Why do parents spank their children?
I'm a 13 year old girl and i totally hate when my parents criticize me. I think parents need to understand that kids have a mind of their own and if they keep spanking or criticizing their child, the child will hate them. I mean if i was a parent I would talk thinks out with my child and support them in every safe way. I would not lay a finger on them. I know you guys don't care what I say but give me a chance...its from a teens perspective. Also, most of the time, when the parent criticize the child, don't you think when the child goes to school they would be stressed out and fall behind? "God, I'm so stupid my own parents hate me...I give up! i don't care anymore!" I don't think this is fair because, the child is getting bullied at home and at school. This may lead the child to commit suicide. (which IS NOT good)
Why do parents spank their children?
this is to storyinthephoto : do you enjoy hurting my feelings do you talk like that to your own children if you do you must be a rubbish mother yo made me cry ahats wrong with you if you don't say sorry or i will report you i just wish we had less people like you in our world there is a world for people like you its called prison
Should Parents Spank their Children?
I am a 16 year old female, and is currently writing a research paper about spanking. I think it is very idiotic that people think children shouldnt be spanked. My parent spanked me and I came out fine. I have a 4.0 and am doing well in school and i have the right friends, and my relationship with my parents are fine. It is not ABUSIVE! How is spanking abusive. I dont see how it can be. Its teaching them a lesson. It is not teaching kids to hit other kids. I would never in my right mind think about getting my anger out on hitting another person. I think that when you dont get spanked, it teaches you the fact that you could get away with more. The whole talking to your child, and getting down on their level, is a sign of weakness. If you talk to your child calmly, how are you goign to get the point across that your trying to teach them? They might say yes, but really, there going to go back and do it again. This is from a teenagers perspective. I dont see any faults in spanking. I have been spanked and my brother and my currently little sister is still getting spanked, and she is one of the most well rounded people i know. I think spanking is beneficial,and it has a good impact on children. Children become more disciplined. I've seen it at my high school. Kids who have been disciplined by spanking are the kids that are excelling more. My good friend that wasnt disciplined is now pregnant because she didnt have a supportive, disciplinary father, and she got knocked up. i think it is a very good way to discipline children and i am looking forward to haveing kids(beilieve me). But if they are being naughty of course i am going to spank them. Its not abusive what so ever.
Why do parents "spank"/ "hit' their children?
People hit their children because, usually, they were brought up in that negative way themselves, and do not know any better. In addition, since we know that violence increases anger, they probably have hidden or subconscious anger left over from having been hit by their parents, and they are (probably not deliberately) taking revenge by hitting their own children to continue the cycle. It's why serious abuse (ie violence that leaves marks and does lasting physical damage) and sexual abuse also go in cycles - a mixture of ignorance and the need to be avenged. It's very sad that, in today's more enlightened society, more adults are not aware of non-coercive fully engaged parenting methods that are pretty much guaranteed to raise self-confident, mature children who are unlikely to want to do anything negative. When parents spend time listening to their children, and empathising with their feelings and helping them figure out positive ways to behave, then true discipline (ie teaching) happens without any need for punishment. Of course in a few societies such as the US, the problem is worse because parents get so little maternity leave that they have no opportunity to raise their children in positive ways - and they're constantly tired and stressed, so don't take the time to listen to their children and help them, instead resorting to anger :-(
Do parents in England spank their children?
I know corporal punishment is outlawed in English schools, but parents are still allowed to spank. Do they spank? In America corporal punishment in schools is still allowed in nearly half of the states, and parents in all states can spank and DO. Do English parents spank their kids in public sometimes like Americans do? For instance, sometimes American parents spank their kids in the store and other public places. Does this happen in England?
In the Jewish faith, do parents spank their children... and if so, is this the case with all Jewish families?
You seem to wonder whether a "whooping" would be an option for a lad who has became Bar Mitzvah. Well, traditionally that is the time when the lad becomes a "man" and is counted as such; a time when he becomes personally responsible for keeping the Commandments (all 613 of them). For breaking into someone's home or other serious criminal activities, then as a "man" shouldn't he be subject to the laws of the land, criminal prosecution, etc.? Probably not now much practiced, but in Tanakh don't you find that even adults, men, sometimes were 'beaten with rods' [usually limited to 39 strokes] and maybe other corporal punishments. Also there was stoning, a capital punishment. Tanakh stresses on fathers (parents) bringing up their children in the "nurture and admonition of the Lord". Just read Deuteronomy, and the Shema. The emphasis seems to be on teaching/instruction and on example. ======================================... Apart from the "Jewish" aspect ... if the family/home environment was basically good ... sometimes teens do tend to become a bit rebellious (or 'testing' the limits). I think, especially beyond about 14, a parent should not force a "spanking" on a teen. I mean, we teens no way want to be spanked but often will reluctantly accept it if we know we "earned" it. And a spanking, in the teens, does make it very clear as to who is boss and that we are not. Another testing time might be when the driver's licence is involved. And then, also, when they are off to college, away from home, different environment, different friends. They may decide to "goof off", even though dad is paying the tuition, etc. A visit back home could involve a warning that he either straightens up or dad stops paying. Sometimes a one-time reminder of their earlier days, having to BEND over for the belt, can be the added incentive to STRAIGHTEN UP.
Should parents spank their children?
Yes. Its easy to look at all the bratty activity going on since parents stopped spanking their kids. The have no discipline, no manners, theyre obnoxious and sickening. They dont have any respect for anyone or anything and they dont appreciate c.r.a.p. Spank the little monster, thats what I say.