Why do I feel guilty when my parents spend money on me?
IMO, you feel guilty because you're in the process of becoming an adult and getting money from your parents makes you feel like you're regressing into childhood.As far as you can control these things, you shouldn't let it bother you too much. It's not that your parents don't mind sending you the money; they probably want to send it. It gives them reassurance that you are going to remain close to them even as you are maturing into a self-sufficient person.Bonus? Sending you money may cause them to like you more. SAPVoice: Do Me A Favor So You'll Like Me: The Reverse Psychology of Likeability
Is it normal to feel guilty when my parents spend money on me?
It’s not normal, but not for the reasons you’d guess.You see, spending money on children is normal as normal goes: that’s what parents do. Yet, if you feel troubled by it so much to ask on Quora, there’s a 2-step program you should follow: discuss this situation and problem with 1) yourself first, 2) your parents later.As an outsider, let me offer some points of view:it may be that you underestimate your parents’ spending capacity and worry for nothing;it may be that they indeed cannot afford much and sacrifice from themselves on your behalf. It’d be helpful to discuss this with them to tell it’s not needed;it may be that you’re well off, so their spending is not a problem but you fear they’ll try to use this spending as a leverage against you in the future (like “Oh we paid this and that, can’t you even do what we ask”). It’d be helpful to discuss this with them as an antagonistic relationship has no place in a healthy family;it may be that you like to live more spartan, so you find their spending excessive and uncalled for. Here you’d need to communicate your stance;So there’s my 4 cents. Don’t worry about your parents’ spending, worry about your worry. Clearly there’s some form of miscommunication between the parties.
I feel guilty when my parents spend money for me.?
I am a 13 year old boy, 14 in a month. I recently went shopping with my dad, bought 2 pair of shoes. 1 pair was for everyday use, as my previous pair were really damaged... the sole was coming off and there were a lot of holes on the sides. The previous shoes cost 80$, which my mom paid for. The 2nd pair was for American Football. I recently started this sport. I felt extremely guilty when I saw the total... The cleats cost 138$ The shoes were 110$ My dad spent 248$+ for me... When i was shopping for the shoes, my initial thought was that I wouldn't get something for more that 70$ Same thing for the cleats. But my dad kept telling me "Take whatever you like" When i saw the shoes, I told my dad "110$, that is too much" "No, no. Take whatever you like" Same thing for the cleats. I am also going through parental separation, which honestly, doesn't affect me that much. Them being both happy is what counts for me. My dad is CEO of a construction company, which of course, he makes a decent amount of money each year, but even then, i feel extremely guilty.I never brag about this. Most of my friends don't even know this. I overheard that he had trouble collecting money from his contractors and things weren't going very well regarding the company. He was supposed to buy me new pants, but I couldn't take it anymore. I told my dad that I was going to buy them with my mom next week. Just seeing the money come out of his wallet made me sick... Is this normal?
Why do i feel guilty whenever my parents spend money on me?
It's not like my family isn't bad financially, we're on the good side of average, but whenever my family spends money on me or my siblings i feel extremely guilty. Some of it is my fault, I ask for a lot of things that are usually pretty expensive (?) (Ex. A new 3ds, $200, 3ds games, $30/40, nintendo switch, $300) but whenever I actually get anything i ask for, i feel so guilty, like my parents are spending too much money on me. On top of that, my 2 sisters and i have all had braces at least twice, which is extremely pricey, they have to pay for my therapy/psychiatrist sessions, my medication and my new car that i didnt ask for. My mom even told me yesterday that our insurance would go up triple because we have a teenager driving (me, i'm 16.) Earlier, my mom was talking about buying our yearly Christmas decorations (new ornaments and plants) and i felt so bad. Is this normal? should i really be feeling bad about this?
Feel guilty about parents spending money?
When ever my mom or dad have to spend money on me. I feel guilty. I don't know why. I used to be spoiled as a kid, now that I have grown up, I feel bad when my parents spend money on me. For example, I am about to get into drivers ed. The classes and behind the wheel cost $400. I feel really bad about it! I wish I could pay my own way, but I can't. Any help on how to slow down my personal guilt?
Feel guilty about parents spending money for me?
I just graduated from high school and am going to college. I have a sister in college. My parents are middle-upper class. They each make between $80K-$100K a year before taxes (I found this out when I did my FAFSA). Anyway, our family are big baseball fans. My dad wanted to treat us to a Sox-Cubs game because we are big Sox fans. Which is awesome. We bought six tickets in all, including a couple friends going along. However, I feel guilty because it's a lot of money. It's a rivalry game first of all, so the tickets are expensve. For six tickets in the upper deck, it was over $300. And then there is parking and food. I feel guilty because that's a boatload of money. My parents are paying for half of our college education too and my sister is going to college as well. Also, the school I will be going to isn't cheap. My dad seems fine paying for this. We don't go on many vacations (we only stay in the Midwest), but I still feel guilty because this whole game could cost him over $400. How do I get over the guilt?
My parents make me feel guilty for spending my money on myself?
I have a job and I am only spending about 10-20% of my checks (which are small I make minimum wage) I am staring college in the fall and recently paid for my first month I had to borrow 100$ from my parents because my small loan has not come through yet. I have only had this job (my first job) for about 2 months and I have been working as much as I can and saving as much money as I can. I am buying all my own shampoo, toothpaste, deoderant, makeup, ect. But I am living at home rent free and I get free food. (I do help buy groceries sometimes). My mom told me yesterday that I spend more money on myself than she does on herself and I replied that I am in college and it is my money. My parents make enough money so I am not elegible for good financial aid or grants but because of previous credit card debt they cannot spend much. And my mom does not get to do many things for herself. I feel guilty for spendig my money on stuff now because I had to borrow the 100$ from them and they think I am not spending my money wisely. I know that I am 18 and I am responsible for paying for my education. The only thing I spent my money on that was not necessary was going to the fair with my friends. I don't want to feel guilty for spending some money on myself and I am saving most of it but my parents make it seem like I should never do anything that costs money and save every bit of it which is unrealistic since I have to pay for gas and other necessities. What should I do about this? Should I talk to them about it like I have tried to before?
I feel bad when my parents spend money on me?
I grew up living with my mom, who is poor. I always felt bad when she would spend money on me. I live with my dad right now. I'm almost 18. And my dad has more money than my mom does, so he agrees to buy me stuff. I want new clothes, he will give me money. I want a video game, he will buy it for me. And then he gives me lunch money every week for school. I don't really ask for much because I'm so used to not having money. I've told my dad I feel guilty when he buys me stuff, but he says he doesn't understand why
I am 22, still in college and I feel guilty spending my parents' money on luxuries. Is that normal?
Discuss this question with your Dad directly.Most probably , you will get answer 'Beta! tu maje le'.Because you are a responsible son who knows his limit otherwise this question won't come in your mind and your Dad knows this.Source: my experience with my Dad who is a farmer.