned that one or more of your children may have genetic medical issues, then it may not be a bad idea.ImpactLet’s assume that you go ahead and do the DNA test. What happens then? There are two possible outcomes:They are your biological children. Will knowing that impact on your life positively? (If you’re spending a lot of time worrying about this, perhaps you would.) How will your children feel, knowing that you didn’t trust their mother’s word? How will it impact on your relationship with them?One or more of them are not your biological children. How will that knowledge affect your mental state? (It’s one thing to wonder, and another to have infidelity confirmed.) How will it impact on your relationship with your children? I assume you wouldn’t cut them out of your life—you’re their father, biological or not—so would it positively impact your day-to-day relationship with them?Assuming you have a positive motive and you believe that having the test would have positive outcomes for you and your children (regardless of the result), then it may be worthwhile. But if you don’t have a good motive or you can imagine one result or the other would be detrimental to you, your children, or your relationship with them, don’t.
Should all men have a paternity test done on their children?
No, waste of money and time. Just because you have inherited disease genes doesn't mean you will end up with said disease. Teach your children how to live well. Play, eat, and educate well and they have a better chance of making it to old age healthy. So far as the kid not being yours, possibly, what happens if it isn't yours? You already spent time with this child. It only knows you as the father and has bonded to you. Is it more important to for you to be vindicated or the child to be loved? If you do not know, it cannot hurt you, or the child. Well, there could be the point that she is not rust worthy and the man is wondering if it is so and he has been thinking of leaving anyway, it would be good to test. Just, while the child is as young as possible. The less memory, the less pain. Hope I could help and Good Luck :)
Should I get a paternity test for my children?
Getting a paternity test is personal decision often dictated by your circumstance. If you are uncertain about paternity. I suggest performing a paternity test.Remember, it is important not to only think of yourself. It’s important to factor in thr child as well. In the event, the child is not your biological child and the child has a health issue that may require you to give blood. You may not be able to help and it could potentially cost the child their life.I recommend taking some time out to think about your situation and do what’s in the beat Interest for you and the child.
My child's father wants a paternity test?
I'm a 31 year old woman. I'm not a wreckless wild whore like the little girls he's screwing. I think I should who my child's father is. He also has a baby by another girl previous to me and she cheated and was a whore. My sons father is 23 years old, clearly not who I thought he was all these years. I left him this February because he was cheating. So anyway he's like "I hope he mines" What does that mean? He looks just like him he's just a little lighter than his father. What do you think? And where do I go from here?
Getting a paternity test for an adult child?
First, child support is for the custodial PARENT, not for the child. If anyone has a claim, it would be his mother. Child support is used to help with the cost of raising the child, not to shower the child with gifts. So what can he do? Drop it. There is no legal obligation for the father to submit to a paternity test. And there is no legal right to any inheritance. If this person is really serious about pursuing this further, he will need to hire an attorney. There is no way he would be able to pull this off himself. And if the father really is as "well off" as you claim, you can bet he will have an attorney on his side. *EDIT* - You do know that no one can be forced to donate an organ if they are a relative and are a match, right? So what good would a paternity test be for that reason? If the son needed a kidney, the father can still refuse. And no court will force the father to give one up.
Can the military make me get Paternity test for my child?
If you are in the Army then yes they can. The child has to be supported with Army money and your commanding officer can order you to take the test.
Can the uncle of a child be mistaken for the father in a paternity test?
This is actually extraordinarily rare; however, it HAS happened, but I don’t believe in the way you are suggesting. In layman’s terms, this can happen if the biological father had a twin in utero that did not survive, but was instead absorbed into the biological father’s body. This often results in genetic material being retained by the surviving twin (known as chimerism). In one case I know of, this genetic material actually showed up in the surviving twin’s sperm, causing his biological child to test as his nephew rather than his son, and the non-surviving twin’s DNA identified him as the child’s father. It is a very bizarre case; in cases where a living uncle tests as his nephew’s father…you probably need to have a talk with the child’s mother.
Is it possible to do a paternity test on a child by testing only the mother and her two sons, with no dad?
You can test brothers, who will have similar markers on the paternal side. You can also get a court order to have them tested, and made responsible for the tests. If they aren't the father, you pay, if they are, they pay. If you're poor, the state pays.
As my child does not resemble me, should I do paternity test without letting my wife know, or should we talk openly and do the test together?
OMG, all these people on here basically telling you that you're better off being deceived, or that you're a bad person for even questioning your wife. How dare you have doubts or concerns! Don't you know that as a male, you're not supposed to have fears? You should also know that if a woman has carried a baby to term, she's automatically a paragon of virtue, and calling that into question makes you a bad person. Even if the baby is not yours, the honorable thing to do is never find out, but stay with the unfaithful woman and raise another man's offspring as if it were your own. Sarcasm off.Get the test, but do it in secret. It's not known how many men are unknowingly raising another man's child, but some estimates are as high as 20%. That's 1 in 5! You deserve to know. No one should have to go through life with those kinds of suspicions. Get the test. You have a right to know if the child you're about to spend two decades of your life raising is actually yours.Definitely DO NOT tell your wife about your suspicions, or about the test. While it's very noble of you to want to be upfront and honest, there is literally no advantage to telling her, and plenty of downsides to it.If the child is yours, at best your wife will only be hurt by the accusation, and you're likely to damage your relationship with her permanently. A person can get over being cheated on, but they'll never get over the accusation of being a cheater. It would be cruel to even tell her you suspect.If the child is NOT yours, then you do not want to let her know that you know. Not yet. Not until after you've made the decision of what you want to do about it. You may want to confront her, and leave open the chance to forgive her and work through this. You might also want a divorce. But you deserve to be able to make that decision in peace, allowing yourself time to weigh your options without being influenced by her reaction.If you decide you want a divorce, still do not tell her. Get your affairs in order and quietly obtain a lawyer. Quietly get all your personally important objects out of the house. All your important papers, sentimental stuff, anything that would be personally or financially hurtful for you to lose. Once you're ready, then file for divorce without telling her why. Keep that piece of information to yourself until it comes time to decide child support. Because that's the only time it will be important.